Hastings on Food

2015-04-30 14:53

SALUTATIONS choc chips and marshmallows. Recently I have tried to dissipate the uncertainties of a certain young woman who is inescapably about to become a single mother.

I have reassured her that the support she will need in this mammoth undertaking will come from the most unlikely of sources and that her fears are in essence paper thin. For there will no doubt be a multitude of persons who will love the child as much as she does, whether they be friends, family, or work colleagues resulting in, with a whole village supporting you one could really question the single in parent.

I myself did not set out to become a single parent, rather I was committed to be the best parent I could be and that most certainly has not changed. The journey has been quite daunting with many challenges and struggles, my son however, has been the one who has really given me every encouragement.

I am happy to have experienced a reasonably irregular and extraordinary life - the passion for all I do is of paramount importance to me, which will never change, when parenting what does change however is ones perspective which then changes the balance of things.

I have been a single parent for a long time and it reminds me of when I am at work, the minute I walk into the kitchen, I am badgered from all sides with requests and operational matters, so in essence doing the job of many, meaning you must be organised.

I am a naturally disorderly somewhat shambolic man, my home is a sanctuary of recreation not a showcasing museum, so when I became a single parent having to oversee and take care of a little toddler it certainly caused me to overreact a little bit and become nit-picking in some ways and dictatorial in others

Did you know that only 33% of children in South Africa live with both their parents? The rest live with single parents, relatives or are in foster care.

Forty percent of these children live with their mothers only, while only four percent live with their fathers, eight percent live with their grandparents or aunts and uncles, the remaining 16% live in foster care homes or with people who do not form part of their biological relatives. Incidentally foster care in South Africa costs the government a staggering R500 million a year

From vibrant street graffiti to architectural wonders and mind-altering skyscrapers look anywhere worldwide and you will see true imagination at work, these inventions, advances and remedies are comparable to the masterminds each day of the single parent knowing that our limitations are boundless and true imagination surrounds and resides in us all.

If you still doubt your capabilities share your weaknesses, share your hard moments­, share your real self, it will either scare pretentious persons away or inspire others to realise that perfection is a delusion. This ultimately will lead to you being part of truly important and meaningful relationships.

Go on, dance to your heart’s content, it does not matter if you are off key, it does not matter if you are completely retorting to the rhythm, it does not matter if you appear to be a complete comical clown when you move for it is your dance, your moment which people should join in and be wary of ending it against your will.

So to the dads who form part of the four percent, your efforts are commendable. As for the rest of you, start thinking with the right head and honour your responsibilities.

Herewith a simple request single parent or not, go forth and find somebody or anybody who is different than you. Possibly someone who has made you feel hateful, someone whose life decisions have made you uncomfortable, someone from a different religion, somebody with a criminal history, someone who dresses below you, someone with disabilities, somebody without a home, someone who disgusts you.

Reach out to them tell them they form part of the grand scheme of things, for if we are to indeed change the world in which we live, this is a perfect place to start. Every single time.


More than most single parents have to juggle their time accordingly mostly relying on quick, fast food, what better than delicious pasta because the combinations are without doubt, infinite

Vegetable pasta with black olives and baby rocket


500 grams of pasta of choice cooked al dente

olive oil

1 red onion chopped

1 clove garlic crushed

½ teaspoon finely chopped chili

2 baby marrows grated

1 red pepper seeded and sliced

1 yellow pepper seeded and sliced

1 aubergine finely sliced

sliced black olives

1 pun net baby rocket

Koisan salt

rainbow pepper

finely shredded basil

grated or shaved parmesan


In a saucepan sauté the onion, mixed peppers, garlic, and chilli

Add the baby marrow and eggplant and sauté down

Add the sliced black olives

Add the pasta and mix through

Season with salt and pepper

Add shredded basil and baby rocket

Serve with basil leaves ,parmesan and crunchy bread

Pasta with palm hearts, cherry tomatoes and stuffed olives


500 grams of pasta of choice cooked al dente

olive oil

1 red onion chopped

1 tin palm hearts

cocktail tomatoes

stuffed green olives

zest of 1 lemon

500 ml cream

Koisan salt

rainbow pepper

torn basil leaves

grated or shaved parmesan


In a saucepan sauté the onion

Add the cocktail tomatoes and sliced palm heart

Add the stuffed green olives

Add the lemon zest

Add the cream

Add the pasta and mix through

Season with salt and pepper

Add the torn basil

Serve with parmesan cheese and a crisp salad

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