Why intimacy is important

2018-05-09 06:00

IN marriage, one of the most common causes of fights is the topic of sex. While there is a whole host of intimacy issues that couples fight about, the most common disagreement occurs over how often sex is (or isn’t) happening.

You’d think that a simple fight once in a while wouldn’t hurt anything, but for some reason, fights about sex often get nasty.

The high-desire partner (the one who wants intimacy more often) feels unloved or disregarded, and these feelings amplify each time another sexual advance is rejected by the low-desire partner (the one who wants intimacy less). At the same time, the low-desire partner often feels pressured, controlled and objectified.

A couple will often continue in this cycle of hurt, and these feelings damage the marriage.

With all these problems that come with intimacy, a lot of people wonder why sex is so important anyway. After all, you might have a perfect marriage if you didn’t fight about it so much. Well, there are several reasons it’s important. HERE ARE THREE:

• It makes you a couple — sex is something you share with your partner that you don’t share with anyone else. Sure, you can talk to your spouse about what a rotten day you had at work or how you feel inadequate as a parent, but you can also talk to your friends or parents about those things.

Intimacy truly sets you and your partner apart as a couple.

If you’re not being close to your partner in this way, the two of you may become less like a couple and more like roommates.

• It is a unique expression of intimacy — sex is a unique expression of intimacy that happens only with your spouse. It’s an expression of love, romance and passion that exceeds a simple hug or kiss.

• It creates deeper conversations and brings couples closer — intimacy requires communication, but not just any old “how was your day?”

It takes a much more open, vulnerable and deep kind of interaction. The things you say to your partner during intimacy are more personal than a discussion about what a tough day you had at work.

There are a number of reasons why intimacy could be a problem:

What is erectile dysfunction? Erectile dysfunction (ED) is the inability to get or keep an erection firm enough to have sexual intercourse. It’s also sometimes referred to as impotence.

Occasional ED isn’t uncommon. Many men experience it during times of stress. Frequent ED can be a sign of health problems that need treatment.

It can also be a sign of emotional or relationship difficulties that may need to be addressed by a professional.


Premature ejaculation is uncontrolled ejaculation either before or shortly after sexual penetration. It happens with minimal sexual stimulation and before the person wishes.

It is one of the most common forms of male sexual dysfunction. It has probably affected every man at some point in his life.


Most cases of premature ejaculation do not have a clear cause. With sexual experience and age, men often learn to delay orgasm.

Psychological factors such as anxiety, guilt, or depression can also cause it. In some cases, it may be related to a medical cause such as hormonal problems, injury, or a side effect of certain medicines.

If you are suffering from any of the above problems then come in to the Royal Hospital Pharmacy for an assessment.

We have many options — both medical and natural — to assist with all of the above problems and we fully guarantee that these will work for you.

Contact us on 033 815 1690 or 033 815 1691. You can also WhatsApp us on 072 139 9048.

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