Bad encounters could turn out for the best

2019-04-10 06:00
Ponane Mahlaba, social observer

Ponane Mahlaba, social observer

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Admittedly, no one wants bad things happening to him or her.

Receiving bad news from a friend or family member can cause us emotional pain.

Various factors, either from people closest to us or from natural circumstances surrounding us, may be blamed for the pain.

Pain can be caused delibe­rately or can be self-inflicted.

The purpose for which such pain was intended, will be revealed through the outcome of it.

A famous life-coach and sociologist once said: “Sometimes pain is a good mechanism towards growing one’s potential to maturity”.

Once while visiting my in-laws in Krugerdorp, I was told a fascinating story by an aged man about his experience when he went to a doctor for a regular check-up.

Upon the doctor instructing him to lie on the bed, on his back and face-up, he received punches from the doctor on both sides of his aching body.

Then, he was told to rise and step out as the next patient was called in.

He said while sitting, the pain subsided, and he regained a big amount of consciousness.

The second experience is that of a mother rat and her young ones.

In 2017, while I was sitting in the shade of a tree at home, I was the witness of this incident.

I watched a rat whisking its four young ones away – one after the other, to what I call a safer place nearby – with her sharp premolars thrusted into the babies’ neck.

I watched with pity and in dismay, imagining what it would feel like if it was me.

Having come to my senses, I realised that it was not in the interest of this caring mother-rat to harm her young ones.

Instead, she caused them this pain to show how much she cared about them.

One incident that really touched me, is an advert shown on television in which the characters are an aged married couple.

The husband was bothered by a swarm of house flies, and his wife took a newspaper and tried to kill the flies by pressing them against the husband’s forehead.

However, this was a failed attempt.

When missing the flies, the husband beared the brunt of it.

How true is it of the way other things turn out in life!

I can imagine how the man, forgiving his wife for hurting him unintentionally, was yet most thankful that he got some relief from the plight of flies.

I would like to advise fellow citizens that sometimes in life – through circumstances – we are surrounded with factors seemingly intended to hurt us.

But on the contrary these factors might turn out positively to bring us gain.

Dr David Molapo once said: “We definitely have no reason to get stuck to our painful past when there is plenty of opportunities for us available to move on and only remember them when they do us any good. Such can only be used as a place of reference, not residence.”


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