Forgiveness a present for yourself

2016-09-28 06:00
NEO MOKHOA, social observer.

NEO MOKHOA, social observer.

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FORGIVENESS seems like the hardest thing to do when you are wronged.

If we are hurt by the people whom we have loved and trusted, it is not easy to forgive.

We all know that people are bound to err, but most of the time we fail to understand this aspect of human behaviour.

Often, we do not forgive because we think that the other person does not deserve our forgiveness.

The reason is that we feel like the trust has been violated intentionally and that the other party should have known better and should have done better to avoid the mistake.

The sad reality about pain is that sometimes we are the cause of our own pain.

Yes, sometimes we do harm to ourselves, both physically and mentally.

Although it is not always intentional, we all have that one thing we wish we could have done differently, simply because it did not just affect us, but also those who are close to us.

It may be a maths test you failed to practise hard enough for, or simply loving the wrong people and allowing bad habits into our lives.

I, for one, have many things I would change if given the chance. When I think of my mistakes, I remember that I am only human and that mistakes actually make me wise.

Pain is inevitable. No matter how cautious we would like to be, how protective of our feelings we may become or how far away we keep our hearts from our sleeves, the very people we love dearly and the things we cherish will at some point be the cause of pain.

Pain can change one’s perception of certain situations and one’s feelings towards other people. It can totally change the whole dimension of one’s perspective.

Pain can change a person in a good or a bad way – depending on how it is dealt with.

Forgiveness is one of the most difficult things to offer other people when one is wronged.

However, it is also one of the most effective and necessary processes of life. It is important that we forgive. We grow from our mistakes and through life’s hard lessons.

Forgiveness makes a person whole. It is only when we are whole that we can be patient and bear with one another in love.

Forgiveness is the best gift one can present to oneself.

Every person makes mistakes, including you. So while you are forgiving others, remember to also forgive yourself.

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