Discipline with love From the principal’s office Danelene Meyer

2016-05-25 06:00
DANELENE MEYER, principal of New Horizon.  Sketch: Marlene de Beer

DANELENE MEYER, principal of New Horizon. Sketch: Marlene de Beer

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DISCIPLINE starts at home. If you allow your child to do as they wish once, expect it a second, third, fourth time . . . over and over again.

Speaking is Danelene Meyer, principal of New Horizon School in Bethlehem.

How many times have I sat down in a restaurant and saw that parents have no control over their children – running around, standing on the furniture, screaming, interrupting their parents’ conversation and, worst of all, cellphones at the dinner table. All of this boils down to the lack of discipline.

We do not raise little soldiers. We are blessed with children and God entrusted them to our care, therefore we must raise human beings that will not just make us proud, but be acceptable in society and above all, live life according to God’s will.

Raising and disciplining a child is each and every parent’s responsibility.

Discipline starts with you, the parent. It is your responsibility to raise a well-mannered, well-disciplined child.

When your child leaves home without you – regardless of the age – the child is the “newspaper” of your family.

The way a teacher experiences your child is the way you have raised him or her.

Raising and disciplining your loved ones is a daily and continuous activity. If your child can interrupt your conversations, he or she will interrupt any other conversation, as this is normal to them.

Why should they act differently if this is how they were raised?

A parent who expects the pre-school to potty-train their child and not also be involved, is an uninvolved parent. A parent who expects of the teachers to teach a child manners or to teach right from wrong, is an uninvolved parent. A parent who allows his or her child to talk to others as they wish, is an irresponsible parent.

Yes, the pre-school will help you to potty-train your toddler. The school and teachers will continue to develop, teach and guide your children, but we cannot do all of this without the help of the parents.

Routine is extremely important and goes hand-in-hand with discipline.

A child who has routine, who knows what will happen if he or she misbehaves, has structure in his or her life.

A child with structure is a happy child. Children thrive on structure, they perform better academically and in society.

In the end, with all the books, resources and guidance from our families, we must just be parents. Love unconditionally.

Being a parent to your child is the most important thing you can ever be. Money cannot buy happiness, money does not buy manners and money does not teach discipline. Only a parent can do this.

Be an involved parent. Go watch a netball or football match, pack a lunch box and spend quality time with your child. Get to know your child, what he or she likes, dislikes, thinks is acceptable and what not.

Learn from your child. Set the rules and, most importantly, stick to the rules you have made.

Out of the principal’s office




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