Teach girls to be themselves

2018-06-19 06:00

STOP telling young girls that they need to settle down before the age of 21.

We all know those women, who go on to point out the failures of being a woman if this rule is not met.

We all know those families and friends who go on to question a woman’s worthiness, agenda and sexuality if she remains single for an extended period of time.

This is specifically for you.

Just. Stop.

Instead of teaching them how unworthy they will be if they are not attached by a certain age, teach young girls this.

Teach them the importance of knowing themselves, their needs, their wants.

Teach them that it is okay to fail.

Teach them compassion and the importance of gratitude.

Teach them to seek knowledge, both spiritual and secular.

Teach them to dream and to work hard to reach those dreams.

Teach them about finance and business, art and sport, politics and culture.

Teach them about the world as it is, as it was and as it should be.

Teach them geography.

Teach them about discrimination and hatred and, more importantly teach them about love, respect, friendship and to open their minds.

Teach them that life will get difficult sometimes and that, though it may get worse, it will still get better someday.

Teach them that there are others far worse off than they are, and that they should help where they can.

Teach them how to have a good attitude, even when everyone else has lost their minds.

Teach them the importance of self-respect and respect for others.

Yes, teach them that marriage is important, but teach them that it requires mental and emotional maturity to be successful.

Teach them the importance of compatibility.

Teach them the importance of true companionship and teach them about its challenges.

Teach them about what marriage truly means, instead of what cultural stereotypes and pop culture tell you it should be.

Teach them about being independent and how to recognise abuse. Teach to them that there is strength in vulnerability, and that falling apart is human.

Teach them that its okay to lose themselves, to get lost, to start over and completely change direction.

Teach them that you will support them, even when they hurt you or disappoint you.

Teach them to first be happy and content within themselves before searching for it with someone else.

Teach them to ask for help when they need it, and to stand alone when the time calls for it.

Teach them the importance of never just accepting something just because it’s what everyone else is doing or saying.

Teach them that, to gain true knowledge, questioning is important.

Teach them that no one person has the answer.

Teach them to be warriors, leaders, teachers, and students.

Teach them that there are some extraordinary people in the world, and they are one of them.

Teach your boys the same damn thing!

— HuffPost SA.

• Zarina Bahdur is a sport marketing and media professional.


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