Polo star's death 'due to jealousy'

2012-05-03 11:47

Pietermaritzburg - South African polo has lost a talented rising star in what his family believe was his alleged killer’s jealousy over a woman.

Sibusiso Duma, the country’s first developmental polo player to rise to international level, was stabbed at Lidgetton, near Howick, on Workers’ Day.

He was 25 years old and awaiting a visa to play in England, where his polo career was expected to take a big step forward.

Sibusiso’s distraught sister, Sthembile, told The Witness he was killed by the boyfriend of a woman he had dated two years ago.

The woman too was attacked earlier that same day and was hospitalised.


According to a friend who was with Sibusiso on Tuesday afternoon, the attack was unprovoked, Sthembile said.

“This guy apparently just circled Sibusiso and came from behind and pulled a knife and stabbed him. That [first] stab wound was bad.

“He tried to fight but collapsed to the ground on to the road, face first … The attacker was about to flee, but returned and stabbed him several more times, including in the head, while he was already on the ground,” said Sthembile.

Sibusiso suffered five stab wounds, four to his upper body

“This was a vicious attack. He meant to kill him.

“We suspect that his girlfriend had broken up with him again and he blamed Sibusiso,” said Sthembile.

Their family was devastated.

“Our mother is so distraught she won’t eat … We would like that boy to explain; at least that way we could have some semblance of peace.

“What happened is very painful because we do not know why he did it,” said Sthembile.

She added that Sibusiso and the man she believed killed him had exchanged words over the woman about two years ago.

“[Back then] this guy confronted Sibusiso and told him that his girlfriend was breaking up with him because she was now interested in Sibusiso.

“He asked him to leave his girlfriend alone. Sibusiso did not know that the girl had a boyfriend and he called off the relationship. From then on their relationship improved and he would even give Sibusiso lifts in his car.”

Amazing talent

Also mourning Sibusiso’s death was the local polo community.

Dieter Rowe-Setz, Sibusiso’s manager and mentor for the last decade, said no words could explain how he felt.

Sibusiso was supposed to have left South Africa for England last week.

“England is where all the important people in polo go to watch. They would have seen his talent and his career would have improved dramatically,” Rowe-Setz explained.

“Everything for him had been set, including his ticket, but there were delays at the high commission with the visa not coming through.”

Rowe-Setz said Sibusiso was part of his family.

“I met him at the Lions River Polo Club where I noticed his talent. He had amazing skill and ball co-ordination.”

Rowe-Setz said he organised a trip for Sibusiso trip to Argentina through the Maybach Foundation.

Clive Peddle of the SA Polo Association called Sibusiso’s death a huge loss for the game.

Sibusiso started playing polo professionally at the Lions River Polo Club at the age of 13. His father was a groom and his mother a domestic worker for farmer, the late Dave Kimber.

Sibusiso’s rise in polo was largely due to talent, determination and a community that supported him to succeed.

His family’s living room was adorned with memorabilia, including trophies, medals, man-of-the-match awards and pictures of him playing polo around the world.

One was of him with Britain’s Princes William and Harry.

Sibusiso represented South Africa against Australia in the Kirkland International in 2009, scoring five goals in the game and receiving a player-of-the match award.

He had won the same award in Ghana; he also played in Nigeria, Argentina, England and Spain.

Police spokesperson Lolly Moodley confirmed the death and said the police were expecting to make an arrest soon.

Sibusiso will be laid to rest at his Impendle homestead on May 12.

  • philani.goba - 2012-05-03 11:57

    the boy was going to England for goodness sake

      Warwick Bristow - 2012-05-03 22:05

      So tragic. This young man had wonderful opportunities ahead of him, what a waste.

  • xbuthelezi - 2012-05-03 12:00

    RIP, boss.

  • John - 2012-05-03 12:01

    Such Filth!!!! they should stab the killer to death so that he can suffer the same way this young man suffered to his death....

      Matthew - 2012-05-03 15:27

      No dude.that would be showing him kindness make it slow and'll be more satisfying,trust me

  • sbongezulu - 2012-05-03 12:10

    Jealousy is dangerous...

  • sbongezulu - 2012-05-03 12:11

    Jealousy is dangerous...

  • siyadyosiba - 2012-05-03 12:17

    Horrific death and loss of a valuable life to the country. RIP

  • Jacques - 2012-05-03 12:22

    Human life is so cheap these days, it's sickening!

  • Mandy - 2012-05-03 12:38

    RIP Sbu, you were a legend in your own time :-(

  • leigh.windvogel - 2012-05-03 12:42

    My heart bleeds, his future was so bright, he was going places. Crime is spiralling out of controll and our little voices here on News24 cannot do anything to change it. Blame our F**cked up government ............these criminals know that they will walk away scot free *RIP Sbu*

  • Sibongile - 2012-05-03 12:47

    Why are we so angry??

      Rob - 2012-05-03 13:37

      40 million + reasons

  • Gieljam - 2012-05-03 12:47

    Any murder as such is a loss. What I still need to see is News24 reporting of an 34 year old mother shot dead in their house in front of her small children on a farm 2 days ago surely that should have been reported?

      DuToitCoetzee - 2012-05-03 13:27 Happy? RIP young man. I just saw you riding/playing the other day on tv in one of my sleepless nights and was quite happy that diversity flows through as well as one having such talent. It is always hart-sore seeing a young person start living a dream and than this happens.

      Pixie86 - 2012-05-03 22:51

      it was reported

  • osunmo.abiodun - 2012-05-03 13:33

    That's tragic...horrible end to a raw gold that is waiting to be polished. Adieu Sib

  • Mandisa - 2012-05-03 13:55

    It's a surprise how the papers can lie!!!! firstly the guy who stabbed Sbu was a nobody! he didnt even own a bicycle and still lived with his family. he had a room built outside the family home. He didn't have any car that is said to have been used to give Sbu a lift after they forgave each other. I don't understand why the police haven't arrested him because he has nowhere to run to, he's just a lousy ass hole who was under the influence of "idliso" by his girlfriend. It would have been so much better if that bitch died instead of someone who was so good to the community.

  • howard.komati - 2012-05-03 22:24

    The problem wth blacks is Jealousy and Greed this is a clear indication tht the attacker wanted him dead. How can u stab a person, run away and make a u turn just to continue stabbing him? My condolences to his family.

      Warwick Bristow - 2012-05-04 05:18

      It is wrong to say this is a black thing, this is a human thing, it is irresponsible to make generalized statements like that.

      Thapelo - 2012-05-04 11:22

      i use to think like that, ur mind need rehabilitation my friend u will what u wanna c.

  • des.maartens - 2012-05-04 09:29

    I can,t believe what happened here. I like many South Africans have been so impressed over the years watching Sobisiso's rising progress. I am so sorry to have to express my deepest sympathies to Sobisiso's mother and father and the rest of his family including his mentors. Sobisiso, my man, thank you for showing so many of we South Africans how humble beginnings did not prevent your wonderful rise to stardom. My tears are for your loved ones that you have left behind. If there is glory in the afterlife I'm sure you will find it. Rest in Peace.

  • Thapelo - 2012-05-04 11:27

    he would have lifted his family out of poverty in 5yrs time. im sad.

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