SA woman: Somali pirates raped me

2012-07-13 08:40

Durban - South African couple Bruno Pelizzari and Debbie Calitz have been enjoying the sunshine in Durban, gathering their strength and recuperating after their recent rescue from Somali pirates.

They spoke to the Daily News, releasing more details of their horrific 20 months in captivity, during which the couple were kept in a dark room all day, forced to whisper and had nothing to do.

The couple wore the clothes that they had on the day they were captured and for Calitz, this was a bikini and a thin cotton dress, which soon came apart.

Then Calitz was taken away, her bikini was removed and she said, “I was naked all the time.”

Calitz said she was raped by her captors but didn’t want to talk about it.

She did say, however, that she didn’t hate the captors as they were young enough to be her children.

“I can’t hate them. They don’t know any different.”

The couple were apparently planning to write a book about their ordeal.

  • millionwatts1 - 2012-07-13 08:44


      rob.baggaley - 2012-07-13 09:14

      " I can’t hate them. They don’t know any different.” Stockholm Syndrome ?

      Squeegee - 2012-07-13 09:28

      Personally I would like to see governments blow these guys out of the water, attack their camps and rid the planet of this plague. There will be collateral damage but soon general support for them will disappear.

      alfred.neumann.142 - 2012-07-13 09:37

      @triumphant.voice.58 As much as I like your comment I have to correct you on one thing: you're living in a country where "corrective rape" is an actual term that people say with a straight face.

      Press - 2012-07-13 09:46

      Ubuntu in action ?????

      rob.baggaley - 2012-07-13 10:09

      What exactly are we ignorant of george ? Do tell !

      felix.feline.3 - 2012-07-13 10:14

      Nice George, you generalize based on people generalizing. Hypocritical much?

      klippies.coke.7 - 2012-07-13 10:22

      Ignore George, he's just trolling for reaction. Sad individual.

      sean.lambie.3 - 2012-07-13 10:37

      @george.dinta - Facts are facts !!

      kgolane.thulare - 2012-07-13 10:40

      @triumphant.voice.58 @Rob...No no no mates you got it twisted. Hating a black person is not politically incorrect, hating anyone is incorrect by God. Be careful not to expose yourself brothers. You seem eager to divide the people. Its quite interesting how u have not wished the family a speedy recovery, sent best wishes or expressed your joy at their safe return. But you have somehow made this about "Africans","Whites", "ANC", "Politics". We know your type, bitter coz u didnt strike while the iron was you wake up every mornig looking for someone to blame.

      rob.baggaley - 2012-07-13 10:48

      @kgolane...You say. "Be careful not to expose yourself brothers. You seem eager to divide the people. " Not as eager as the ANC & its " offspring " youth league. Nice try though to twist two perfectly factual comments !

      george.dinta - 2012-07-13 10:53

      @Felix, I always try to be open minded. But I find it strange that white people will always drag every darkie in any mess created by a black person. There was this white guy article, talking about him raping his kids and impregnanting them. I din't hear a single person going on and on about whites impregnant their kids. Instead we were shaming the guy in question. It isn't the black socitey tht raped that woman. iT WAS PIRATES OF SOMALIA

      george.dinta - 2012-07-13 11:03

      @BigChiefPlumbPudding, so since you not hating anyone like u claim, act like it. And stop pushing racial. Fine once upon a time in SA race was a big issue. We hated whites like u say. But it is only fair we move on now

      nosiphom.mazibuko - 2012-07-13 11:18

      alfred.neumann.142: I am also yet to find out why the so called "corrective rape" is not just simple, brutal, illegal disgusting rape, and the perpetrators, like those of the other rape should be shot?

      kelvyn.davidson.1 - 2012-07-13 11:25

      I like George, and Felix, what he says is sence and those of you hell bent on blaming this on black, is stupid, Somali's by genetic make up are black. those Somali B@3t@7ds who raped this very vulnerable woman are animals and need to be dealt with with as much force as the combined worlds forces could gather, I can assure you people, that there are many Black people offended by these actions as there are white, pink, yellow, brown people, But george, saying you hate whites is no better than me saying I hate blacks, your brush is as tainted as the other fascists

      kgolane.thulare - 2012-07-13 11:52

      @rob ...Lol...Robby, you missing the point again Sir. This artcile is about the Durban couple, who have returned home safely, after being kidnapped by Somali pirates... ...Please enlighten us, what does this have to do with ANC and the Youth League... Like i said Rob, Be careful not to expose yourself, seems like you are trying to divide the people.

      rob.baggaley - 2012-07-13 12:03

      @kgolane. No the article is about the women being raped by her captors, whilst being held illegaly. Anyway, after almost 200 thumbs up, my comment along with truimphant voices comment ( 350 + thumbs up ) has been removed.Pity. Both comments were well thought out & contained fact, with no ranting or raving. My point is, people like myself & triumphant are not trying to divide the country as we are unable to compete with a ruling party that is hell bent in doing so and succeeding ! Forget it now. Wasted on you !

      kgolane.thulare - 2012-07-13 12:14

      @Rob ... Lol, you probably blamed the ANC when you burnt your toast this morning...Lol And i see you have completely avoided my question...which tells me u are unable to answer it. I have nothing against you, I would suggest though, that u be careful not to expose yourself in future...Enjoy the rest of your day brother.

      nico.smit.1272 - 2012-07-13 12:27

      I see a movie coming after the book where they are going to make millions from. Hope they donate some of the monies form the book and possiable movie to those that they don't hate after the whole ordeal. - 2012-07-13 13:57

      sanda... you sad individual

      martin.britchford.5 - 2012-07-13 15:13

      didnt know anyh different, i never needed to be told its a bad thing as a child, i just knew, my folks never sat me down and talked about it, when i learned what rape meant i just knew its not right, didnt know, wtf, of coarse they know,

      Preshen - 2012-07-14 14:39

      Somalia Pirates have low standards

  • Matthew - 2012-07-13 08:52

    Dosnt matter if they were 9 years old,they know the difference between right and wrong.Should make an international law.All pirates captured get Hanged.sends a message,maybe barbaric,violent etc.nothing compared to what they'd do to you or you're family.Go oldschool and hang them.

      pur.pleibus - 2012-07-13 10:11

      Just machine gun their boats and see how long they can swim...

      kgolane.thulare - 2012-07-13 10:17

      Im a Kaizer Chiefs fan ...i hate the Pirates on her behalf !!!!

      Matthew - 2012-07-13 10:24

      Hahaha.Kgolane.Thulare. well played boet =P

      denis.gomo - 2012-07-14 12:42

      @Pur...Ha ha ha, I like your logic. International troops should not shoot the pirates, they might kill them and get sued, they just need to shoot a few holes in their boats. And let the sea do the job...

      Jazzy - 2012-07-14 23:29

      @Pur - in shark-infested waters!

  • Hemlock - 2012-07-13 09:02

    Debbie, my heart goes out to you. I cannot even begin to imagine the horrors you endured during your period of captivity. I would not be as forgiving as you. Stay strong.

      aijaman.pirlo - 2012-07-13 09:32

      Hemlock it's said. Much worse to stay 20 months naked....May God bless this woman

  • Revelgen - 2012-07-13 09:13

    Piracy is an international crime. Why don't the larger vessels carry an elite troop of, say, 6 former SAS guys armed with automatic rifles and bazookas. Then when the pirates attack, blast the b*stards out of the water. That would soon make piracy a less appealing venture.

      triumphant.voice.58 - 2012-07-13 09:21

      Ever watch the movie Black Hawk Down, rent it, watch it. USA was there during the Clinton Administration,... you will see what I mean.

      gareth.mckerrell - 2012-07-13 09:26

      @truimphant: bud black hawk down is completely differnent to defending a ship................. against a pirate skip??? By the way look at how the AU is kicking al shebaabs ass in somalia!!!!

      aijaman.pirlo - 2012-07-13 09:33

      Spot on!!!!Problem is this - World is too much confused with this human rights....even Pirates got rights..What rights?

      psalm.proverb.3 - 2012-07-13 13:08

      @ Revelgen You know, our government is too incompetent and missed a great opportunity to teach these Somali thugs a lesson. Fine, we don't pay ransom. But we should have dealt with those Somali thugs thoroughly to ensure that they never dream of abducting any South African for ransom. If our navy, army and special forces were anything near decent, our government could have easily sent a team to hunt these thugs down. The government should have used this opportunity to make the abduction of South Africans over the sea an unpleasant and costly liability for these savages. South Korean special forces wasted no time rescuing a hijacked ship: all 21 crew members rescued, 8 pirates killed and 5 arrested to face justice. I think the pirate parasites are likely to think twice before hijacking any ships flying the South Korean flag.

      Revelgen - 2012-07-13 16:48

      @Blinding - I figured there must be a reason why ships don't carry armed guards. But the irony is that the pirates ARE carrying arms (in direct contravention of this law), with which they hold up even large tankers. So if there ever was a case where 'the law is an ass', this is it. In the 1600's, it was no problem; you simply let loose with your cannons against pirates. We really have gone backwards with our humanistic 'Be nice to criminals' attitudes these days.

      Nicki.Labuschagne - 2012-07-13 19:23

      There are private companies who offer armed protection on ships in the pirate area - they are very sucsessful and professional and have repelled many attacks. International waters belong to no one and you are entitled to protect yourself and it's perfectly legal.

      had.enuf.1 - 2012-07-13 23:24

      I reckon a 50 cal will do wonderfully !

  • amanda.p.barratt - 2012-07-13 09:15

    Now Wilbur Smith's Those in Peril does not seem so racist as it was criticised to be but perhaps an appropriate description of what goes on in this part of the world. My thoughts with the family as they try to pick up the pieces.

  • elmarie.swart1 - 2012-07-13 09:15

    its wrong, wrong< wrong!!!!! if u know how to commit a crime then ur old enough to understand whats wrong and whats right!!!! its like the saying goes, two wrongs doesnt make a right. i do feel for u and cant even begin to imagine what u have been trough. ur in my prayers.

  • megan.raasch.1 - 2012-07-13 09:29

    That poor woman!

  • alfred.neumann.142 - 2012-07-13 09:30

    Inevitably, there will be some waste of a human skin along any moment to enlighten us as to how it's actually the pirates who are the "victims" in this whole tragedy.

      rob.baggaley - 2012-07-13 09:43

      Normally the case alfred.

      Blipsie - 2012-07-13 13:47

      Oh, but they did already. Carte Blanche did a whole section on how Somali pirates were resorting to piracy because the west had been dumping toxic stuff on their coast and therefore they can no longer fish there. So they became pirates.

  • zamantuma.latha - 2012-07-13 09:56

    I just can't imagine the trauma the couple went through. 20 MONTHS??? I don't understand how we can try to understand and rationalise the behaviour of these men. That's not human behaviour, probably animals dont behave this way either. So I can't put a name to it...

  • charmaine.mcdonald2 - 2012-07-13 09:56

    God does not condone rape and capture of Human Beings. Somalis are here in S.A. and they also are raping our women and we are supposed to love them? How can anyone Human being say that they do not hate rapists? I pray this couple heal. So, what she is saying is that she loves all rapists?Great comments here.

      Moi - 2012-07-13 13:47

      Don't be daft. Does she say anywhere that she loves all rapists??? Saying that she doesn't hate her attackers does not equate to saying she loves them. They are healing. She's found it in her heart to not bear ill feeling towards those that caused her so much harm. I think you could learn something from her. - 2012-07-14 10:33

      If her forgiving them is her way of dealing with what happened then that's her choice everyone deals with things their own way. For you to add your two cents worth of saying she loves all rapists is just ridiculous.

      candice.d.ervin - 2012-07-14 21:19

      Charmaine - since you seem to be speaking on God's behalf and have appointed yourself His personal spokesperson on Earth then I feel I should mention this. The most recognized scripture that seems to say that God indeed loves everybody is this. (John 3:16) \For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. Most people focus on “For God so loved the world” and don’t pay\r\nattention to “that whoever believes in him should not perish” So by this scripture we see that those who do not believe on the Son, perish and spend\r\neternity in hell; is that true? If God loved everybody wouldn’t He save them all, instead of sending many of them to eternal punishment? You may say,\r\n“We have a free will to choose whether or not we follow Jesus”, but is that true? Are we the ones that choose Jesus and do we really have free will?\r\n(John 5:21) For as the Father raises the dead and gives them life, so also the Son gives life to whom he will. If Jesus really loved the whole world,\r\nwouldn’t He give eternal live to everyone instead of “whom He will?\ The Son gives life to whom He chooses and who He wants to. Why would a God who \loves the whole world\ not give eternal life to everybody, if He loves us all? (John 13:17,18) If you know these things, blessed are you if you do them. I amnot speaking of all of you; I know whom I have chosen. Once again there seems to be those that Jesus has chosen to believe in Him and others He did not choose to believe. If the Lord is choosing us and not you or me, then how much “free will” do we really have? (John 17:6) \I have manifested your name to the people whom you gave me out of the world. Yours they were, and you gave them to me, and they have kept your word.\ Jesus acknowledges that the Father gave Him certain people out of the world and it’s them and not the whole world that Jesus manifested God’s name to. I would hope that if God truly loved everybody like we’re taught, then the Father would have given everybody in the whole world to Jesus, after all if He really loved everybody in the whole world, then the whole world would be saved, but they're not. (John 6:44,65) No man can come to me, except the Father that sent me draw\r\nhim: and I will raise him up in the last day… And he said, \This is why I told you that no one can come to me unless it is granted him by the Father\. I hope you can see crystal clear by this scripture that no one, I repeat NO ONE can come to Jesus on their own! We cannot come to Jesus unless the Father\r\ndraws us to Him. We do not have free will; otherwise we could come to Jesus on our own and wouldn't need God to draw us. It would no longer be a free\r\ngift “for by grace have ye been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; not of works, that no man should glory (Ephesians 2:8,9). If you came to Jesus by your own wisdom, your own doing or your own works then God would owe you something, and that is not His plan. God does not want you to glory in what you did in order to be saved, and that’s why “free will” is just not scriptural. The Father must draw you or you\r\nwill not come to Jesus! Now the reality of this is that if there are some that God loves and gives eternal life through Jesus, then there must be many that\r\nGod doesn’t love because He did not draw them and because of this, they are destined for Hell. It seems harsh but it is the process of elimination. Some God chooses to come to Jesus, while others he doesn’t choose and they’re going to eternal punishment. If that's the case, does God really love everybody? Let’s now read about some that the Lord does not love. (Malachi 1:2,3) \I have loved you,\ says the LORD. But you say, \How have you loved us?\ \Is not Esau Jacob's brother?\ declares the LORD. \Yet I have loved Jacob (3) but Esau I have hated. I have laid waste his hill country and left his heritage to jackals of the desert.\ Here we see a scripture that\r\ncontradicts the idea that “God loves everyone”. God hated Esau which would include all his descendants up unto this day. How do we fit that into the belief\r\nthat God loves everybody? You cannot. (Romans 9:11-21) [T]hough they were not yet born and had done nothing either good or bad--in order that God's purpose of election might continue, not because of works but because of his call—(12) she was told, \The older will serve the younger.\ (13) As it is written, \Jacob I loved, but Esau I hated.\ (14) What shall we say then? Is there injustice on God's part? By no means! (15) For he says to Moses, \I will have mercy on whom I have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I have compassion.\ (16)\r\nSo then it depends not on human will or exertion, but on God, who has mercy. (17) For the Scripture says to Pharaoh, \For this very purpose I have\r\nraised you up, that I might show my power in you, and that my name might be proclaimed in all the earth.\ (18) So then he has mercy on whomever\r\nhe wills, and he hardens whomever he wills. (19) You will say to me then, \Why does he still find fault? For who can resist his will?\ (20) But who\r\nare you, O man, to answer back to God? Will what is molded say to its molder, \Why have you made me like this?\ (21) Has the potter no right over the clay,\r\nto make out of the same lump one vessel for honored use and another for dishonorable use? Wow, before they did anything good or bad God loved Jacob and hated Esau! You may be tempted to question God or wonder why He would do this but as it is written, “but who are you, O man, to answer back to God? Will what is molded say to its molder, \Why have you made me like this?\ God has mercy on whom He chooses and by putting His will into you, God causes you to draw close to Jesus. Those whom God doesn't choose, Scripture says that He hardens and because of this hardening of their\r\nheart, they have no interest in holiness or drawing close to Jesus. We humans don't quite understand this so we should just be thankful that God has been merciful on us and not question why God is not merciful to everybody. Be your own judge of this, but get over yourself and your ignorant statements. Let God be God and let him deal with the perpetrators. Be the change you want to see in the world; hatred manifests, grows and spreads just like a disease. Think about that before you project your \scripture\.

  • Erna - 2012-07-13 10:00

    This piracy along the coast of Africa seems to be an uncontrolable evil! Surely there must be a way to make it safe if the will is there.

  • abram.spamers - 2012-07-13 10:04

    This is why we spend millions each year developing our coastal tracking system :/ it makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside to think that someday when these idiots come into our waters they will just get bombed by our airforce.

      flysouth - 2012-07-13 10:06

      What air force is that - the one with no pilots who can fly combat missions and no techs to maintain the expensive airplanes?

  • anele.mveku - 2012-07-13 10:11

    That was the first thing I questioned myself abt whn I heard abt their tragedy I some how suspected it. people r evil these vultures ddnt only want their money but raping her? Dats pure Evil. For her not to hate them she is a better person than me I mst say.

      susanna.smit.7 - 2012-07-13 19:37

      I think it is a coping mechanism, not to hate your aggressors, but associating with them. How would she cope if she would allow herself to feel useless anger towards them? I hope she is not HIV positive on top of everything else.

      dudu.son.1 - 2012-07-14 16:09

      Forgiving is a process. If you 4give, you also heal. If you do not know / understand it, shut up. Wish the couple all the best as they heal

  • phillipm.seopa - 2012-07-13 10:14

    it is really dishearting

  • rahil.khanna.520 - 2012-07-13 10:28

    Why can't Americans and their allies sort this crap out once and for all and blow the crap out of these pirates? ..Instead of meddling in the Middle East etc. I guess not enough OIL/benefit for them.

      Matthew - 2012-07-13 10:59

      Yet alone go and sort out Kobey =/

      candice.d.ervin - 2012-07-14 21:03

      It's Kony-moron.

  • robi.thenga - 2012-07-13 10:52

    I can't believe we still have some clowns that think the two were captured in Somalia because they were white...those damn things called pirates wanted money or anything that is of value; I saw the two being interviewed and it was very sad when she was asked if she did get sexually assaulted; she didn't want to answer that, and you could see that pride was taken away from that man's face...write a book you two, I don't read and finish books, but I will buy, read and finish yours irrespective of whether you are 'white' and I am not, you deserve a break, a South African break; forgiving or not holding grudges is their own personal choice...but right now I just wish these morons, who think they can think, could stop dragging racial issues into just about any discussion just because of their own selfish hate feelings, people if you don't have anything constructive to say just don't vomit it in public,this is not a lavatory or a loo, nonsense maan...

  • danie.strydom.7 - 2012-07-13 11:07

    I am a racist ... I hate everyone !!

      puse.mabuza - 2012-07-13 11:45

      Kwakwakwa Danie you made my day!

      muruti.malungana - 2012-07-13 17:58

      That is language of fools who deny jesus in their hearts.

  • cindy.mhlanga.5 - 2012-07-13 11:09

    ya ne!!!

  • Happyness - 2012-07-13 11:53

    Well she's better than I am for not hating them.

  • trotseafrikaner.rsa - 2012-07-13 11:55

    Only message I have for those rapists, criminal, no morals, no values bastards are: You live by the Gun... You die by the Gun.

  • pngee - 2012-07-13 11:57

    It seems incredible that in this day and age piracy is allowed to florish on the Norh East Coast of Africa. Historically piracy was romanticised in various books (Captain Jack Sparrow comes to mind). I don't believe that anyone could consider any one of the new breed of Somalia pirates as anything but a reflection of Africa's dark contribution to world affairs.

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  • yolandi.bezuidenhout.35 - 2012-07-13 12:25

    No Rob it is called forgiveness

  • sheralee.jones - 2012-07-13 12:26

    Sounds like they just want to make lots of money out of this....

      steven.loots.33 - 2012-07-13 12:37

      Yes,they were kept away from earning money for twenty months.

      Michael - 2012-07-13 12:39

      Jones - some charity here, I think they're entitled to make everything they can out of it

      jennie.nel - 2012-07-13 12:58

      I can not believe anyone can make such a despicable comment as this. They have been through 20 months of hell and come home trying to rebuild their lives, and we have idiots like you making stupid comments like this.

      sheralee.jones - 2012-07-13 13:00

      It wasn't a negative or positive comment. It was just a statement. By the way . . . I would do exactly the same thing. Milk it for all the money it's worth and retire happy and rich and then can afford those expensive psychologist who could help me get over it.

      loura.stegmann - 2012-07-13 13:48

      Jones - How disrespectful, tasteless and ill-informed of you. Did you seriously say retire “happy”? Do you think any psychologist can take that experience away, EVER? You have just proven your uneducated character

      Blipsie - 2012-07-13 13:55

      Retire? Sadly there is a very big chance that she could have contracted HIV. Rape is no longer just a sexual offense. It can very well turn to homicide.

      ronald.stilianou - 2012-07-13 14:19

      You are a bitter old hag, I am SO glad that I don't know you personally

      Hemlock - 2012-07-13 14:24

      @Jones ......This is something NO woman ever gets over regardless of how much money she makes from it. I hope it never happens to you!

      joe.ndlovu.16 - 2012-07-13 17:58

      U are so stupid how u can say something like that.I don't think when these old pple were your parents u were going to just open your big mouth like that sssssssss.u must learn to have manners damn!

      lebakeng.nchaupe - 2012-07-14 09:17

      from your first comment i took you for a fool bt you just proved me wrong your a moron - 2012-07-14 10:27

      What a thing to say. You really should think before you open your mouth!

      lara.vanrooyen.1 - 2012-07-14 11:31

      I see you enjoy writing. Please stop. You have no insight, intelligence or compassion. What could you you possibly have to say?

  • rudolph.mare.3 - 2012-07-13 12:41

    Reminiscent of "Stockholm Syndrome". Also, women aren't prone to violence and usually do not retaliate in violence. Tragic story.

  • kelvyn.davidson.1 - 2012-07-13 13:22

    @ kgolane.thulare - Bru does that mean if his toast is burned it is now black? if so is it Somali black or Nigerian black or perhaps Kenyan like his coffee? too funny

  • emokgojoe - 2012-07-13 16:01

    shame poor woman,being raped by these sick ont know how sh e made it...hope they rot in hell

      candice.d.ervin - 2012-07-14 20:53

      Don't be an ignorant pr!ck! Animals DON'T rape. We are the disgusting, shameful and primitive creed. Animals are far more superior than us, and ALWAYS will be. Human kind is a race not worth fighting for as we will never EVER change-we are a rotting decay destroying those around us and you have the audacity to refer to us as animals?! Really dude?! Yeh, ok then...think that one through again, but do it properly this time bro.

  • bashin.monyela - 2012-07-13 17:38

    Well forgiveness is the first step to healing

  • enoch.mokhothu - 2012-07-13 18:18

    I don't agree with you when you say the don't any difference, they know what they are doing.

  • bren.ortega.3 - 2012-07-13 22:03

    Saw the pain in her eyes when they spoke on Carte Blanche. They are BOTH very courageous to let it go. I dont know if I would be as strong to forgive. Wish you happy blessings in future , and may the writing bring much healing , and if fortune as well , good for them.

  • chris.dickson.773 - 2012-07-14 01:46

    NUKE SOMALIA!!!!! Turn them in to GLASS.....

  • lara.vanrooyen.1 - 2012-07-14 11:21

    Anybody criticizing her who is a Christian is a hypocrite. Forgive your enemies 70X7, ne?

  • redgy.elias - 2012-07-14 15:00

    Forgiveness is the beginning of your healing,for you and your husband.God created you and is able to heal all wounds!

  • prince.mangunda - 2012-07-14 17:00

    Bad time in ones life!time to bury the past and move on!

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  • joseph.tettey.9 - 2012-07-16 20:21

    These animals! Surely they dont know better.

      beverly.young3 - 2012-11-19 12:38

      Fine then we can kill them comfortably? Of course they know better..........rape is a weapon, it is the worst crime against women.

  • Doukn Miname - 2013-03-02 06:32

    This woman sides with her enemies she should be killed just like them.

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