Mom refuses to hand over dead baby

2012-09-27 11:57

Johannesburg - Gauteng paramedics arriving at an accident scene on the N12 highway have told how a woman cradled her dead 2-month-old baby and refused to give the child's body to them.

Paramedics said Yanne Weng was convinced that her baby Xin Nuo was just sleeping and could not be convinced otherwise, reported Beeld.

The baby apparently didn’t have a mark on her, but paramedics declared her dead on impact.

Weng was sitting with the baby on her lap while her husband drove their bakkie on the road between Potchefstroom and Fochville when he lost control of the vehicle and it rolled several times.

He was taken to hospital with head injuries.

  • kala.bafazi - 2012-09-27 12:05

    There is a good reason for child safety seats in vehicles. RIP little one. Your mother is an idiot.

      janice.mcmaster.92 - 2012-09-27 12:18

      True kala, but I dont think your timing is good to call the mom an idiot...

      martin.ferguson.7311 - 2012-09-27 12:27

      cant you read you twat.The article said Bakkie.Where does a child seat fit in there

      sanet.janssen - 2012-09-27 12:28

      Wow, 10/10 for tact... ever stop to think that maybe this was a single cab bakkie and that there was no space for a child seat? You cannot begin to imagine the trauma this mother is going through because of the loss of her child, think before you speak.

      john.turner.58760608 - 2012-09-27 12:30

      Kala, is right the woman as well as her husband should be charged with manslaughter. Thanks to their stupidity their baby is dead. It makes me cringe when I see women driving around with their little loved one standing between the front seats or a woman holding a baby whilst sitting in the car. In a collision there is not a snowball in hells chance that anyone can hold these innocents back from going through the windscreen

      louisehensonh - 2012-09-27 12:52

      have you ever lost a child? how DARE you call her an idiot! my heart breaks for that poor mother, I completely understand her feeling.

      mark.schulz.796 - 2012-09-27 13:07

      The vehicle rolled several times, even with a seat and properly secured the infant's body would probably not have been able to survive the forces involved in this type of accident. Speed kills; blame the father for losing control of the bakkie with his family on board.

      rosiegracebrooks - 2012-09-27 13:07

      Uh, if it's a single cab bakkie, don't take your baby in it. It's common sense.

      Cherri - 2012-09-27 13:09

      kala, john and aniken - where in a bakkie would you fit child car seat??? Read properly before making stupid comments!

      shepardshakes.ndlovu - 2012-09-27 13:27


      kala.bafazi - 2012-09-27 13:42

      I have a 15 month old son. I would not dream of transporting without being properly strapped in.If it is a single cab bakkie then rather stay at home. Your childs life is not worth it. Tact has f all to do with this woman. If she had followed basic rules of the road she would still have her family intact. I don't see how people can excuse what these parents have done to their child. The only thing I did comment incorrectly on was saying the mother is an idiot. Let me rephrase it. Mom and Dad are idiots.

      aniken.vader.31 - 2012-09-27 13:47

      cherry - you DON;T PUT A CHILD IN A SINGLE CAB! idiots - we read the article and we feel that they were wrong to do so like many of other parents out there who endanger the lives of their children. As about rolling several times - One of the parents at my child's school rolled their entier car. The mother is paralysed. The father had major injuries. The granny the same. The child? The CAR-SEAT saved the child - only a few scratches. If the bakkie ROLLED means only one thing: FAST DRIVING WITH A CHILD IN THE FRONT SEAT WITHOUT ANY SAFETY OPTIONS! The child had not choice but sadly to pass away.

      galef - 2012-09-27 14:29

      KALA...ok so you have a single cab bakkie.......the child is burning up with very ill and you need to get to hospital now what?......are you for real??....I agree with car seats ...but how do you restrain a 2 month baby in a bakkie....???....dont be so quick to call them idiots....i think you are the idiot.....if you ahve kids and one of then get burt at home...or take poison by accident....and need urgent treatment...i ebt you wont worry about fool....she just lost her child....*slap*....u nothing but rude

      lynn.syme.1 - 2012-09-27 16:26

      Quick on the hoof to pass judgement there?

      Kala - 2012-09-27 18:34

      Galef - What good is it if your child is ill or hurt and you race off to the doctor with them unstrapped in the car / bakkie and there's an accident and the child is killed. I would either get on the back or insist my wife stays at home. I do have a single cab bakkie and the baby seat fits in the front. You don't let children play with dangerous items but you're willing to risk their lives by not strapping them in. And lots of folks are calling me the idiot. LOL

  • charnelle.bester - 2012-09-27 12:14

    I can not imagine how hard it must be to lose a child. What an awfull thing to have to go through.

  • drishworth - 2012-09-27 12:16

    Terribly sad............... I guess the vehicle being a bakkie didn't have space for a baby seat and the Mom had no choice but to hold the child.

      john.turner.58760608 - 2012-09-27 12:31

      If you want a bakkie and a family then get a double cab.

      michelle.h.koekemoer - 2012-09-27 14:51

      If you really are into the safety of your children would one not then put a car seat in the passenger seat and the "spare" adult can sit on the back. Just a thought

  • susan.paul.330 - 2012-09-27 12:17

    how terribly!!!

  • charlie.vanbergen - 2012-09-27 12:27

    It was a bakkie - where do you put a child safety seat? If they were driving in a car, I'd have very little sympathy.

      Mark - 2012-09-27 13:04

      Okay so it was a single cab bakkie, so it's okay to put you kids at risk?

      bouncing.betty.33 - 2012-09-27 13:06

      thats no excuse, I dont take my child on my motorbike. and yes, you can fit a child seat in a single cab bakkie.

  • natasha.wentink - 2012-09-27 12:30

    They were in a bakkie - if it's a standard single cab then there is no space for a passenger and car seat. Accidents happen so quickly and parents repeatedly risk their children's lives when they do not strap them into safety seat, or travel in vehicles that do not provide enough seating for a family of 3. This is a tragic and unnecessary, totally avoidable loss of life. As a mother I have to say sincerest condolences to the mother and father.

  • richard.zanner - 2012-09-27 12:35

    Yes the Mother should have had the child in a chair but exactly where in a bakkie do you put the chair. It was wrong and the mother will live with this mistake for the rest of her life but have some compassion. RIP little one.

  • sharon.truebodyvice - 2012-09-27 12:39

    R.I.P Baby xxxxx Sympathy with Mom and Dad.

  • moleto.lelope - 2012-09-27 12:47

    Very sad for the father n mother

  • tandi.assad - 2012-09-27 12:48

    RIP Little Angel. How dare you all be so judgemental?? Yes we all know what SHOULD have been. But my God, these parents have to live with this loss and grief for the rest of their lives. None of us was with them or knows the reason why they were in a bakkie with no car seat. My blood runs cold thinking of the poor mom, dad and baby. How horribly, horribly sad. Even sadder is those of you who sit on your high perches calling them idiots and saying they deserve it.

      jigg.head - 2012-09-27 13:38

      no one deserves what happened. Amazing how you need a license to do so many things but any fool can have a baby and do as they wish once they arrive. As far as I know, having an unrestrained child in a car is illegal. Should the parents not be prsecuted? How would your reaction change if this happened during the commission of a crime like robery and the patrents were trying to evade arrest? Would you sympathy be there? They were still breaking the law and someone died!!!

  • elna.howard - 2012-09-27 12:49

    John Turner, suppose you have lots of money ... maybe they dont have the means to buy a double cab .... next clever suggestion !!

      john.turner.58760608 - 2012-09-27 12:57

      Simple. If you haven't got the money to look after your children then don't have them. I am not rich but when my kids came along, I made sure that they were properly looked after i.e. best safety restraints available in the car for the carry cot and subsequent similar harnesses as they grew up.

  • jbm.moate - 2012-09-27 12:50

    May God's grace be with them... cant imagine what she must be feeling like...

  • brionyl.french - 2012-09-27 12:52

    no sympathy for stupid people....

      irma.white.9 - 2012-09-27 13:42

      Guess you aren't expecting any sympathy then if something happens to you. If you are so moronic and unsympathetic to these parents who have lost their child, then you don't deserve any sympathy either.

  • rato.lekhula - 2012-09-27 12:52

    Im more than 100% sure that the parents have another car but because they didnt think properly they will have to live wiht the guilt of loosing their child through their own negligence! If you have a car it is a MUST that your child is in a carseat no excuse. I have a 2yr old, till this day he sits in his carseat! No excuses! RIP Little One, gone too soon!

  • bob.jaan.9 - 2012-09-27 12:55

    baby seat in the car??

  • shaakieras1 - 2012-09-27 12:58

    @kala ....the only idiot believe here is you...for Goodness have some you think the mother is not blaming herself ? God forbid you lose a child one day...because even if you had no control of the matter - the guilt will kill you....this is what annoys me the most of these comments - people jst say the 1st moronic thing that pops up in their heads....ticks me off. my prayers are with the parents of the little angel...may you find peace mom....

  • karenadawkins - 2012-09-27 13:03

    i love how we all judge her- she just lost her child thats enough judgment to all those IDIOTS who Scream Idiot to her.... you the idiot for thinking you better than her and what she is going through... get over your selves, this lady lost her baby today tomorrow it could be you for what ever reason i hope they show you as much compaction and lack of humility .... rip little one and to the mom may god heal your heart and lean from this tragic lesson, and to all those self appointed judges i hope when tragic events happen to you , you remember your kind words!

      natacha.leukes - 2012-09-27 16:19

      I agree with u! We don't know their circumstances, and there is only 1 judge! We have no right!! Its ok for ppl to have their opinions but no need to be harsh. May that baby rest in peace, and I pray that mom will find peace one day! And people with harsh words remember that all happens in Gods time, you dnt know what tomorrow may bring for you! Be kind or be quiet!

      german.mazokera - 2012-09-27 20:44

      Just imagine, be in her shoes right now,....holding your baby who you have been breast feeding and when the car was moving and instantaniously you are told to hand over your baby who you in your mind is still not aware of the accident but of the baby who was feeding

  • jan.plank.35 - 2012-09-27 13:04

    This is so sad. The handing over is the final good bye.

  • buti.lembe - 2012-09-27 13:07

    Death always come unexpected. For mama I really send deeply condolences, I can feel it'ld b easy for me to bear it. May God be with you.

  • andrea.jacobs.186 - 2012-09-27 13:07

    I can't imagine what these poor parents are going through!! RIP little one!

  • Natzi - 2012-09-27 13:09

    well women you are very stupid for not putting your child in a PROPER child seat!! May the little angel rest in peace

      ivan.goodman.77 - 2012-09-27 13:45

      Who the hell are you to call her stupid,if she had a car seat then you would have blamed the fathers driving, it can happen to anybody let's pray that something like this never happens to you.

  • sharon.themba - 2012-09-27 13:11

    My heart goes out to that Woman, I can only imagine her pain. I wonder what's going on her mind right now. We really need to love

      martin.ferguson.7311 - 2012-09-27 14:59

      yours had to be the sweetest and most meaningful one as needs more people like you.

  • nhlonipho.shikwambana - 2012-09-27 13:27

    Car seat or no car seat when it is time it is time. And nt al people cn afford one and most of the black people should be making stupid judgement.we al knw how we act on the roads wth our children inside the car. Just show most of u dnt have kids just pray u never have any.bunch of idiots. A MATHER JUST LOST A CHILD.

  • mrp721 - 2012-09-27 13:30

    Yes while the child shouldn't have been on her lap, I think she will live with that guilt for the rest of her life, instead of picking her out have some compassion. A stupid mistake that has cost her dearly, I think she has paid a high enough price without everyone pouncing on her.. Very sad that the child died and sadly a hard lesson to learn, one can only hope that others will learn from her mistake... But with that said it was a bakkie we don't know if it was a little nissan 1400 which definitely did not leave room for a car seat or a single cab or a double cab, whatever bakkie it was, lets just give the grieving family some compassion.

  • jigg.head - 2012-09-27 13:32

    If it was me, in a single cab with my child, I'd put a child seat in the front and one of the adults ride in the back. There will never be a good time to point out that the mother and father were both irresponsible for allowing their child to ride around in a car like this (unsecured). @louisehensonh, losing a child is something no one should ever have to go through, but at some point the parents need to take some responsibility for their actions or in this case, lack thereof. Almost daily I see idiots riding around with kids on their laps and my thoughts jump to the potential for tragedy that these fools are courting. In this case, tragedy came knocking. My sympathy to the parents, even more so to the child who lost her life due to the incompetence of her parents!

      ivan.goodman.77 - 2012-09-27 13:52

      What makes you think that you are a perfect parent, because you got a car seat for your child makes you better ? the last thing that this mother needs now is to be blamed for this.

      jigg.head - 2012-09-27 14:01

      I'm not a perfect parent, I do however ensure that my kids are buckled in no matter how far we drive. I'm also under no illusion as to who should be blamed. Who is responsible for their 2 month old child's safety? The blame rests squarely on the shoulders of the two parents here. The failed to adequately secure their child in a moving car and she died.

  • nhlonipho.shikwambana - 2012-09-27 13:34

    Most of you dont even knw how a baby car seat looks like but nyaseat nyaseat nyaseat u cant even afford one let aln a loaf of bread and calling the mather stupid does it makes ur own stupidity look Good.doomkop wil remain a doomkop period.

  • sam.brink.92 - 2012-09-27 13:35

    I cant imagine the pain that that family is going through. no Child seat, no ride, no helmet, no ride. My car does not move unless kiddies are buckled in. I often see kids running amok in cars, and my stomach turns when I visualise what could happen to them. anyone on the site here care to explain why you dont strap your childen in?

  • lee.theron.9 - 2012-09-27 13:36

    I feel very sad for this mother and can only imagine what she is feeling and just by her actions I think she is going to battle to get over her loss. I pray that God gives her all the strength to cope and to ease the pain she is feeling. So sorry for your loss. There are many of uss in situations we would prefer not to be in so please stop pointing fingures at this mother who had no choice but to hold her baby, give her a break.

  • irma.white.9 - 2012-09-27 13:37

    The poor family. How devastating, especially when it's not obvious that the baby has suffered an injury (no doubt injuries were internal). I do agree that it is common sense to not hold a baby and also to not drive in a car where you cannot ensure your baby is safe, but honestly we don't know if this bakkie was all the family could afford, we don't know how the father lost control (he could have fallen victim to the numerous potholes on the road)... all we know is that a little baby has lost her life and parents have lost a child. RIP to baby.

  • shaun.ellington.71 - 2012-09-27 13:39

    They should do what they do in Australia. If they find your baby or toddler not in the car seat the police call child services and they take the baby away from the parents cause is show that they are stupid enough to put such a fragile life endanger. RIP little one and my this be a lesson learnt for all the other mothers out there who do not buckle up their kids.

  • lee.theron.9 - 2012-09-27 13:44

    At all of you commenting on this poor mother. How many of you have to or know of people that have to hold their babies in taxi's or buses where there are also no baby seats? If your only way of transport was a bukkie or a vehicle that did not have place for baby seats etc would life stand still for you? I don't think so. I know there are many who are very careless and have facilities to strap their kids in but in this case it is quite clear that they had no other way. Look at the picture first before sending horrible comments.

  • rachael.vs.1 - 2012-09-27 13:44

    For all those people now getting excited because the baby was not secured in a baby seat in a bakkie we have no idea the type off - do you consider that township mother sitting in the taxi with her baby on her lap going to the clinic to get her baby vaccinated? What would you say then, the taxi operator must provide baby seats?! Not everyone is in the same wonderful position as you. For those in that comfy haven, being able to provide all types of safety for your children, including luxuries and crap they dpon't need, rather go and think about how you will teach your kids to think considerately, than passing judgement whereveer their BIG heads feels they are clever enough to. For heavens sake, a baby died, at least spare a thought for the heartbroken parents, especially the mum, who has only been mum to this baby for 2 months, less time than she carried this baby around being pregnant. I know I would lose my head if anything happened to my kids, under whatever circumstances. And if you can't be nice about it, then say nothing!

  • DuToitCoetzee - 2012-09-27 13:51

    Yes, the parents should have made a plan, but lets not calling them names because a lot of our parents and grand parents should than have been called names as well. Specially the ones from the "platteland" RIP little one and all the strength to the parents.

  • charmaine.rowlands - 2012-09-27 13:56

    RIP little Xin Nuo - you are safely home in your Father's House. I'm so sad for your mommy and daddy

  • soraya.februaryjacobs - 2012-09-27 14:04

    Shame on you guys!!!!...RIP little one and May God Be with your Parents in this time ..God Bless Not a Easy Road Wishing you all the Best :(

  • Clayton Richard Delport - 2012-09-27 14:17

    I feel nothing but sadness for this family, having a son of five months old I could not imagine being in a situation like this, may the child be at peace, and all the fkers that has negative comments your a bunch of douch bags!!!!!!!

  • galef - 2012-09-27 14:25

    awwww.....that is so sad.......:(((

  • catgirl1971 - 2012-09-27 14:30

    Moral of the story: when you have children you take CARE of them! Irrespective that this was a bakkie you do NOT drive with a child unsecured

  • JohnnoBfree - 2012-09-27 15:41

    Ever consider that buying a car seat for such a poor person is just way beyond her budget. Show some empathy. RIP baba you are now in the arms of our lord and Savior.

  • kevin.moreland2 - 2012-09-27 15:43

    if there no space for a child seat dont drive with a 2 month old baby!!! that poor mother must feel horrible to the trolls blaming the mother rather dont comment !!!!!

  • Leah - 2012-09-27 15:51

    Sad, sad, sad. Please if you have a child and a car, use a child seat. Those poor parents

  • Desiree.D.Rowe - 2012-09-27 16:46

    Having lost a sister to an accident, I feel for the mother it will be years before she ever comes to terms with the death of her child if she ever does. The child was in the only place it could be inside a bakkie and that was in its mothers arms. Not everyone in this country can afford to own a bakkie and sedan. A little compassion goes a long way, and those who critize the mom I hope you never have to walk a second in her shoes.

  • normboolalor.scizaar - 2012-09-27 17:02

    So.o.o.o. sad! Mother's love :(

  • penelope.mthembu.7 - 2012-09-27 20:39

    May God be with this family :-(

  • teleki.maker - 2012-09-28 03:35

    @Kala,u flipping around moron.

  • shannon.mcmurtrie.3 - 2012-10-03 12:15

    Kala.... I'm with you, on this one!!

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