Women please love yourself enough to know when to exit an abusive relationship. Learn to love yourself enough to not degrade your value, if love is no longer served in the table, then feel free to up and go to another restaurant. I mean come on, you sacrifice your life, your time and your values, all in the name of love, whereas you are receiving only a small order for a big price. Don’t loose your dignity by trying to retrieve spilt milk, accept defeat and move on. In any relationship, whether its a romantic one or a work relationship, if you feel that its a lost cause, then take a hike mntasekhaya. Susan on Muvhango sacrificed a lot even when she was called a commoner(mukhanda ); was accused of witchcraft and almost burnt at the stake, and sacrificed her own life so that her husband could get back his manhood and gave him an heir, she is still treated as a slave in her own household, while others are treated like royalty. Yes, we do that even at work; you come early, submit your work on time, share your ideas to save the company, yet you don’t get any recognition, whatsoever. If you feel suffocated and unappreciated, then cut your loses and leave because the grass is greener on the other side. Don’t wait for a hero to save you, save yourself at the earliest realisation that you are being exploited and settle for being queen and not a cleaner.