Dad accuses school of hiding sex abuse

2012-05-25 07:58

Cape Town - The father of a boy who was the alleged victim of a sexual assault at a high school rugby camp has slammed the school for downplaying the incident as “a prank”.

The man, who was not identified to protect the identity of his son, said the statement released by the school was intended to downplay the severity of the incident, to clear the boys involved and defend the school’s actions, reported the Cape Argus.

“Over the course of the weekend in question my son was a victim of a number of acts of school bullying…

“He was subjected to extreme embarrassment and shame in a hostile, abusive and intimidating environment.”
A criminal case was withdrawn although the Western Cape department of education was still investigating the matter.

The father said his son's safety and dignity had been severely compromised.
The boy was moved to another high school.

  • kaMazibuko - 2012-05-25 08:33

    Have to agree with the dad. With no punishment bullies won't stop their nonsense. Kids end up giving up sports they love and are talented in just bcoz they wanna avoid these damn bullies

      Janice - 2012-05-25 10:35

      I agree kaMazibuko, its absolutely disgusting behaviour!!!!!

  • Cherri - 2012-05-25 08:43

    Why doesn't News24 publish the whole story as it appeared in the local community newspaper? According to that report, this kid was drunk as a skunk and is now so angry with his parents (as told to the reporter by the father) for going to the media and causing this scene. Selective reporting at it's best!

      Repline - 2012-05-25 08:53

      Agree that it is selective reporting, however the fact that the kid was drunk should be irrelevant to the matter, or should we next time a girl gets raped ask if she was drunk? It is true the guy was irresponsible but that doesn't change the facts that someone else took advantage of the situation.

      koo.doyle - 2012-05-25 09:07

      Cherri, does the fact that he was drunk, and is now angry with his father, change what happened at all? Does it make it acceptable somehow?

      Merven - 2012-05-25 09:18

      No Koo, but it does bring up the question if it ever happened at all.

      Marion - 2012-05-25 09:55

      @Cherri - the boys who did it to him had been drinking too, so don't be selective in saying he was drunk as a skunk. Maybe he was drunk as a skunk because he was trying, in the wrong way, to deal with the bullying he had already experienced. Even my kids have demanded that nothing be done about incidents at school because it just causes more problems for them. But sometimes a parent has to assess the magnitude of the problem and act accordingly irrespective of the child's wishes.

      Janice - 2012-05-25 10:37

      @Merven, there is photographic evidence.

      glen.e.huysamer - 2012-05-25 13:45

      Why was the boy allowed to be as drunk as a skunk while on a school tour, it is clear that proper supervision was not enforced throughout the entire tour and that the school is therefore liable. The question then must be asked, was the boy purposely intoxicated to allow the sexual assault to happen, as it is clear that many boys were drinking, or were some pretending to be drinking so that they could assault another. This fact leaves questions open as to how premeditated the sexual assault was.

      Cherri - 2012-05-25 16:25

      Perhaps if you had all read the report published in Tabletalk last week, you'd also question the actions of this father.

      mark.canthaylett - 2012-05-26 14:41

      The Kid in question does not drink at all so your info and that of the school is utter rubbish and I hope the parents will persue this matter and take the school, the head master, teacher and department of education to court.

  • Ingrid - 2012-05-25 08:51

    Look what happened to Parktown Boys High School's Head Boy, and his accomplances, their lives were ruined, what were they thinking, this was not a prank, bullying is still alive and going strong in schools and no one is doing anything about it. When we have TV SHOWS like Hells Kitchen and Idols where they humilate a fellow human to such an extent what can we expect.

      Bergie - 2012-05-25 08:57

      What happened at Parktown Boys High, Ingrid? I wrote a piece on same sex schools and would be interested to know

      Marion - 2012-05-25 10:00

      @Ingrid - An initiation at a local boys only school about ten years back resulted in the boys being naked and having Deep Heat smeared on their penises. They were running, naked, and jumping into the swimming pool. Nothing was ever done about that. @Bergie - as I recall the boys were beaten to some extent. Google search should reveal the facts.

  • Ingrid - 2012-05-25 08:58

    How did the scholar get the booze in the first place, surely the teachers in charge know scholars can get expelled if they drink on tour,or anyother time so why were they not there to stop this from happening. Even the captain of the team should know better to stop this sort of thing. This is going to go on untill someone is accountable.

      Marion - 2012-05-25 10:01

      According to the school's website a group of boys bought alcohol and some of those who had also been imbibing were involved in the assault (prank???) on this kid when he passed out.

  • Tax - 2012-05-25 09:43

    Survival of the fittest.

      Repline - 2012-05-25 09:50

      Go you Wild-Animal,you!

      Tax - 2012-05-25 09:58

      I am not a wild animal but lets face it there will always be bullies in life. Bullies at school, bullies in the workplace, bullies in government, bullies in the police force etc. Parents will not always be around to protect their progeny so it is best for parents to teach their kids to stand up for themselves. Life is tough.

      Donna Sheree Netto - 2012-05-25 10:20

      @tax you are sick and an idiot, this is rape!!! Bullies are one thing but rape is altogether another story. He is still a minor that was under the schools supervision and this is supposed to be a safe place for children. His parents have every right to fight for him given his age they are his legal guardians!! I hope the principal, coach and all boys involved get locked up for this. Its disgusting

      Tax - 2012-05-25 10:46

      @Donna please get your facts right before posting a knee-jerk response.

      Dianne - 2012-05-25 13:23

      @Tax, you have a valid point in saying there will always be bullies around. But when he is a minor, and cannot fend for himself, he needs someone (his father in this case) to stand up and fight for him. When i send my kids to school, i leave them in the care of the teachers and principle, and heaven help, if they cannot protect my kid when i am not there, i will step in.

  • simone.gibson.73 - 2012-05-25 10:41

    May I please ask the father in this story to PLEASE GET YOU FACTS right once and for all!! The school has not downplayed it as a prank but the cops have as no criminal act was found!! It is sad when you read his story in Tabletalk and how contradicting it is and now the media still says SEX ABUSE!! but yet the father said in Tabletalk that he did not say his son was indeed RAPED!! So where the hell is the sex abuse now coming from again!!! What the hell is going on with this story- one minute he says the media is throwing it out of proportion and the next it hails SEX ABUSE again. NOTHING HAS BEEN PROVEN PEOPLE!!! The kid himself hates his parents for going to the media (read Tabletalk last week!) and said that he hates his parents for bringing his coach into this as "he is a very good guy" but of course that does not come up too often now does it as the parents continue to look for sensationalism in this case. GIVE YOUR KID HIS LIFE BACK AND STOP going to the media to fight your issues. If you want to fight back go to the parents of the kids that did this and sort it out. STOP blaming the school as it never happened on school grounds but on a rugby tour. I hate bullying absolutely and will not stand if this happened to my kid but sometimes you need to tell your story and let it be especially when what you are doing is causing more damage to your son than those 6 boys ever did.

      Cherri - 2012-05-25 16:24

      That's exactly the report that I was referring to Simone - perhaps it should be reprinted by News24 so people can read all sides of the story and not just the selected, sensational parts!

      derek.prancer - 2012-05-26 15:40

      Simone, you seem to be the only one who has identified the nub of the problem here: 'If you want to fight back go to the parents of the kids that did this...'. As an educator, I've thought long and hard about where 'in loco parentis' starts and ends. After lights out, does one expect the two or three teachers in charge to patrol the corridors and dormitories in shifts to check on their charges? Where does the school's responsibility for the moral upbringing of their students start and end? Is it the sole responsibility of the school to discipline its students? What 'reasonable' precautions must the school take to prevent such occurences? One may argue that the parents and school have an equal responsibility, and since the school was responsible at the time, it's their fault. I've dealt with too many disciplinary issues where it's clear that there's inadequate supervision at home, and the kids believe they can do whatever they like outside of the home - because they've learned, from home, that you don't have to respect authority, and you won't be held responsible for the consequences of your behaviour. This is a typical case in point: who gets blamed? The school. As a parent, I'd be ashamed of the actions of my children.

  • Loo - 2012-05-25 10:55

    PRANK my ASS .. no pun intended. Look, end of the day kids do "initiate" the new boy on a rugby tour .. it has been like that for years, since my days too. BUT ..big BUT .. no one touched me or anyone privately. So Mr. School Headmaster .. get your head out of your ASS and realize this is not on.

      simone.gibson.73 - 2012-05-25 11:09

      i AGREE WITH ALL YOU SAID but there comes a time when the Media i.e. NEWS24 need to stop crying SEXUAL ABUSE as this was not the case and report on actual facts and not heresay. It is very damaging to everyone including the kid involved - it is not nice for him for his friends, new school etc to think he was sexually abused when in fact he was not. As much as the parents want to get back at the school they also need to think how much this has damaged their kid by not stating the actual truth. They took 3 months to tell this story - wonder why!!! Amazing that they are not blaming the cops for allowing this case to be thrown out - makes you think that there is not enough evidence to substantiate their story of rape!!!! It is just easier to blame the school.

  • eyesears.handsfeet - 2012-05-25 11:12

    If a child wants to be accepted by the masses, he/she will do ALMOST anything to fit in. Group Pressure! (Maybe drinking) When things get out of hand and a child actually does talk about what makes him / her unhappy (with allot of crying), it usually means that a) they have really hurt him or he is embarrassed and his rights have been violated. The fact that the school is trying to make it off as a “prank” might mean that they might get money from one of the bullies’ parents on a regular basis as part of sponsorships and do not want to loose the money (“cash is king”), it might mean that 1/2 or more of the bullies are favoured due to their “game play” or it might mean that the school does not have a set rules regarding certain problem behaviour for students as well as teachers, because the coach, it seems were also not taken to task about this. So, the coach might have been somewhere, maybe getting drunk himself and did not want to be bothered with the children (as the children are not suppose to be watched 24/7) but also ignoring the cries of a student (the next morning) which explains of the character of the coach, the head master and the school as both are representatives of the school as well as the discipline being portrayed.

  • eyesears.handsfeet - 2012-05-25 11:12

    The boy would not have said something if the incident carried his consent and I’ll also make a “stink” if something like this, irrespective if my child were wrong (and if so I will ask for the discharge myself) or not, happened. This is not the US and the boys and coaches musn’t think that they are football coaches and football players, which in my opinion are a bunch of baloocas! The fact that the child needs to “toughen up” is also besides the point. Although you get bullies everywhere, the only thing that you can do is wait for time to pass (with various enquiries and so-called law suits, etc) in which case the mental, physical and emotional pain has already been done for that child. More and more the parents and children need to familiarise themselves with the various laws in order to survive the sick metal states of minds and affairs in this society SA (which actually belongs in a mental hospital, balled and chained to beds for the rest of their lives).

  • leon.vonsolms - 2012-05-26 10:32

    It seems as if the boy is not telling the truth about what happend at the camp. He is manipulating his parents.

  • xchemistx73 - 2013-04-24 09:27

    Children and alcohol don’t mix. The school is at fault for permitting the use of alcohol and allowing the bullying to take place. Regardless of the drunken state as alleged it indicates that the lack of supervision is the source of the problem and here again the school is at fault. Kids get into fights and boys will be boys but there is a point where a good old smack on the head works best in resolving problems. I recommend the application of several snot klaps to all parties involved and the school should write a formal apology to the complainant. The parent should also be fined for allowing his child to drink in the first place. I am just surprised no one has pulled out the racial card in this matter after all isn’t that what every idiot out there does?

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