Do you really know yourself?

2018-12-12 06:02
Advocate Kuni Ditira - Social Observer

Advocate Kuni Ditira - Social Observer

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Do other people know you better than you know yourself?

Should you listen to the view of other about yourself?

I was always of the view that I know myself and believe that no one can or would tell me anything about myself.

I know what I am thinking. I know what makes me tick. I know who I am.

However, I read in an old magazine the other day that sometimes you may not see what other people see. They gave an example of this girl who was a drug addict and her friends and family tried to show her what the drugs were doing to her.

She never believed them until one day she woke up in her own vomit in a very dirty apartment. She could not remember how she got there and what happened to her. At that moment she saw what all the other people were seeing.

Remember the Biblical story in Luke 15:11-32 (The Parable of the Lost Son) about the son who took all his legacy and used it unwisely?

He woke up one day sharing food with pigs due to famine in the land. He came to his sense and recall that his father’s servants eat better than the pods he wanted to fill his stomach with – the pods meant for the pigs.

Sometimes, our friends and family see that we are being abused. Abuse is not only physically but could also be emotional. They may see that the partner or spouse is just using you to their own benefit, and that what you think is love is not love.

At that stage your eyes are closed to the truth. You may be giving your all to the relationship and receive little in return.

Sometimes it is not only relationships. Sometimes people notice some behaviour or characteristic that you are not aware of.

You may be a very cold and distant person who does not allow people to get near you.

You may want you own company and want to live alone.

But in this world we live together and somehow, we share a space. The way you are, may be working for you but may be affecting your relationship with others.

These days, very young people are abusing drugs and alcohol. You may not see yourself as an alcoholic or an addict because you only drink during weekends.

If you could sit down and reflect, you will see the effects of your behaviour on your work, family and friends.

Alcohol and drugs are fashionable these days. We brag about how much alcohol we are consuming or how expensive that alcohol is we are consu­ming.

One colleague said we are negative against smoking, yet we allow the consumption of alcohol which is the worst drug.

Cigarettes – most of the time – will affect only the smoker but alcohol destroys families.

We think, “I will never be an alcoholic”.

The fact that you binge during weekends and do not know your limit, already is a sign that you are on your way to become an alcoholic.

It will be wise just to stop, reflect and ask yourself whether others are not telling the truth.


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