Obey God’s rules to sustain marriage

2017-11-02 06:00
House of truthThembile Ndabeni

House of truthThembile Ndabeni

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Marriage is about God its author and those involved. According to Genesis 2:24- (NIV): “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh”.

God is always having a purpose and was, is and will always be perfect, the Father of us all. At the end of the day marriage is about the author and what He wants to achieve. God is the centre in the joining of the two getting married and make them one. Therefore being at the centre God is conjunction. When the conjunction joins two sentences they are no longer two sentences but one.

This is why in the book Genesis 2:24, after being joined by God the two married become one. Nowhere are the in-laws involved in the beginning stage in the making of a marriage, they are just mentioned.

They come late in the picture of the marriage. And the most ones that matter are the ones of the he because the she is joined to the he, and not the other way round. Then the family of the he has got a responsibility of giving good treatment to the she, their daughter-in-law. Even the in-laws of the he do not have a right of taking a centre stage in the marriage life of a couple.

But there is a tendency of the in-laws wanting to run the marriage. If they do, don’t they undermine the author, God? The book Revelation, 22:18-19-NIV, say “I warn everyone who hears the words of the prophecy of this scroll: If anyone adds anything to them, God will add to that person the plagues described in this scroll.

And if anyone takes words away from this scroll of prophecy, God will take away from that person any share in the tree of life and in the Holy City, which are described in this scroll”. What is surprising is that some of the families who disrespect God by tampering with marriages are church-goers, and some saved.

What about the wife who doesn’t respect her husband? The book says the wife will be saved through child-bearing if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety (1 Timothy 2:15). Some women have committed adultery with priests.

Here they have both committed a sin. The Book states that there are false priests whose aim is to serve their dishonest gain (Titus1:11-NIV).

Those who claim or are believers must not be hypocrites but real children of God. How can they respect God if they don’t respect His rules and institutions? Same applies to children; they must obey God through His rules. One of the 10 commandments says “Honour your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you” (Exodus 20:12-NIV).

Children are part of marriage. They too must obey His commands. As much as The Holy Bible says children must honor their parents, it also cautions parents not to provoke their children (Ephesians 6: 1-4-NIV). To men the Word says “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church” (Ephesians 5:25-NIV). The Word goes further “Husbands, in the same way, treat your wives with consideration as a delicate vessel, and with honour as fellow heirs of the gracious gift of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered” (1 Peter 3:7-NIV).

Whoever tampers with the marriage must know that, on one hand is destroying what God made, and on the other hand is entertaining the devil who hates marriage. Marriage leads to family and family leads to stability and therefore happiness. Without a marriage there won’t be a stable society or society at all. That is the wish of the devil. Our society is hasty drifting towards the direction. Over and above what intruders do is the ones joined in marriage themselves, both not wanting to prioritize their marriage over other people except God Of course!

The other is ill-treatment, abuse from both side with women being democracy-minded than God driven!

On one hand, men would go and spend most time with his and not their friends leaving the women lonely.

Loneliness results in a woman looking for company, concubine. On the other hand, out of ill-treatment men wake up and go to shebeens/taverns where they get the second wife that wouldn’t ill-treat them, “bottle” (beer/brandy and any “drink”).

The Holy Bible says the married must follow the footsteps of the parents of the Believers, Abraham and Sara. Referring to women of the past and the husbands the Bible says “They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord”. You are her daughters if you do what is right. Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers” (1 Peter 3:6-7- NIV). By so doing wives would be what are expected of them to be in Proverbs chapter 31:10-31, titled “The Wife of Noble Character”.

From both a cultural and belief point men and women are not equal. Culturally, men are heads. That is also justified by what is expected of them even by the very people especially women when it comes to taking full responsibility for the welfare of the household. In our belief systems as well, The Holy Bible says “Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” (1 Tim 5:8-NIV). Obviously that is referring to a man. It is not expected of any Christian or person who claims to be a Christian to talk about equality between man and woman.

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