Pregnant teens most afraid of parents

2012-06-13 08:28

Johannesburg - Pregnant teenagers are more scared of their parents than HIV, sexually transmitted diseases, or babies, according to a report on Tuesday.

"My mom chased me away. Maybe when I have had the baby I can go home and go back to school," a 16-year-old said during a group session at a clinic, The Herald newspaper reported.

A 17-year-old orphan, chased away by her guardian when she fell pregnant, said: "At least now I have a baby, which means I have someone to love. He is my whole life now."

According to Jean Downey, director of New Life Crisis Pregnancy Centre in Uitenhage: "Girls have sex for money. We are teaching our daughters to be prostitutes. They are doing it for shoes and for airtime."


When girls who had been raped came to the centre and were interviewed, they were surprised to learn that they could say no, The Herald reported.

"When we tell the girls they can say no, it is your body, boys cannot demand sex from you, it is not a prerequisite to love, they are completely surprised and almost shocked."

Thandi Plaatjie, a community worker at the Healthy Mom and Baby Clinic in Jeffreys Bay, said lack of access to contraception was not the cause of teenage pregnancies.

"There is no problem with access to contraceptives. These girls are clued up. They are just curious and then end up with the consequences of a stupid decision."

She said the majority of their patients, aged around 13, fell pregnant because of coercive sex.

"One of my patients is 13-years-old and pregnant. Her mother brought her here for contraceptives. Then we found out that she was already pregnant. She had sex with a man for airtime and again for hair relaxant."


Abortions took place every 10 minutes at Eastern Cape clinics, The Times reported on Tuesday.

Pregnant schoolgirls, some as young as 12, were putting a strain on the Eastern Cape abortion clinics.

The Annual Surveys for Ordinary Schools for 2009-2010 report shows that of the 45 276 teenage pregnancies recorded, 8 420 were in the Eastern Cape.

Staff at the women's clinic at Dora Nginza Hospital in Port Elizabeth were seeing between 16 and 20 young women daily, according to the report.

Dozens were turned away because their pregnancies were too advanced.

Many of the women then resorted to illegal abortions, resulting in an increase in maternal deaths.

Eastern Cape health spokesperson Sizwe Kupelo told The Times: "There is an increasing demand for abortion because teenagers do not want to use contraceptives.

"Instead, they use termination of pregnancy as a means of contraception."

  • Preshen - 2012-06-13 08:39

    They must learn from their parents mistake and use birth control

      eil33nn - 2012-06-13 08:56

      The parents must wake up and teach their kids to say no, to abstain that abortions are not the answer and that you can't have a baby when you are a kid yourself!

      benita.debeer.58 - 2012-10-17 09:13

      I seriously think Christians in South Africa and the churches in South Africa should start getting involved in heloing these people in the EC. If we teach them the Christian values of marriage as the only morally accepted relationshop in which 2 people are allowed to have sex, we can help them. Contraceptives will not solve the problem. Abortion will not solve the problem. Sex education without God in the picture will also not solve the problem. Then their parents should teach them that they should not sell their bodies for money, as your body is supposed to be the temple of the Holy Spirit. They should teach them that selling your body for anything is prostitution and sin against your own body. Do they even know that they can die of all the deadly virusses that comes with sex the way they practise it? See, if sex is taught outside of marriage and without the blessing of God within a marital relationship, it will always go wrong (refer to the Bible). Children are so exposed to sex while they grow up in homes where God is not. I guess their parents have also fallen prey to the sin of prostitution, and other sexual sins. Many of them live together, are not committed in a marriage, fall pregnant without planning it, have sex for money, sexually abuse their own children..etc...Children copy their parents. Children do what they see. So my suggestion would be to bring the people back to God, teach them from a young age about God, who He is, how He demands us to live.

  • anthonycharles.williams - 2012-06-13 08:41

    what can one say, parents wake up.

  • Nosiphom - 2012-06-13 08:49

    If they were scared enough of their parents, they would not fall pregnant. Or maybe its just being more scared of their parents that HIV, but not scared enough to convince them to refrain form that which will make them pregnant?

  • lenny.kagiso - 2012-06-13 09:00

    No. . .ways they fall pregnant for their own reasons.can you imagine sleeping with an old man for R5 airtime..and Pep shoes. .

      berni.venter - 2012-06-14 15:50

      @Lenny, when that dirty old bastard gets thrown into jail for statutory rape maybe this insanity will stop. Time for the applicable Minister to stand up and make an example of a few scum bags that have sex with children. BTW - Intergenerational sex is one of the biggest drivers of the HIV pandemic.

  • Mary - 2012-06-13 09:00

    Seeing as our kids spend a lot of time at school as well maybe the life orientation learning should change as well as us as parents approach to explaining to our kids they should abstain from unprotected sex. But the it is in our hands as parents

  • adln.ntsielo - 2012-06-13 09:05

    Airtime hairdo 4 a quickie = baby mama 4 life!!!

  • farmfreund - 2012-06-13 09:27

    This is because this sick world called SA her father is normaly the childs father as well

  • Nasiefa - 2012-06-13 09:52

    Very easy to blame the parents!! but what our kids do when we not around we dont know, i wish i could be around my daughters 24/7 to protect them from the evil of this world but we cant. All we can do is pray that we raised them with morals and dignity not to fall into peer pressure and do whats right!! please let us stop blaming the parents and focus on educating our kids !

      chizgal - 2012-06-14 10:17

      @Nas, "charity begins at home" we aren't around them, GRANTED!! but that doesn't mean that when a child is taught of things...they'll easily forget them, parents have created an atmosphere at home where teens are treated like infants.....and parents wants to depend on LO classes at school....who's responsible for what we teach our children? we need to cultivate what they see on tv, outside our homes and instill our own morals....communication is key. (i'm 27years old female, i have no kid as yet...coz i still hold dear to the teachings that were instilled by my single parent-mom... i've been tempted...and i've erred along the way but i've always made sure that i rectify all the wrongs i've done) Peer pressure can be dealt with, our teens aren't participating in sports or any other activities, parents aren't motivating them to partake in such, but all they do is compare their children with those of their neighbours and not encourage, support theirs hence they have enough time to galavant and do nothing with their lives...BUT make babies.... i'm totally against abortion irregardless of how one conceived. And i'm honored to know alot of people who even after being raped they've kept their babies....Parents are to be blamed, that i express boldly.

  • jeffrey.harmesson - 2012-06-13 10:07

    Why aren't these kids (of both genders) being taught this stuff in school as well as at home. (Or perhaps, why aren't these kids being taught this stuff, at all?)

      benita.debeer.58 - 2012-10-17 09:20

      Good question. But.... we cannot expect of anyone else except ourselves to teach our children about right and wrong. We can demand that they are taught at school too, but primarily the responsibility lies with the parents. Also, we cannot expect a teenager to understand the danger of sex outside marriage, because they are clueless about life. All they might know is that they can make a few bucks by having sex with a stranger, but that is just what society and the world has taught them. If we want to protect them from evil we have to teach them the right way of doing things, and we should not expose them to the wrong things. Godly discipline and love will help you. Good control over one's family and children while you pray for them and guide them wisely will solve these problems.

  • samantha.5243 - 2012-06-13 11:27

    if this is how they look at sex, then they should be steralised when they come in for their abortion- instead of treating pregnancy as they do now- they have no respect for the life they are creating- for airtime and hair relaxant???????/- are you serious!

      chizgal - 2012-06-14 10:24

      So true, Sam. I fail to really comprehend their level of thinking, but then again, such says alot about our homes. If a child behaves like this outside our homes, then how are they inside? and how's the parenting like?...... We have a long way to go, this generation is worse than that of our mothers i must admit!

  • Emile - 2012-06-13 12:54

    what happened to my other comment? it got deleted somehow

      delish7564 - 2012-06-13 14:32

      My comment has also been deleted, can't understand why!!!!

  • pmalungana - 2012-06-13 14:02

    I think sex must be criminalised like drugs when you have it before marriage , perhaps this will prevent these kind of things from hapenning

      chizgal - 2012-06-14 10:27 have an age restriction...coz not everyone will be married...hahahahahaaa.....(sorry to laugh, i just find abit of humour in your comment)but then, yeah....there should be some law on this issue - i concur.

      benita.debeer.58 - 2012-10-17 09:29

      I would like to agree with you, but only a small percentage of peolple in SA really know why and when they are allowed to have sex with each other according to ou Creator, God. Why? Because they don't know our Creator. They don't know what the God teach us in the Bible. By criminalising sex we will not keep them from doing it for the wrong reasons. Sexual sin is part of what every human being is born into. We were all born in sin (thanks to Adam and Eve), and according to the Bible no one is without sin. Therefor, we have to confess our sins and accept Jesus Christ as our Saviour and Redeemer, and then turn our backs on our sinful past and our sinful flesh. That is the Gospel of Jesus Christ. We can walk away and say no, and the power of the Holy Spirit helps us.

  • berni.venter - 2012-06-14 15:45

    Whoa dude... WE are teaching our children to become prostitutes??? Who exactly are you referring to? This is what you get when a country's moral compass is out of whack. Anyone having sex with a minor should be prosecuted to the full extent of the law. Furthermore, contraception is the responsibility of BOTH parties. Should a pregnancy occur BOTH parties are to be held financially responsible. If the sperm donor cannot cough up then the parents should be held accountable by default. I am very sorry, but I only had one child because I knew I cannot afford to educate, clothe and feed more. I don't see where it is my responsibility to provide for people who give absolutely no forethought to the consequences of their actions!

  • solomon.matli - 2012-08-23 11:23

    Prevention is always better than cure. That simply means constant communication with our kids (girls and boys)is very important to prevent sex at an early age. Encouraging kids 2 use condoms should not be the 1st resort. Lets rather encourage them 2 wait until they are a bit oldet when their careers have been established. Lets also not blame only girls as they cant impregnate themselves.

      benita.debeer.58 - 2012-10-17 09:35

      I agree because it is just conveying a wrong message that: sex outside marriage is OK. And also, God never intended sex with more than one partner, neither outside of marriage. The old Israelites would have stoned someone to death for these kinds of sexual sin. I am not saying we should stone anyone, just that we cannot educate children about HIV/AIDS or contraceptives if they don't even know why they should abstain from sex in the first place. So teaching kids about condoms is not helping at all, as it only teaches them the easy escape routes from the real truth about sex and marriage.

  • lisa.c.Biermann - 2012-10-17 09:06

    Get iron panties with lock on. till they reach an age of maturity. so that young and old men cant take advantage of these young woman... one cant blame the parents for teens mistakes. teens are suborn and immature.. and think they always right.. just a pity there are so many unwanted babies if they dont want to use condoms and the pill, then get an iron pantie

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