Raped wife wins landmark case

2012-01-19 08:50

Pretoria - In a landmark case in the Krugersdorp Magistrate’s Court, a man has been sentenced to 12 years in jail for physically abusing and raping his wife over a period of 12 years.

The case of Annelise Kriek, 47, marks the first reported case of rape in a marriage since the new Domestic Violence Act of 1996, The Times reported.

Kriek fought a lengthy battle to stop the abuse at the hands of Frederik Christiaan Bossert, 48. She gave permission for her name to be used.

She initially laid three rape charges against her husband and also got a restraining order against him.

The court heard how the abuse started after only one year of marriage. Her husband allegedly assaulted her, tried to drown and strangle her, and repeatedly raped her.

In one instance he twisted her nose after she came out of hospital following a nose operation.

Kriek stated that she was assaulted almost every day.

On sentencing, the magistrate said he was horrified by Bossert’s actions.

Kriek laid the first criminal charges in 2004 and had to wait seven years for justice to be served. But she said it was worth it - and it was a message to other women afraid to leave abusive relationships.

Bossert plans to appeal his conviction and sentence.

  • procold2 - 2012-01-19 08:54

    what a sick human being, well done to the lady for sticking it out and seening to it that justice was served.

      Gareth - 2012-01-19 09:24

      Good for her.... But to wait 7 years for Justice, That's not on.....

      Kevin.Robb.PieDesigns - 2012-01-19 09:28

      Looks like there's a rapist & abuser who dislike your comment. Mmmmmm it always boggles my mind at how some can hit the dislike button when it SHOULD go against moral conscience. Unless of course he/she made a mistake of course.

      Schmee - 2012-01-19 10:00

      No Kevin looking at the dislikes on your comment I would say that there were no mistakes. That's quite worrying. Maybe they are having difficulty understanding that a women still owns her own body after marriage.

      Mildly_Amused - 2012-01-19 10:13

      or trolls... just saying...

      Janice - 2012-01-19 10:35

      Alls well that ends well, BUT what did she stick around for twelve years for???

      Ann - 2012-01-19 11:27

      Quite sick that he is even allowed to appeal the sentence! I know all about constitutional rights, but there should also be rights for victims of psychopaths of which so many are coming to light in our beautiful country! People like this should just be obliterated from the face of the earth - they are oxygen thieves who contribute absolutely nothing to society ...

  • Terry - 2012-01-19 08:58

    well done I do hope other woman will wake up and do the same,good luck for your future

      dumisiledee - 2012-01-19 10:05

      Why the thumbs down you sickos?

      stefan.vanderspuy - 2012-01-19 10:21

      Because they're the dregs of humanity in our community; those who are probably abusing their wives or girlfriends.

      atomasicchio - 2012-01-19 13:13

      I am not sure women are the problem when the justice system lets them down all the time!!

      markus.botha - 2012-01-19 14:03

      I think many of these "thumbs down's" are TuTu's.

  • Desiree - 2012-01-19 09:00

    Justice at last...but why did it take 7 years to get a conviction?!

      Siso - 2012-01-19 09:20

      Exactly Desiree you can say that again, and unfortunately we wont know the answer to that.

      dumisiledee - 2012-01-19 10:06

      @Bones stop blaming the SAP and Judicial Services man tjeer, blame the phucken moron who did this to her.

  • Sharmay - 2012-01-19 09:00

    It's a big positive step for women in the country.

  • Siso - 2012-01-19 09:01

    It was a long wait but it was worth it, so he's getting twelve years because he abused her for twelve years. How can one abused those they love dearly, some people needs help.

      Gail - 2012-01-19 09:16

      He obviously didn't love her.

      Thelma - 2012-01-19 09:23

      He did not love her as a wife/women but loved what he could do to her....

      carpejugulim - 2012-01-19 09:25

      well said Thelma

  • Cindy - 2012-01-19 09:08

    Brave lady! Slow Justice! If this creep gets the conviction overturned on appeal it will be a dark day for women in SA

  • Hector - 2012-01-19 09:09

    About time ... Hope this is not the last ... lock the pigs up so they too may be abused ..

  • Elbie - 2012-01-19 09:13

    That good for you. Wish you just happines and freedom for you and your family

  • Elbie - 2012-01-19 09:26

    Wish you the best of a good life ahead. just happines forr the years to come

  • David - 2012-01-19 09:28

    He is a very sick bastard. Raping his own wife. Any rapist should have their testicles and penis cut off and fed to them.

      Chimera - 2012-01-19 15:55

      And if a woman rapes a man, can we mutilate her body in the name of justice? What a stupid comment to make. I'm all for an abusive person getting their due punishment, but don't think advocating cutting people up demonstrates moral superiority or any kind of justice.

  • Genesistt - 2012-01-19 09:28

    Good for her! Just because a woman marries a man doesn't give him the right to abuse her. I'm very glad she got justice.

  • uwe.klopfer - 2012-01-19 09:29

    i hope this sends a message that sex with your partner is a privilege, not a right. Fear does strange things to people

      Fiona - 2012-01-19 11:06

      Yup - abusers think they are acting like "strong men", but they are at heart fearful cowards. To all those would-be abusers out there, when you feel like venting your fear or anger on the person you vowed to cherish, be brave enough to hold it in like a true man and walk away from the person you want to abuse. Be brave enough to admit you need LOTS of help rather than beating up the person you claim to love. Or you may end up needing to learn how to live with and face other vicious men in prison.

  • Wendy - 2012-01-19 09:30

    Can't believe that 7 years had to pass for justice .. an absolutely shocking indictment on our judicial system.

      aardvarkie - 2012-01-19 11:49

      So true - I wonder how many women gave up before even three or four years? Anyone who has been even slightly through the court system will know what a depressing, bungle of a nightmare it is.

      Ryann - 2012-01-19 13:06

      Help us change this.Facebook Wacha Women's March 2012 also there 250 000 kids waiting for us to support their efforts.

  • Ian - 2012-01-19 09:33

    hang the bastard

      Ryann - 2012-01-19 13:06

      Help us change this.Facebook Wacha Women's March 2012 also there 250 000 kids waiting for us to support their efforts.

  • gembleton1 - 2012-01-19 09:34

    Well done to the lady, the idiot husband should go to jail and should not even been given a opportunity to appeal, this man is not a man because real men don’t do these kind of things , I hope he gets what`s coming to him in jail.

  • Michelle - 2012-01-19 09:35

    Finally!!! good for her - its time realised that being married doesnt give you an all access card!!

  • Fran - 2012-01-19 09:43

    Sick pig.

  • Caryn - 2012-01-19 09:44

    and he gets 12 years! what a joke!

  • SGL - 2012-01-19 09:45

    Well done Annelise! Physically you may have been weaker, but mentally and emotionally you have beaten him. I hope you find a real man who will love you and treat you with respect.

  • Oscar - 2012-01-19 09:46

    so you fnd the husbands behaviour normal moss? I feel very sorry for your wife or girlfriend

      Mildly_Amused - 2012-01-19 10:21

      Doubt he has one. That's why he's trolling. Because he needs the attention.

  • Barbara - 2012-01-19 09:51

    throw him in jail with rapists!

  • Erich - 2012-01-19 09:52

    Justice delayed is justice denied. Why should it take so long before the case was brought to finality.

  • Lana - 2012-01-19 09:57

    More and more of these cases come to light.....

  • Silvana - 2012-01-19 10:00

    At last justice has been served in a case like this. Shouldn't have taken 7 years though. Well done Annelise Kriek. I truly hope other abused women follow in your footsteps.

  • Col - 2012-01-19 10:03

    YOU GO GIRL !!! Pity it took so long.

  • Stanley Nkhumeleni - 2012-01-19 10:29

    You rape your wife for 12 years, you'll get raped for 12 years...

      dumisiledee - 2012-01-19 10:50

      They should have doubled that.

  • chris.kleynhans - 2012-01-19 10:30

    We all have the right to our own body and our person and if we don't want it we don't want it and that right must be respected and enforced by the law. Having said that we also have to understand that we are also sexual beings with sexual needs and it is also abuse for somebody to enter into a marriage with the double edge sword that he can only have sex with his wife but he is denied sex by her. In cases like this, the law should accept that such a husband should have the right to look for love somewhere else without it becoming an issue in a divorce case. Modern marriages are complicated because of the pressure and stresses of life and not everybody experience it in the same way. Some people just don't want sex and we have to accept it and forced sex is rape. I believe the laws around marriage needs to be changed and we need to look at it in a complete different way. Its this sort of conflict that leads to family murders etc because there are no way for stresses to be resolved.

      E - 2012-01-19 10:55

      You start out well, and then lose yourself in your own convoluted argument. How do you know she denied him sex? No one enters into a marriage with the intention to withhold intercourse. No one has the right to demand sex, not even a husband from a wife. The woman thought her husband loved her - if he did, he would not have abused her, period. ..."no way for stresses to be resolved" ...? Chris, it's called 'talking'.

      hannesenbrianda - 2012-01-19 10:55

      Chris, I struggle to see the rationale to look for love elsehere while you are married. If sexual incompatability is such a big issue then it is surely grounds for a divorce. I see no reason to look for love elsewhere while you are married.

      E - 2012-01-19 10:56

      ... oh, and don' forget 'listening' !!

      Ina - 2012-01-19 10:57

      I don't know why Chris got thumbs downs here, because what he said is absolutely correct. Further down ludlowdj says approximately the same thing. Good, clear, objective thinking, which is what we what need more of in these comments. Having said that, it is not always easy to get out of abusive relationships which is also addressed by The Watcher and carpujugulim. Nothing is ever as straight forward as it would seem.

      chris.kleynhans - 2012-01-19 11:05

      Read carefully what I said. I didn't say this lady withheld sex, we don't know what happened. I said, if, and it does happen, that there should be legal grounds to look for it elsewhere and that our society should be open to that. Divorce affects kids and family stability and stability in the family is important for stability in the country. I am looking at a country where the divorce rate is around 50% already and I say we have to start to become realistic about this. There is no point in denying it and let our kids suffer in this way. Be open and listen to what I say. The point I was making that if a woman denies sex, which may happen at some point, that the man's infidelity should not be the grounds for a divorce where she can lay claim to his possesions, i.e. there should be fairness when we deal with a person's basic sexual needs. Of course, it may be different where there are actually a well functioning sexual relationship.

      Moi - 2012-01-19 11:16

      @ Chris - what do you comments have to do with the current article??? This is not about divorce, this is about a "man" who physically abused his wife for 12 years.

      Schmee - 2012-01-19 11:17

      Okay Chris, let me just see if I understand you correctly. If for some medical reason a man cannot get an erection and is unable to satisfy his wife, then his wife should look for sex elsewhere?

      Fiona - 2012-01-19 11:18

      Hey Chris - it is easier to get a divorce these days than to get married! There is no excuse to stay in a marriage while abusing your spouse or cheating on him or her. While you are in you are in. If you want to get out, get out. There is no excuse for staying in and abusing your spouse with violence or adultery. If unhappy, leave first and then take your chances elsewhere.

      Fiona - 2012-01-19 11:25

      @ Chris's second comment - who said that a family is stable when the parents are embroiled in violence or adultery? How many adults are scarred from their childhood in "stable" marriages where the parents abused each other physically or emotionally? Anyone who continues in such a marriage "for the sake of the kids" should not fool themselves that they have a stable family or that their kids are not damaged. Sort yourselves out or part.

      Schmee - 2012-01-19 11:35

      Well said Fiona. There is nothing stable about an abusive marriage.

      chris.kleynhans - 2012-01-19 12:00

      Thanks for getting personal Fiona and others. I was not talking about myself, I am looking for a solution. I am not married. I am looking for an honest solution to one of the biggest problems of society and judgmental people and close minded people like yourself prevent us from doing so. and Schmee, a marriage in which one partners came in and expecting sex and the other partner don't want is also abusive..It would be pure torture for me to get married just to discover that I am now forced into life long celibacy. Very abusive indeed.

      Schmee - 2012-01-19 12:09

      Okay Chris I may almost agree with you just because I understand where you are coming from. But you still haven't answered my first question. If for some medical reason a man cannot get an erection and is unable to satisfy his wife, then should his wife look for sex elsewhere?

      Ross - 2012-01-19 12:19

      You don't go into a marriage expecting sex. You go into marriage expecting things to carry on as they always have been during the course of the relationship up to that date. If you have been with a woman for any amount of time and are not happy with the dynamics of your sexual relationship or any other part of the relationship, then you probably shouldn't be getting married and expecting things to suddenly change!Ensuring you have a happy and stable relationship where you are both satisfied with all aspects is essential before committing. If things change after marriage and they can't be resolved, then you separate and get divorced. That is the legal inclusion that is already present! To suggest there should be a law to allow disillusioned or foolish people to get some whilst being absolved of all responsibility is bonkers!

      chris.kleynhans - 2012-01-19 12:51

      Schmee, I didn’t say it is compulsory. It is volutional. It happens in any case and all I am trying to say is that the laws that govern this should be changed in a case where the wife/husband is basically unwilling (in a lesser case unable) to maintain the sexual relationship. I think that a husband that has erectile problems can still make a plan to satisfy his wife to a great extend but his own satisfaction will obviously at stake. So there is merit. But as I said, it is not a compulsory thing and it should preferably not be a secret but a open agreement between husband and wife. I just want fairness in a situation where a wife/husband denies sex or use it to a great extend to control the other party, that the subsequent infidelity does not get punished. In a marriage where there is no sex but the two people can live together in harmony and there are children, the children will benefit from the parents remaining together. So, if there is that kind of openness without legal implications, I think it should be a route that should exist.

      Schmee - 2012-01-19 13:16

      Chris, maybe in that case both parties should see a psychologist first. Open marriages a fraught with problems, such as jealousy and increased risk of contracting STDs. Besides problems in a marriage usually manifest themselves in the bedroom and going somewhere else for sex tends to close down communication completely. A man that threatens to get sex elsewhere is also being abusive towards his wife.

  • Oscar - 2012-01-19 10:37

    ok guys don't laugh - I am new here and don't know what "trolling" means. will someone please explain?

      Klipkop - 2012-01-19 10:45

      Is Wikipedia still down.. Comments that have no relevance to the article.. basically. What you just did:-D Welcome Oscar.

      E - 2012-01-19 10:58

      being a jerk, no matter what the subject

      Wall - 2012-01-19 11:01

      What Klipkop said, plus added, it's usually done to get a negative reaction from people.

      Schmee - 2012-01-19 11:22

      It seems that you also get trolls that just like clicking the dislike 'hand'. Because they can! Welcome Oscar.

      JustMe - 2012-01-19 12:45

      I agree with E: "being a jerk, no matter what the subject". Trolls tend to create fake facebook profiles so that you can't trace their comments back to them, and so that their friends and families can't see what sick people they really are. In general: a troll is a coward that tries to P people of because finally he/she doesn't have to be afraid of retribution because of his/her anonymity. Pathetic creatures, really.

      Schmee - 2012-01-19 13:23

      There we are Oscar, another example of a troll in Ryann.

      dumisiledee - 2012-01-19 13:25

      This Ryan dude is also trolling

  • Klipkop - 2012-01-19 10:38

    I am completely amazed that there are people here that think it is okay to rape your wife. We truly live is sick times my friends. By the way porn is one of the reasons why there are so many negative comments here. Rotten to the core our world.

      Thelma - 2012-01-19 10:51

      Agree 100% with you. I could start a discussion about it but I don't think it will go down very well with some of the readers!

      Klipkop - 2012-01-19 10:52

      in sick times I meant ^ trigger happy again.. let me add I feel very sorry for this lady and I think she is very brave. All the best to her. Hubby deserves to spend a long time in prison.

  • sh.fish1 - 2012-01-19 10:40


      dumisiledee - 2012-01-19 10:52

      I give up!!! You're such a disgrace

      Paul - 2012-01-19 10:55

      You having a brain is also a first !!

      Dawn - 2012-01-19 11:00

      hulo! what planet do u come from??? its is certainly NOT a first! happens all the time. u and the other morons who think because u are married to a woman u cant be charged with rape -WTF?? get with the programme idiot! marriage is not a pass to abuse a woman! that went out with the square wheel! also to all the idiots who think that removing a man's penis will stop the rape - duh? have u ever seen the results of someone who has been raped with an object? believe me u dont want to. this is a power crime, not driven by sexual urges but by a sick mind. well done to the lady, I salute u!! but 12 years is not enuf,unless he spends them being continuously raped as he did to her. now the taxpayer has to pay for his time behind bars. anyhow Annalise, blessings to u and may u find peace in your soul after all the trauma.

      logical007 - 2012-01-19 11:06

      @SH.FISH Marrying a lady does not mean you OWN the the lady!!!! A lady still has the right to make her own decisions about what she wants to do or does not want to do! A man has no right to 'touch' a lady without her consent in or out of wedlock! Especially abusing her by hitting her!

      J-Man - 2012-01-19 11:28


      Schmee - 2012-01-19 11:29

      Ummmmm yes skattie, this is a landmark case. Not first time there is rape inside marriage but first time the husband has been found guilty. You better watch that your wife doesn't take you to court too. Best you play nice now okay?

  • Charmaine - 2012-01-19 10:40

    Thank Thee Lord, for prayers answered.But I still say, cut off their penis.

  • ludlowdj - 2012-01-19 10:45

    In terms of the law a husband or wife can get a divorce on the grounds of withholding marriage rights (sex). This means that the husband could at any time have addressed the courts and had a court order issued ordering his/her partner to make such rights available within a certain time period or have the marriage dissolved a good thing for someone in a dead marriage to remember. In this case the husbands decision to force himself on his wife cannot be excused, and the story line available would indicate that this is simply an abusive husband getting what due to him.

      E - 2012-01-19 11:01

      You automatically assume she "withheld marriage rights". Do you know that for a fact? Most likely she did not, but he wanted more, like a spoiled child, thinking only of himself.

      chris.kleynhans - 2012-01-19 11:15

      E, he didn't say it, you did, just as you said it and not me on my comment. But more than that, divorce is not an easy matter and it affects kids ludlowdj and that is why I propose that the law change to allow for open marriages in which the wife/husband by law should not lay claim to his possessions if he looks for sex elsewhere.

      Fiona - 2012-01-19 11:28

      Don't you think it is kinda hard to feel sexy and loving after you have been abused or beaten???

  • kevin.moreland2 - 2012-01-19 10:46

    why didnt she leave the abusive relationship sooner?

  • Azurite - 2012-01-19 10:46

    Why did she never file for a divorce during those 12 years? I'm suspicious!

      dumisiledee - 2012-01-19 10:53

      Guys its not as easy as you make out to be. Talking from experience

      judith.h.smith - 2012-01-19 14:39

      It is very difficult to leave an abusive relationship. In many cases the woman is financially dependent on her husband and has nowhere else to go. The stigma attached to being an abused woman is great, and many women are unable to face the added trauma of turning to family and friends for support where it is not forthcoming. The more understanding and tolerance we can show in these cases, the better it would be for everyone concerned. Let's not judge people or their relationships but offer love, kindness and support wherever possible.

  • Sylvester Mohloli - 2012-01-19 10:51

    lol i am sure he is currently watching 'Why did i get married', bt really dude if she aint giving u any, move along, nw they be rear-ending u for 12 years inside bcz u cdnt control ur other brain?, nc nc nc

      Ryann - 2012-01-19 13:11

      Help us change this.Facebook Wacha Women's March 2012 also there 250 000 kids waiting for us to support their efforts.

  • Paul - 2012-01-19 10:53

    I hope he gets raped by his new wife in prison !!!!

  • Paul - 2012-01-19 10:54

    I hope he gets raped by his new wife in prison !!

  • clivegoss - 2012-01-19 10:57

    Sick puppy hang him

  • Zimbobwe - 2012-01-19 11:05

    Looks like they are really coming out of the closet now. Tired of hiding the evil monsters roaming in their communities!!! 1.Johan"rubbish in his trouseers"Kotze 2.The guy who skinned and ate 4 dogs. 3.Incest family in Pretoria North. 4.Now this monster. The truth will always come out. It looks like some people are not saints as we were made to beleive.

      Gcwabe-KaMavovo - 2012-01-19 11:46

      - Ms Henning's assassins - The Lotter kids who killed their parents in Durban - Sunday rapist - Welkom satanist killers

  • ian.rundle1 - 2012-01-19 11:16

    Good for her. Males that think this behaviour against women is acceptable should be removed from society on a permanent basis.

  • Martin - 2012-01-19 11:17

    Shame on these men. I wonder what religion they follow. Obviosly didnt teach them the rights of women.

      Moi - 2012-01-19 11:20

      What does their religion have to do with it? People from all walks of life that claim to be religious do all sorts of things behind closed doors.

  • Gregory - 2012-01-19 11:22

    Father figure Wall? That is simplistic thinking (on your part). Many thousands of women will tell you the real reasons they stay in abusive relationships, which will make no sense to an outsider not in an abusive or not have experienced an abusive relationship. Having a father figure for her or their children is not one of them.

      Reinette - 2012-01-19 11:33

      I agree Gregory. They usually stay because they “cannot afford to leave” and to me that’s just bull. And please don’t start with the “what do you know”. I know, I grew up like that and have always told my mother that the first time she actually did something right for her kids and was unselfish and brave was when she left. I’d rather go hungry that submit to the abusive will of a man!

      Schmee - 2012-01-19 12:01

      Gregory, this comes from a woman that got out of an abusive marriage after 9 years. The reason she stayed so long was because she was too scared to bring up two boys on her own. Yes I know, stupid reason but when you are abused you lose your self-esteem. You think you are worth nothing. It takes years to gain that confidence again. Too all abused women out there, you can do it. Don't put up with it.

  • Oscar - 2012-01-19 11:35

    thanx to all who explained trolling and for those who gave me the thumbs down, one learn by asking questions.

      Schmee - 2012-01-19 12:42

      Never mind the thumbs down on your question. Told you there are thumbs down trolls too.

  • ronzaled - 2012-01-19 12:05

    Only 12 years; so they want to tell me he gets one year jail sentence for each year he was abusing the wife? That ain't right. I think the sentence was way too lenient.

  • Oscar - 2012-01-19 12:08

    @ Schmee - good for you for getting out Schmee - you go girl

  • Homemissionary - 2012-01-19 12:09

    Perseverance pays!

  • Gerna - 2012-01-19 12:47

    I wonder if News24 can tell who "dislikes" / "thumbs down" all the obviously morally sound comments. There seems to be around 25 of them. Can they then give this info to the police for further investigation? Am I wrong?

      myniek - 2012-01-19 12:50

      That would be hilarious :-)

  • Adri - 2012-01-19 12:49

    What is going on with these sick men lately!? Are they all going MAD!?

      celeste.rsa - 2012-01-19 13:40

      Ryann, we get the message, okay!!!!

  • wilma.gray1 - 2012-01-19 13:09

    I am glad justice is being done for this lady! It is just a pity that it is only happening after 7 years. I could not stay with a man like that, but we dont know her situation. I hope she manages to pick herself up and find a great new life!

  • atomasicchio - 2012-01-19 13:12

    Annelise Kriek you are an inspiration! Protect our women & children!!!