Foster mom fights for neglected kids

2012-08-20 08:41

Durban - A Howick woman is fighting to continue caring for two children she rescued two years ago from severe neglect and malnutrition.

The Tribune reported that Sharon Aurets, a foster mother from Merrivale, was currently looking after seven children.

Aurets is fighting her battle in court as she fears social workers want to take away the now healthy 2-year-old and 4-year-old boys and return them to their mother.

Aurets described how she found one of the children covered in boils and with a filthy plastic bag tied on him as a nappy.

She said he was covered in pus and excrement. She also told how she visited the same house later in 2010 and found a starving pair of twins with severe worm infestations.

After the children were taken to Aurets’s Bridges of Hope home, she was told by the children’s mother that once she got the children again she would receive foster grants.

“I am not optimistic about the outcome of the court case, but will take the matter on and appeal to the high court if I have to,” said Aurets.

A ward councillor said Aurets was doing good work in the community and caring for destitute children but said she sometimes crossed the line by not allowing for children to be reunited with their extended families.

Aurets said: “I know I can’t keep every child. I have looked after at least 70 children in the last two years and most were placed with extended family who want them,” she said.  

  • lownabester - 2012-08-20 08:50

    I wish you the best, Keep them safe, so few people care today, Thanks you are an angel.

  • samantha.stewartgraham - 2012-08-20 08:50

    There are far too many neglected children in this world and I am praying that Aurets will win custody of these 2 children. There is no justice for children and it is soooo sad. I think some people just have kids to receive money from the Govt and that is totally wrong!! Makes me sick. Praying for a positive outcome

      vaughndumas - 2012-08-20 09:08

      That is EXACTLY what some people do. They have children, get the grant and leave the little ones with another family member.

  • wanita.vanschalkwyk - 2012-08-20 09:15

    The reason she is fighting is because when you involved in taking care of neglected children all to often they return and go back to the same or even worse situations and sometimes don't even survive their circumstances due to gross neglect. What has changed that the mother of these children will treat them differently??? That is the real question more often then not NOTHING!!!! The children don't have a voice and it is up to people like Auret to be their voice!! When you take care of children such as these sometimes the homes or foster parents have more knowledge of the parents then the social workers as they have more dealings with them. This is a battle that all shelters, homes and foster parents fight on a daily basis! I pray that God's hand of justice prevails!

  • attie.mostert.9 - 2012-08-20 09:19

    What an amazing woman, really hope she will be able keep on looking after these two little ones

  • stefan.kruger.1297 - 2012-08-20 09:22

    Awesome job fighting for the kids!! I agree with her, if the parents didn't want them at first, then they need not to go back to the same abuse... leaving a kid on the street is just abuse anyways...

  • winifred.watson.9 - 2012-08-20 09:36

    I had same problem many years ago before the grant system. My husband and I have no children and we fostered two children aged 7 and 9 yrs. The mother had ditched all 4 of her children and was pregnant with the 5th. We took in the middle two children a boy and a girl. They came to us with nothing except the clothes on their back. We brought them up as our own, we spent time helping them improve their education. When the two years were almost up, mommy decided to show up and tell them how much she loved them. The matter went to court and the court ruled in her favour, she only wanted the two children we had, not the others. It was said that she was the mother and you cannot break the bond between mother and children. We lost them for this reason. Not even two months down the line, she ditched them again. We did tell her at the time that if she took them away from us we would not take them back as it was not good for the children to be shunted backwards and forwards. It was a great loss for us and even more for those two children. I wish this lady the very best and hope things go well for her, I know exactly what she is going through, its heartache.

  • pascale.vanrooyen - 2012-08-20 09:37

    People that don't look after their children should not be allowed a second chance, a tiger can't change his strips, simply cover them and when the coast is clear and under the radar then the same colours come out again. Wish you all the best Aurets you are these children's guardian angel!

  • carolina.j.wallace - 2012-08-20 09:53

    If the courts and the social workers have their way we will soon be reading about another case of battered,abused and kileed children.Like that baby boy whose parents have now been sentenced.If the social workers and the courts did their work proparly instead of taking the easy road that little boy will also be alive.Instead these kids are battered and abused and everybody shouts in disgust when its to late.Prevention in this case will be better.

  • cruywagen - 2012-08-21 08:11

    It will be sad if the children is returned to a unfit mother just to end up in the papers a month later that something terrible has happened to them. I believe that justice does not prevail when it comes to the well being of children in this country. How many opportunities should a unfit parent be given to make things right? Do they really think that little bit of a grant is going to provide for the children? What is happening with educating and rehabilitating parents who are incapable of taking care of their children in order to become capable parents. Many people would love to have children, give them an opportunity to give these children hope and a future. Should these children be returned to the mother and something happens to them the government, social worker, attorney, advocate, judge and anyone else responsible for the decision must be held accountable. After all they are the ones assessing the risks.

  • thobekile.sibindi.71 - 2012-09-05 09:58

    I pray that Aurets wins this case, where were the extend families when these children were starving and being neglacted? Why was mother not getting the grant in the first place. That grant should be given to the foster mother she is the one who deserves it.

  • Amanda Ferreira - 2013-06-04 15:09

    we all want the best for the children so y don't we start a pertion to have the children stay were they are SAFE!!!

  • sonstrale - 2013-07-15 09:29

    Good luck South Africa needs more people like you.It is not fair when parents fail to look after their children they want them back when they are better.Im not saying they must not be returned to their families but the social workers must do a thorough check to see that history wont repeat itself.My sister give this matter to God.

  • Sharon Adele Chick - 2013-07-31 12:04

    These children are still with me. 6 children were removed from this woman's home. One of the twins died from starvation and pneumonia. It was found that the mother was not fit to care for them, and the proposed extended family were unwilling to take them. The Court placed them with me for a further 2 years. The mother informed me that she was going to have more children as she had a new boyfriend and he wanted children. She has had 7 children by 6 different men. This Ward Councillor has since threatened me that he is 'coming after me'.

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