Today I want to try and bring out something that has gotten me confused in the past weeks. I hope that by the time I finish this piece my confused state of mind would be fine. We are again in the so called Women’s Month where for once again anything you do against women and children is put under intense spotlight. It is in line with the slogan: ‘wathint’ abafazi wathint’ imbokodo. It is all well and good but having certain dates dedicated to celebrate or observe a particular event, does not cut it as I believe it should be something we do on a daily basis. Take Mandela day for instance. On this day we see people doing good. Yet some pretend to be doing good. A couple of hours later they don’t even remember who you are. They will wait again until the following year to repeat the cycle.It is from this perspective that I wanted to find out exactly whether we are going about these the right way.Are we really sincere while doing these. I believe we should stop following the status quo and learn to do things our way. By this I mean we need not wait until there is a holiday to celebrate something. By doing so we are acting in remote control mode. It is just like operating your TV set and if you feel like watching this today you do so. It seems as if there is someone out there who controls everything and we behave like sheep, just following orders, with no questions asked. Next month, it will be heritage day and we do braais.Then we observe the not-so-popular Father’s day then we go and pretend to love our fathers. Is this not a game? I believe if we could do all those things as a daily routine, then we will not be under any pressure to pretend to be doing something special on these days. Still on the women’s month, people need to understand that not only during August do they need to show that they care. It should be a daily bind. If we only limit this to these days, it defeats the purpose. We need to get in the habit of always doing good and living a normal life. That way we will not worry about being reminded to observe certain dates. Maybe that way the government might even cancel some of the holidays as there won’t be a need for them. Oops, maybe annulling a holiday will not go down well with most as Mzantsi people love their celebrations. Can we bring back Ubuntu so as to undo the present status quo.I started off saying maybe my confused state of mind would change, alas, things remain the same.