Do not doubt and second-guess yourself

2016-09-07 06:00
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SOMETIMES we stay in situations, hoping things will improve.

However, sometimes it is better to pack up and go.

How do you know that this is the right decision?

I often second-guess myself.

If I make a decision, I will later ask myself whether or not it was a wise decision.

Should I have stayed longer?

Could I have changed the situation?

Unfortunately you cannot use other people as a yardstick, as our characters are different.

Some people are able to withstand pressure, whilst others can crack due to pressure.

Sometimes the situation at work becomes unbearable. If you talk to people they are always complaining about their work.

They think it will be better if they can take up another job.

Unfortunately, the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence.

Somebody said the grass may be greener because it is watered that side.

So water your side and improve your situation where you are.

Problems in marriages sometimes make you just flee the situation.

If you are outside the marriage looking in, you will have all of the best advice for the couple.

The problem is that you are not in the shoes of that person.

What some people are able to tolerate, others will not.

Tolerating bad situations does not make the other person bad.

It may mean that there are considerations that you are not aware of. Your advice may not work in that situation.

Even when the situation is intolerable, there is always hope that things will improve.

No person is completely black or completely white.

People who are abused will tell you that.

It is not every day that there is no peace at home.

A person may have changed midstream and you are still hoping that the old character will resurface.

You are remembering the good old days and hope that they will come back to that.

Sometimes you are afraid to pack your suitcase and go, as you do not know where to go to.

You continue in an abusive relationship because it is the only life you know. You may have nowhere to go.

This is what you are used to. You are afraid of loneliness.

You decide to do it and then come the doubts.

You want to phone and find out how the person, who you left, is.

You now remember all the good things.

After some time you even forget what the reason was that made you pack your suitcase.

Any decision has pros and cons. Any person has bad and good in them. We have to supress the bad so that the good can surface.

You will doubt your decision, but at the time when you made your decision, you were sure it was the right decision.

So do not second-guess yourself. You can still reverse and go back.

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