Women, define your role

2015-09-23 06:00
Advocate Kuni Ditira, Author

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DO young women have a different role from young men? The role of young women in the 21st century is different from the role of young women in earlier centuries. In the past it was easy because the place of women was in the kitchen.

Whilst growing up women were groomed to be housewives and to take care of a family. You were taught to cook and bake, to do washing, to knit and to mend socks, and other household chores. These days both girls and boys are expected to wash dishes.

These days you will find women in the boardroom and doing jobs which were previously reserved for men. Sometimes it feels like women have to compete with men to assert themselves. It feels like women have to be like men to fit in the role which was mainly male dominated.

Unfortunately we were not groomed for boardroom politics. The cut-throat mentality is so against a woman’s nature. Women have natural skills and talents of caring and empathy, which sometimes does not belong in the boardroom.

For me the young woman in the 21st century is a woman who is still looking for and determining her place in this universe. She is still open to be guided and prepared to learn. She is not only an academic student but a student of life. If she is married then she could still be new in this status.

If she has a child chances are she is growing up with her child. These are the women who have been born in the age of science and technology. A liberated woman, she has human rights. She can now achieve whatever she sets her mind to.

This is a woman who sees opportunities instead of limits and obstacles. She knows that she can survive against all odds.

She has many role models – she can be Mother Theresa, she can be Margaret Thatcher, she can be Nkosazana Dlamini-Zuma etc. She knows that there are pioneers who came before her and who have built the path that she wants to take. She cannot imagine women not driving a car, or piloting an aircraft, or being a doctor, a judge, a priest, a lawyers etc. She is proud of her femininity and does not have to beg people to give her her human rights. She knows that she can be a loving wife, mother and career woman and does not have to choose.

If she were to choose not to have children or get married, it will be her choice and she doesn’t have to care who has a problem with that.

In the 21st century she can either be her own enemy or friend. Only she can limit herself. She has to jealously guard the achievements of those who came before her and be proud of them.

We must not cast our pearls before the swine. A young woman in the 21st century must not rely on other people to advance in life. Her destiny is not in other people’s hands. She does not have to degrade herself to advance in life.

As young women we must stay pure and we must make correct choices as every choice has a consequence. God has given you brains and wisdom – use that. God has given you a conscience to know if you are doing right or wrong.

Don’t listen to naysayers. If you can imagine it, you can achieve it. Don’t talk negatively about yourself. You are great and you are nobody’s carbon copy. Don’t doubt yourself and your abilities.

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