Don’t destroy good deeds

2019-10-16 06:02
Ponane Mahlaba Social Observer

Ponane Mahlaba Social Observer

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Do not kick the same cow that gives you milk. In a sense this expression sounds a bit idiomatic.

However, let me explain and give some background for it.

In a simpler literal term, in the context of human relationships, it would mean acknow­ledge the good that people do for you, for you might need it again in the future.

Let me draw your attention to some of the personal experiences that I had in the past.

My siblings and I used to sleep in a small apartment where mice were a common sight.

At the same time there was a cat that was kept for the sake of getting rid of the mice.

This cat was teased and it turned on me viciously, scratching me on the left arm, leaving me with deep wounds.

I retaliated by chasing it and it ran away, disappearing in the dark, only to return with a dead wild rat in its mouth.

Even though I acted out of anger wanting to kill the cat, I abruptly changed my attitude and instead appreciated what it did – killing that rat which caused havoc.

Another example is that of an ethically indigenous group of people who once lived in a wild neighbourhood.

They are known for their fighting. They would pick up even cutlery to throw at each other, without caring if anyone gets hurt.

When the fighting ensues to a higher degree, no one could separate them easily.

Sometimes people have serious misunderstandings to an extent that they turned their backs on each other.

They may not be aware that they might benefit from each other indirectly in the future.

My other experience, was when one fellow Christian and I had a serious issue over a long time, without being resolved. We even sought for a peaceful intervention from others.

One day I attended a church service. I was quite familiar with the preacher of the day. The preacher approached me unexpectedly and asked me to borrow him a certain amount of money.

He disclosed that the money was meant for the same person I had differences with.

Upon mentioning the name of the implicated person, I got terribly shaken from within. But quickly got at peace with myself.

The same Christian fellow realised that his financial need has been resolved by me and not the preacher, but shockingly he never showed any sign of remorse.

From this one realises that even though we have differences in relationships there are times when we expect good from the same people we differed from.

So, indeed we sometimes kick the same cow that might give us milk in future.


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