Be present in your child’s life

2019-05-29 06:02
Victoria Nkosi Social Observer

Victoria Nkosi Social Observer

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When it comes to parenthood, co-parenting is very important. Parents, married or not, have the same responsibilities to raising and taking care of their children.

A father cannot blame the mother for not teaching their son or daughter about safe sex, using a condom and abstinence, and all that matters.

That girl is his too, and therefore it is his responsibility to make sure that he also plays his part by talking to her as his child.

Many women are blamed for bad parenthood because “her” daughter fell pregnant out of wedlock and some were even left by their husbands because she apparently didn’t teach the girl what’s right and wrong from the beginning.

However, I know there are also women who blame fathers for not grooming a boy to be obedient.

They accuse men of drinking alcohol with friends and neglecting the responsibility.

I have seen this blaming game a lot.

Honestly as parents, we try our best to do what’s right for our children so that they are better off than us.

However, it is also up to them.

Nobody has control over what their children is exposed to and the decisions they will make at some point to determine failure or success.

If you are a parent, play a role in raising your children, teach them and ask what is happening in their lives.

Be an active parent – that is your duty.

Never automatically assume because you are a man you cannot speak to your daughter, or because you are a woman you cannot talk to your son.

As parents you must work as a team to raise your children so that you can at least attest that you did try to guide them on the right path.

The proudest parents should be those who are there physically, spiritually and in all ways practically.

Financial support and other basic needs are just some of the things that must be provided by parents.

The biggest contribution however is education and presence in your child’s life.

Do not leave everything just to one parent and then take credit for all the good things in your child’s life.

If the child does something disappointing, do not point fingers or blame yourself, you did your best and that’s what matters.

Heed the parenting expert Sue Atkins’s advice: “There is no such thing as a perfect parent. So just be a real one.”


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