Say sorry for killing my mom - daughter

2012-09-13 09:05

Pretoria - A Gauteng woman testified in court how she did not hate the men who viciously murdered her elderly mother shortly before she was to have come live with them in Potchefstroom.

But Melinda Smith said she wanted the men to look her in the eye and say they were sorry, reported Beeld.

“I am so angry at them. How can they sit there and say it wasn’t them?” asked Smith.

Johannes Mofokeng (the gardener and handyman at the mother’s complex) and Bongani Mthembu were earlier found guilty of killing 65-year-old Alta Duvenage at her flat in Alberton.

She was assaulted with a pickaxe, possibly strangled and stabbed several times with a knife before her body was wrapped up in a carpet and thrown down a manhole in Zonkisizwe.

They stole Duvenage’s City Golf and sold it for between R1 500 and R2 000.

“I wanted her to come live with us. It was my turn to look after her, but she was taken from us,” Smith testified, adding she could only listen to 10 minutes of the post-mortem report testimony.

“I at first thought and everyone said she died quickly, but I know they hurt her a lot and she tried to fight back.”

  • pieter0827006294 - 2012-09-13 09:21


  • Dawn Campbell Gibson - 2012-09-13 09:24

    How could anybody in their right mind just want an apology?

      robqb - 2012-09-13 09:56

      @Dawn. I think this Lady has more compassion and forgiveness in the tip of her little finger than you have in your whole body. It's easier to carry hatred than to forgive, but forgiving makes you a better person.

      jonny.duval.1 - 2012-09-13 10:15

      I agree. Sorry is not enough. The need to face the full force of the law. Pity about the death pennalty.

      arno.botha.71 - 2012-09-13 10:20

      I agree Dawn. Rob, why don't you go hug a tree with the rest of the meek. "He who makes himself a sheep will be eaten by the wolves"

      Melinda Smith - 2014-06-23 18:29

      By the way Dawn, you were not in court. My words were that I wanted them to acknowledge that they did it. Even though they were found guilty, they still refused to say that they did. I wanted them to say they did it and apologise to us for taking my mom's life. Caused heartache that nobody can imagine until you have been through it yourself. Easy to say things when you are not there yourself. You are the heartless one! We have to go on without her. No word from anyone saying that they feel sorry! That is the hard part. So you can go to hell!

  • piet.viljoen.98 - 2012-09-13 09:32

    I would rather like to see them hang...

  • beki.khumalo - 2012-09-13 09:36

    Hayi kunzima madoda! The death penalty must be brought back. What sick person does that to another? To an old lady! People she knew, she died a painful death. I don't blame the daughter for being angry. I wouldn't even forgive the thugs...

      bobo.jane.1 - 2012-09-13 10:00

      khumalo, there is a difference between a thug and a killer.

      beki.khumalo - 2012-09-13 10:07

      No Sir, there's no difference! English dictates that a THUG is a cruel or vicious ruffian, robber, or murderer.

  • bobo.jane.1 - 2012-09-13 09:39

    Dear Melinda : An Animal can not say sorry,an animal doesn`t know the difference between right and wrong, if it`s in an animal`s nature to kill for his survival and procreation he will follow his instinct. Humans can not change that. I`m truly sorry for your loss.

  • desertratbkf - 2012-09-13 09:41

    Rot in hell you savages! Filthy vermin!

  • ndou.miranda - 2012-09-13 09:52

    Hurting another has become a fashion in this country. What a shame

  • John Peter Steyn - 2012-09-13 09:54

    Ah the old cliche. The gardener murdering some poor old person. It's always the bloody gardener!

  • winifred.watson.9 - 2012-09-13 09:58

    Well I dont believe I would ever forgive the person or persons who murdered my mother in this way. I would like to throw him down the manhole myself.

  • bradley.kecskes - 2012-09-13 10:00

    If it were my mom or gran...huh lets just say id be in a building across the road...til i have them in my cross hair.

  • Hemlock - 2012-09-13 10:01

    She does not hate them? For goodness sakes, I would hate them until the day I die. Forgive them.....MY ASS!!!! They should be hanged by the neck until dead, very dead.....VROT DEAD!

  • Triumphant - 2012-09-13 10:25

    So long as we enable crime, by not creating social upliftment and not punishing offenders this type of event is going to persist. Desperation and deprivation, may be an excuse for violating someone else civil rights but is never a reason, and it can never be justified as such. And there is not need to Hate; hate is a primitive response in any case, but the need in principle is to hold them coldly and lawfully accountable for their actions as unlawful and destructive to society and worthy of the retribution they receive as recompense for their actions. So long as they see the law courts as something not to be taken seriously, and the victim as someone who can be intimated or guilted in letting them go, we will remain weak and unable to curb the violence that claims so many lives.

  • themba.thwala.98 - 2012-09-13 10:40

    Melinda, having lost a brother four years after being shot in the stomach by filth such as those who took your dear mother`s life, please know that there`s some like me who share your pain, and are ashamed whenever such leeches commit such acts over and over again. I would not ask them to say `sorry` though. They must say so without being prompted, based on genuine contrition (not saving their skins), or the apology will not be genuine. I wish you strength and comfort

  • winifred.watson.9 - 2012-09-13 10:47

    Eish savages, they could have tied her up taken her car and anything they wanted but they decided to have some fun and kill the poor old girl off slowly. Why ask them to apologise, so that they can get a lighter sentence and that they wont have to be remoseful as they said SORRY. Some daughter, glad you not mine.

  • Dawn Campbell Gibson - 2012-09-13 14:35

    Rob - Only saw you comment now, if you still reading, go to hell! You are obviously so cold hearted that if your mother was brutally murdered you would go for drinks with the scum. Forgiveness is one thing, being a little short on brain cells is entirely different!

  • melinda.smith.121398 - 2012-09-26 13:47

    I am Melinda. It was my mom that was murdered. No person that have not gone through what I have, is in a position to judge. You do not know all the hurt, anger and hate I've had to work through. I know what the hate does to you. It breaks you! And my mom would not have wanted me to remain in the state that I was. She would have wanted me to lift my head and once again face the world. She would have wanted me to heal and be the mom to my kids I used to be, and the wife to my husband I used to be. I have not been able to forgive, nor forget. I don't think I'll ever be able to do that. But I cannot carry hate in my heart for the rest of my life. After more than two years, I can say that I've learnt to rather get rid of the hate, and remember her for the beautiful person she was. I would rather be close to my God and be thankful that He has carried me through the most difficult time in my life. My God is a God of love, and not hate. I believe in God's justice, which has prevailed, as He promised me He would. The murderers are in His hands now. I have to let go. So Dawn, my mom was very proud of me and loved me very much. I am sure that she is looking down at me with only pride.

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