Mom wants drug addicted son jailed

2012-08-16 08:41

Cape Town - A 52-year-old woman has told of her mixed emotions over her drug addicted son whom she finally reported to police - and why she thought he would be better off in prison.

Bridget van Ballo from Mitchells Plain in Cape Town told the Cape Argus that her son Leeroshe became a menace when he started using drugs at the age of 12.

He stole from her, trashed their house and tried to stab her many times. When he tried to stab her in the eye three months ago, she reported him to police.

Numerous visits to rehab clinics over the years did not help to cure him of his addiction to tik and Mandrax.

On Tuesday, she said she was “sick with nerves and slight feelings of regret. At the end of the day he is still my son and I love him, but he needs to learn a lesson”.

“He will stay clean for two or so days after rehab then go back to the streets to get drugs. He has tried to stab me numerous times.

“On time when I slipped and fell in front of him, he looked me straight in the eye and said ‘you should have died’,” she said.

Van Ballo said since he was in custody, there was peace in her home.

He is now awaiting sentencing.

  • Hemlock - 2012-08-16 08:51

    I feel so heartsore for this mother and the heart breaking situation she is in. But she has my admiration for what she is doing. He deserves to be locked away where he is no longer a menace to her and to society. Be brave mom!

      procold2 - 2012-08-16 09:08

      Agree, i know a family were drugs has been an issue and as much as it breaks a parents heart tough love is what works best ,very very difficult.

      Hemlock - 2012-08-16 09:12

      Totally agree with you procold2.

      squeegee.pilot - 2012-08-16 09:34

      So Pro-drug people, try telling this mom we should decriminalize dope.... After all, according to you drugs are harmless.

      al.chemist.7106 - 2012-08-16 10:38

      and god forbid you should try and restrain your child without some hippie crying child abuse. Feel really sorry for the mom, but as mentioned above tough love does work best.

  • rusted.axe - 2012-08-16 09:01

    If you are going to bring a Life into this world, make sure you know all about managing Life. A worthy parent will raise a child that does not succumb to peer- and imposed social pressures. When you say "Dear God or Whatever! I know enough about life to guide a new being through it", be sure you know what you are doing. Why shouldn't kids all be broken to hell and gone? We are all the products of other people just screwing around and screwing up.

      Hlengiwe - 2012-08-16 09:05

      You clearly do not have teenaged children. Sit down.

      john.loveland.9 - 2012-08-16 09:13

      Either you still too naive to have kids of your own or just plain ignorant. Children have a minds of their own and make their own decisions, unfortunately not always the best ones.

      rusted.axe - 2012-08-16 09:16

      Yes, I am too Naive, too stupid and incompetent. Therefore I don't have them. Or risk having them. That is a LOT more positive than all you idiots who repeatedly try and fail.

      John - 2012-08-16 10:06

      Get real. How many pregnancies are PLANNED. 1% if that! Dont attack the victim! It is out of her control. Where is the FATHER?

      Jane - 2012-08-16 10:32

      Rusted.Axe, I agree and disagree with you. I know of kids who were raised by parents who let them do whatever they wanted. One of my friends moms used to give her and her friends the car on week nights to go clubbing, and she was only 14 at the time. Even when her parents knew she was taking drugs, they left her thinking it was just a phase, when she got older and turned to hard drugs and started running around with gangsters her mom and dad always covered for her and still used to give her money, even though she was in her 20's and never worked a day in her life. All her accounts she ran up and rent she owed people her parents would pay, they never wanted to hear anything bad about her, even when she disappeared into the gang infested flats in Hanover Park for months at a time. When we all tried to intervene and help, we were made to look like bad friends who didnt understand her and her addiction, even though she used to steal from us and lie constantly. 16 years later and her parents still treat her like some poor misunderstood sensitive soul, who just cant handle the pressures of life and therefore needs her tik and crack and heroine to get her through life. Parents need to stop protecting their children and start looking for the signs. Drug addicts do not appreciate your love or concern, all they want is to take what they can get from you and use you to cover for them. They only know how to lie, steal and use people.

      jay.lisher - 2012-08-16 14:25

      @rusted.axe. No-one knows about "managing" life. We just do the best we know how, no matter how wrong in other peoples eyes. We have have a level of common sense and morality that should be the basis of how we live. Lastly, your only the product of other peoples mistakes if you belive you don't deserve better and more for your life than where you came from. EVERYONE has a choice on how they live, how the CHOOSE to treat people and the impression the want to leave on people. Remeber that when you are alone one day, with no one.

      judy.fillmore.7 - 2012-08-16 15:25

      How many little darlings do you have ?

      Anthea Botha - 2013-10-30 20:22

      You are an absolute moron!!!!! Do not comment on subject you do not have any knowledge about, rather keep your ignorant comments to yourself.....

  • Happyness - 2012-08-16 09:05

    Good for you Mom! It takes a REAL mother to go to such lengths to help theie child, even when knowing that your child will not see it that way. Keep strong!

      sachasea - 2012-08-17 17:27

      Please explain to me in what way throwing your child in jail is helping them? Any logical person can see that it's as good as a death sentence.

  • sekwati.robinson - 2012-08-16 09:06

    standing ovation for you dear parent,finaly you realised what nonsense you have brought to this lovely world...many parent defend their sons and daughters,who are hardcore murderers,addicts,thieves,rapists,you find houses fully furnished with stolen property and the mother beaming with pride...this women became their son's alibis every time cops come knocking...until to a point their dear sons rape and kill them....

  • andre.vandeventer.16 - 2012-08-16 09:06

    This proves why drug dealers such as Cwele should be put away for life. They ruin peoples lives out of greed!

      kimsaiyanprincess.murison - 2012-08-16 12:04

      - Unless they are holding guns to each and every user's head, that is not a valid arguement. Dealers make it available, but people choose to buy.

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  • lighthouseprayerandworshipcentre - 2012-08-16 09:18

    I was a drug addict for almost ten years. I went through the whole spectrum of drugs and ended with tik. Medically I should not be alive. Thank God I am not in control of that. I also tried the expensive 28 day programs. They dont work. I also put my mom and family through lots of heartaches. And, yes, there where many circumstances from my past which, in a way played a role in turning out the way I did. But in the end I chose the wrong friends and made the wrong decisions. Anyway, I strongly recommend a long term program, in Healing Wings, Nelspruit. They used to be in Mozambique. I have referred people there before with great success. I have been clean for almost 6 years. You have to get to a point where you bow your knee. I feel really sorry for this lady. I can just say thank you for the unmerited, undeserved grace and forgiveness I received. Many are not so fortunate (PS This is not a "religious" message) its only a message of hope. Louis

      John - 2012-08-16 09:59

      I could not have expressed it better. Well done. I hope your brilliant message is heeded.

  • rusted.axe - 2012-08-16 09:22

    Sighs I never said that prison may not be the solution. I said the problem starts when incapable minds start guiding innocent minds. Yes children have minds of their own, that is why they are born to parents. Stop justifying failures and recognise that the job of a parent is to impart the ability to make optimal life choices. You fail.

      arm.witmens - 2012-08-16 09:29

      your idiotic commentsd are a fail. How old are you? 20? You cannot have control over your child's life 24\7 moron. They go to school and there are many outside influences you as a parent can only hope to control by giving them a decent upbrining. Please dont have children, because morons like you are a classic pro abortion argument.

      squeegee.pilot - 2012-08-16 09:38

      So you created an account so that you can troll here and irritate people with you shallow opinions. Go away Troll. And... please don't ever breed.

      John - 2012-08-16 09:53

      Some children are beyond the control of their parents. People like you who know all the answers should take them in and experience subjective reality. You will have gained some understanding, after which you can pass judgement. This poor mother has the right to her life and the right to her property. I sympathise with her. The son belongs in a psychiatric facility. Prison will not help. He is a psychopath.

      magdaleen.smuts - 2012-08-16 10:11

      rusted.axe. In a sence you are right parents do not take charge of their children when they still very young. I wander why this article struck a nerve so hard in you? I have great respect for this lady. You presume all people are highly intelectual or moral and therefore childrens will be brought up in a perfect home. Your comments proof otherwise. It is very difficult to bring up children with so many outside influences, and there is no manual to help parents .

      sachasea - 2012-08-17 17:45

      John you are absolutely spot on when you say prison will not help this man. A prison is there to hold people until they have served their time and the authorities deem them ready to be released back into society (if ever). Drug rehabilitation does not fall into their remit. Drugs are easy to acquire in prison due to corrupt officials and various other smuggling means. He will be lucky in the extreme if he survives long enough to be let out again. While I disagree wholeheartedly with the decision the mother made I can understand that she was obviously stressed out and desperate and didn't know what else she could do. I blame our society and laws for not offering addicts the treatment that they so desperately need and which instead prefers to sweep this issue under the carpet by incarcerating people.

  • gregmcdavid - 2012-08-16 09:39

    My domestic has the same problem... so much so, she's gone to court to get restraining orders and such like... Pity it's not working.

  • veldt66 - 2012-08-16 09:41

    Just let this thing be sent to prison & throw the keys into nearby sea.

      sachasea - 2012-08-17 17:50

      It's really that simple and easy hey *facepalm*

  • kgaugelo.mashilo.9 - 2012-08-16 09:43

    The lil brat is going to cost us, using drugs at the age of 12 when he was suppose to be playing Geeez, \r\n\r\ncan someone give this woman bells? We need mothers like you

  • hudayfah.newman - 2012-08-16 10:05

    I'm not referring to this woman specifically, but many parents of drug addicted kids simply refuse to address the problem immediately after learning about it. Instead you find many of them covering up for their children and hating those who try to advise them. When these kids end up in jail they are ready to give their last to bail them out. Not long after that, they complain and crying that their children are stealing from them and hitting them etc etc. I know as a parent, you are supposed to care, but I think this type of attitude will cause more harm than anything else.

      sachasea - 2012-08-17 17:54

      It's easier to walk away from a problem than to have the resolve to stay and see it fixed.

  • John - 2012-08-16 10:21

    The son needs to be isolated and given help. He will not respond until he makes the self determined decision that his life is a mess and that he is willing to be helped. The poor mother has no clue how to handle him. Where is the FATHER? A single mother has to provide home and food. On top she must observe the child all day and night. Get real.

  • ndou.miranda - 2012-08-16 10:30

    Sorry mama. That's not a Child but the Devil himself (who does that to their mother?), he has to be locked up in prison at Zimbabwe where he wont get either food or water.I am proud of you for standing firm and speaking out about this issue,their are a lot of woman out the who still up to this day defend their children knowing in their hearts that they children are criminals, so BIG UP!

  • sachasea - 2012-08-17 16:36

    First off prison is the worst possible place to send an addicted loved one. Research has shown that drugs are often easier to get hold of in prison than they are outside in society. Treating drug addiction with the help of other drugs is also a possibility. Now an example where this has definitely not worked is where doctors prescribe methadone to heroin addicts to try to wean them off the heroin. The irony here is that methadone is more addictive and harmful than pure heroin. In recent years scientists have been looking into the use of psychedelic drugs such as LSD (acid), Ayahuasca and Ibogaine as a way to 'reset' the brain of an addict to a state similar to that the person had before he/she became addicted. This research has yielded some positive results so far. Of course the unfortunate fact remains that although these substances could assist addicts in helping to overcome their addictions their use is currently banned by law in most countries thanks to the United Nations Single Convention on Narcotic Drugs 1961 (Amended by a 1972 Protocol).

  • Deborah Hall - 2013-07-20 10:49

    Healing Wings in Mozambique (now in Nelspruit) also saved my sisters life. It is not only about healing the physical addiction, but the mind too & therefore these quick detox programmes simply do not work.

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