Surviving abuse

2016-10-12 06:00
PHOTO:nokuthula khanyile Maureen Zamagatsheni Ndlovu

PHOTO:nokuthula khanyile Maureen Zamagatsheni Ndlovu

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AFTER surviving an abusive relationship that almost robbed her of her life, Maureen Zamagatsheni Ndlovu has written a book to inspire others to find healing.

Ndlovu’s book ‘Connecting the dots backwards’ relates the trauma and pain she suffered at the hands of her former boyfriend and her near death experience after he beat her to a pulp and left her for dead.

“The abuse had been going on for a while, but the incident that almost took my life happened in November 2011. My then boyfriend assaulted me for two hours; he raped me, strangled me with my dreads and a belt and then smashed me with a computer tower on my head.”

Ndlovu said as she was being beaten, she lost consciousness.

“In his mind he thought I was dead, he drove me to one of the local clinics near where we were staying in Midrand to dump my body at a parking lot.”

She said a security guard at the clinic found her body and took her into the hospital where she was treated for extensive injuries.

Two days after regaining consciousness, Ndlovu said she started piecing together the details of the night she was assaulted.

“I couldn’t remember what happened, everyone at the hospital thought I had been a victim of a hijacking. I prayed to God to help me remember the ordeal of the night I was assaulted and I did.”

Ndlovu said she confronted her boyfriend and he threatened to kill her son if he reported the matter to the police.

“Like any abused person I was scared and wanted to forget about that night and move on with my life so I didn’t report him. I had nightmares, I was addicted to sleeping pills and suffered from depression and had to be admitted in a psychiatric hospital for three months.”

Ndlovu relived the trauma when she was raped again and impregnated with her second child in 2013.

“It was very hard to go through it again, but I found that writing about my traumatic experiences was therapeutic and that is how this book came about. It helped me heal and I want to use it as a tool to help other battered women in situations like mine.”

She said ‘Connecting the dots backwards’ is a memoir on healing and forgiveness.

“It is very hard for women to escape the clutches of abusive partners but I want them to go out and seek help. They are the only ones who can put an end to the abuse, the book is meant to empower them to take their lives back before it is too late,” she said.

Ndlovu’s book is now available on Amazon, and, for hard copy orders she can be contacted on 073 2333 867 or on email

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