Reader shares story of loss

2018-01-31 06:02
The late Dintle Pharasi.

The late Dintle Pharasi.

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Refilwe Raadt (16) of the Tototnyane Secondary School in Madipelesa has shared her story of how she lost her little sister-cousin, Dintle Pharasi, to bone cancer in 2015. She is still struggling to come to terms with the death and can only express her pain through pen and paper.

My beautiful sister-cousin’s name was Dintle Pharasi and she passed away after being diagnosed with bone cancer.

She was an energetic girl and started school in Danielskuil in 2011, before relocating to Madipelesa.

We became more close when she moved here, as we shared almost each and everything, since we were attending the same school.

My aunt is the one who noticed her uneven legs, which started to swell even more when she was in Gr. 2.

That same year she was referred from one hospital to the other, which resulted in her diagnosis, leading to her left leg being amputated.

Even though she loved going to school, she was forced to leave school, as the Chris Hani Baragwanath Hospital in Gauteng became her second home.

Struggling with the situation of Dintle being in and out of hospital continuously, my family was depending on my other aunt, Nthabi­seng Pharasi, who stayed with her on a full-time basis in hospital.

Aunt Nthabiseng passed away in 2012 after a short illness.

Dintle’s mother, Mpho Pharasi, fetched her in 2013 to move to Thabazimbi, where she returned to school and only went to the Chris Hani Baragwanahth Hospital for routine visits and medication.

Her condition worsened in 2015 and she was admitted to Hartswater’s Jane Syver Hospital.

Reality only struck me hard regarding the extent of her suffering when my granny and I visited her and found she could not eat anything, including her favourite foods, ice cream, yog­hurt and Sprite.

That was on 23 January 2015, where we saw the shadow of herself in her hospital bed.

I sat next to her on her hospital bed and she asked me where my phone was.

When I told her that it had been stolen at school, she felt sorry for me and she went to sleep.

I could not even say goodbye when we left and I was unaware that I was seeing her for the last time.

In that same month, Dintle’s health deteriorated to such an extent that she could no longer speak.

It went on until my granny was called to rush to the hospital, because there was nothing that the doctors could do to save her.

My family was informed that the only thing that could help keep my little, now weak sister-cousin comfortable, was the oxygen, which was reportedly expensive.

An agreement was reached between the hospital and my family to order the oxygen from Gauteng.

We were even promised that we would then be able to take her home when the oxygen arrived.

But our little Dintle could not wait any longer.

She was too weak and passed away.

By the time the oxygen car arrived at the hospital, it was 16:00, which was exactly the time when Dintle passed away.

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