Apostolic Faith Mission Pastor Lukiwe Mthwaze has urged women to speak about the abuses they face in the hands of their partners. She said breaking the silence would avoid fatalities in relationships and also open the opportunity to seek help. Mthwaze was addressing a group of women at a High Tea event in Bothasig. “We do not have to keep quiet about these abuses ... What happens is that when we keep quite, we are perpetuating the situation. When we keep quite we say to the abuser it’s okay to abuse me,” she said. The pastor said the silence would also give a wrong impression to children. “When you keep quiet you are also saying to the girl and a boy child who is watching, “its okay to be abused”.As a woman, as a mother let us not keep quiet,” she added. She said abuse towards women is unhealthy and it should be identified as such. “When we expose the abuses we are also giving the opportunity for the perpetrator to be helped because there are lots of reasons why these perpetrators do what they do. It goes with the psychological, it goes with lots of things and then they take their frustrations on women, they also need help,” said Mthwaze. Women also discussed several topics ranging from health, social and their economic involvement to empower women. “Women are anchors in their families, there are several homes that are headed by women. These kinds of sessions give us opportunity to further empower a woman. We just had a session on how to keep our bodies health so that we will be able to care for the family,” added the pastor. Research conducted in the past five years by the Human Sciences Research Council (HSRC) and the South African Race Relations Institute (SARRI) found that 60 percent of SA children have absent fathers, and more than 40 percent of South African mothers are single parents.