Coping with bad-tempered children

2016-11-23 06:00

IT never ceases to amaze me how many people complain about their children’s bad tempers and have not the faintest idea what to do when they get angry.

We are often surprised and hurt by the things we hear our children say in anger, their hands folded across their chests - words like “I don’t love you anymore”.

Children say such things when they are angry and parents are often at a loss to respond to anything other than harsh words, curses and a good smack.

In truth, cursing and hitting the child is nothing more than a hasty reaction. To discipline the child some parents are confused about what they should do first when their child gets angry.

Should they focus on the cause of the anger or on the anger itself. It seems that seeking a solution for the cause of the anger is better than trying to remedy the anger itself.

If we are angry how can we expect our children to do so? It is important for us to raise our children to know how to stay calm and collected and deal with things in a rational manner. If we are neglectful in this, then we will have no recourse but to calm the child down when he or she gets angry and then try to find out how to deal with the cause of their anger

If the parent has a bad temper and is unable to control him or herself when the child gets angry, how can they fault their child for the same?

The parent is the role model - the child does what he or she sees their parent doing. Many parents address their children in a demeaning, stern tone, simply because their children are young and their mind have not matured.

It is a serious mistake for our children to feel unloved by their parents. This is especially the case when the child is being punished.

The feeling of love should be ever present even when administering bitter medicine. This is especially true since our children have hold of our hearts, and in spite of their tender years, they have an influence over us.

A.S.E Ameen via email

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