Do introverts not like people?The problem starts when you expect people to be like you, to like what you like, to behave how you behave and to have the same values as you. I am an introvert. I used to like to read and to sleep and to just be alone. I enjoy my company more than going out and being with people. As an introvert I had to adapt to do work which needs me to be an extrovert.Experts have found that the brains of extroverts and introverts are different. It is not just imaginary or behavioural issues. Extroverts are more focused on the external world and introverts on the internal world. My grand-nephew would rather stay alone at home instead of going with his parents to visit or to go to parties. He enjoys reading and watching television. My late sister, even when we were together as a family and were having fun, would insist after some time to go to her place. There is nothing wrong with that. I would go into a party and just sit there and look at people. I have on occasion found something to read whilst other people were partying. My late brother-in-law one day picked me up from work and I talked to him. He was so amazed and said he never knew I could talk. I could not make small talk.Sometimes I wonder why extroverts waste so much time to talk, instead of concentrating on doing the task. I had to learn to make small talk about the weather and other issues. It is said that seriously extroverted people tend to be sociable, excitement seeking and carefree. They are often aggressive and may lose their temper quickly. Strongly introverted people tend to be quite reserved and have few friends. However, experts state that we need both qualities to be balanced. Experts say that an extrovert gets a lot of energy from being around others and being focused on people – people energise them. Introverts on the other hand, feel drained after spending time with people – people drain their energy. Introversion and extroversion do not describe how shy you are, or whether you can handle a social situation, or whether you are a good leader. Many people misunderstand this and think that being outgoing is a prerequisite for leadership. Introverts learn how to cope with the world and can be great leaders. If I am quiet and just need to be alone, it does not mean that I am angry or have psychological issues. The challenge is to know when a person is sad, hurt or angry. There is a difference, and people staying with you will learn to know the difference. I am of the view that we need both extroverts and introverts. The world will be boring if we only had introverts or extroverts. We need both for the world to function. ) Express welcomes anyone to contribute to the weekly column. There is no payment for writers. Send your opinion piece (not exceeding 500 words in Sotho, Tswana or English) via email to teboho. setena@volksblad. com. Writers are welcome to send articles of a spiritual nature.