OPINION: It may be a man’s world, but women seem to be “bosso’’

2017-04-13 06:02
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I have been grappling with two questions in my mind.

Mind you, these are simple questions, yet seem too difficult for this lowly columnist to answer.

Who wears the pants between men and women? And who’s the boss?.

It’s a known fact that these days, womenfolk prefer wearing jeans and tights over all else, which is a far cry from the olden days of skirts or dresses. This millennial habit has led to many theories, one of which is that of equality.

Men don’t often take kindly to this slacks business, I know.

Most men reason that there are bound to be problems when both parties in a relationship wear pants– who’s wifey and who’s hubby.

Also spare a thought for a man whose woman spots a smile wider than his-on account of her bank balance- come month end.

I should think it’s natural that men should top the earnings pile, this mentality having been passed down from generation to generation.

I am not suggesting going back to the era of dresses and skirts, but merely highlighting the state of the nation as it were now.

I can imagine that during arguments, these days it must be difficult for men to suddenly yell: “Hey, watch it, remember who wears the pants in this house!” Thabo Mbeki – and to some extent Mandoza – came up with the 50-50 notion, a ‘system’ that divides opinion equally between partners.

Menfolk grumble that their better halves seem to be afforded more rights than is necessary in our society.

Well, I can only come to the conclusion that the issue of who wears the pants has taken a new twist over the years.

Look at all that happens inside most households in our communities. Men are under siege from their bossy romance partners.

The natural order of things is that the man calls the shots and his every word counts.

This reminds me of a fellow who used to stay a rifle's shot from my place some years ago.

He was a man of a quiet demeanour and a recluse. He was a family man, though, and I could not help but notice that he was doing more than his fair share of the chores around the house. What with curiosity always getting the better of me; I would keep a beady eye on him every time I walked past his place.

Poor chap would be either washing the dishes or doing the laundry or washing kid’s nappies.

You never saw much of the wife, although the gossip mill insisted she was around.

He always also seemed to hold exclusive rights to running to the neighbourhood spaza shop to buy a loaf of bread.

Predictably the rumour mill went on overdrive; that the missus was “bosso”. In all fairness, what harm could an arrangement of that sort cause between a couple, I thought.

I suppose the conservatives would frown in that set up, though.

Even as impressionable kids we knew which tasks were for momma and poppa.

It seems these days a woman only needs to say ‘jump’ and, without asking how high, man is expected to take leap.

Recently, a friend of mine was telling me about how he was planning to have a few drinks at his place, before his fairly new girlfriend called to say she would be coming over.

Problem was my pal knew that the new girlfriend did not take kindly to grog.

She was busy cooking in the kitchen when my guy crept to the freezer, took out a cold one, discreetly tried to open it to avoid the squish sound, by which point he thought to himself why he should subject himself to such abuse. “Why can’t I enjoy a drink after a long day at work,” he reasoned.

“That’s women for you, my brother,” I quipped. I guess that is my answer to the two questions.

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