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Steenkamps won't attend Pistorius trial

2013-03-08 08:59

Cape Town - Reeva Steenkamp's uncle and cousin have spoken about how they are coping with the loss of the model, saying they won't attend the trial of Oscar Pistorius, who is accused of murdering her on Valentine's Day.

In an interview on Anderson Cooper 360 on CNN broadcast on Thursday, Mike Steenkamp said her death "hasn't really sunk in to my way of thinking".

The family wanted to focus on Reeva, and not why she's gone, he said, which is why they won't attend the trial.

He added that it didn't matter to them what happened to Pistorius, as nothing will bring her back.

'Seemed like a nice guy'

Reeva's cousin, Kim Martin explained: "I have to concentrate on her. I know that sounds crazy, but that's how I get from day to day.

"It's easier to deal with it if you don't concentrate on anything else other than the fact that Reeva's not here, and at the end of the day, she's not coming back."

She added that she was as close as a sister to Reeva, and there were no secrets between them.

Martin said she met Pistorius once, in Cape Town on 2 January this year. She says it wasn't long enough to form an opinion on his personality, but "he did seem like a nice guy".

She added that she didn't think Reeva was in love with Pistorius. "And I knew that in time she would chat to me about it," she said.

This apparently contradicts Pistorius's affidavit and statements from several people which claimed the couple were in love and that Reeva may have been "the one".

'Precious daughter'

Steenkamp recalled that despite her fame, Reeva was still her mother's baby girl.

He recounted an incident in which Reeva's mother, June, had spoken to Pistorius while he was speeding on the highway.

"She phoned her mom and said to her mom: 'Mom, Oscar is speeding', so June took the phone and said 'let me speak to Oscar' and said to him 'Oscar, hey listen: that is my precious and my only daughter, my precious daughter, and that’s everything. That is my angel, and you better slow down otherwise I will get the mafia on to you afterwards'’ And Reeva said afterwards, 'mom, he'd slowed down'."

Steenkamp told CNN that he would like a chance to meet face-to-face with Pistorius to forgive him.

"That way, I can find more peace with the situation," he said.

"Whatever the outcome, I feel with my belief [that] if Christ could forgive me when he died on the cross, why can't I?

Comments
  • mandla.mthembu.14 - 2013-03-08 09:08

    That is real touching from Steenkamp family. Hope Oscars farther can lern from this and stop Accusing government for his failure of up bringing.

      patrick.buckley.712 - 2013-03-08 09:34

      Judging by the behaviour of both families, it would be safe to say that Reeva was dating beneath herself.

      procold2 - 2013-03-08 09:42

      true words patrick

      fanie.weldhagen - 2013-03-08 10:53

      Why on earth do you read it then idiot

  • Lourens R Beytell - 2013-03-08 09:08

    Firstly, tragic loss. But now everyone want's a piece of the action. Eish....

  • Seipei Mathole - 2013-03-08 09:21

    Wow lots of RESPECT for the Steenkamp's family

  • Abraham Havenga - 2013-03-08 09:27

    thank you Ben!

  • Alta Steyn - 2013-03-08 09:29

    My heartfelt condolences and admiration to the Steenkamp family. But I still think someone of the Steenkamp family should attend the trial in order to get closure in what happened that night and why it happened. There is nothing more soul wrenching when not knowing the answers or even to try and understand how something like this could've happened without knowing the true facts. Only then might you find it in your heart to forgive another person. Without it, you will still be confused.

      john.loveland.9 - 2013-03-08 10:06

      They will read about it in the papers and on the news... the abridged version. This trial will go on for months with a lot of time and costs wasted.

  • Prada Ledger - 2013-03-08 09:32

    why did Reeva persist with the Charade of being with Oscar when she knew she didnt love him as the cousin says. This was wrong of her, she was not supposed to lead the guy on. everything else said im ok with. They are not holding grudges and thats quite remarkable.

      Fadzayi Chiwandire - 2013-03-08 09:44

      The cousin said SHE "didnt think" reeva loved him she never said reeva confirmed that statement. so you cant judge her staying with Oscar based on what the cousin thought. only reeva knew what she felt for the guy.

      briantebogo - 2013-03-08 09:48

      It was the cousin's opinion that she didn't love him. Why would she be spending a night (Valentine's) at his place if she didn't love him? Why would she say if he asked her to marry him she would agree? I think the cousin is just expressing her bitterness, if indeed she said that.

      Diran - 2013-03-08 09:57

      It's called dating!!!!

      Natasha Knipe-Carelse - 2013-03-08 09:59

      Hey Prada, true that, too many versions, the truth will only come out in the trial. Have a great day.

      Natasha Knipe-Carelse - 2013-03-08 10:01

      Hey Prada, true that, too many versions, the truth will only come out in the trial. I was a bit stunned thinking this is damage control for the money comments but who am I to judge others motives. Have a great day.

      Carl Freeman - 2013-03-08 13:44

      Prada they had only been dating for 2 or so months infatuated could have been the feelings, love not yet! Reeva was not a silly girl one can see the attraction for Oscar but dating him often people will see that the enigma is not what is portrayed in the media. she was probably seeing a different side to OP even a maturity level which she probably did not quite like. After all Reeva was a sought after girl from wealthy insurance magnet and other influential people who probable left OP looking a little like a little boy struggling to cope with fame and a bit of cash!

      briantebogo - 2013-03-08 14:58

      They are both nice people. They loved each other. There was an accident. END OF STORY.

      Natasha Knipe-Carelse - 2013-03-08 15:53

      Oh my followers (Dolce)on this forum just don't know when to quit. Clearly 'someone' is reporting my comments to N24 thus having them removed then 'someone' has the cheek of ACCUSSING me of removing them, I'll try and stop ignoring your obvious attention seeking of me when you grow up and speak sense, until then leave me alone-period! Have a lovely weekend.

      DolceLucy - 2013-03-08 16:10

      Wouldn't dream of having those deleted Natasha. I want people to see your hideous comments. And nice try with the attention seeking comment. Can't take as good as you give, eh?

  • Alta Steyn - 2013-03-08 09:32

    Yes, thank you Ben & Eric!

  • Thabo Mbewu - 2013-03-08 09:35

    To the Steenkamps: God will guide your ways since you follow His ways through forgiveness!!! God be with you!!

  • Elaine Greenblatt - 2013-03-08 09:42

    The thing is to forgive yourself for your hatred of Oscar - not to forgive him - why would you forgive him for his crime??

      Fadzayi Chiwandire - 2013-03-08 09:48

      you are probably missing the point. its not just a crime to him its his daughter that was killed. if you got your child killed under any circumstance would you not feel bitter towards the person who is responsible? thats the forgiving he is talking about. he has not power to forgive him for his crime in any case he is not the law but he has power to forgive him for the pain he has caused the steenkamp family

  • Hanneli Erasmus - 2013-03-08 09:47

    I am sure Oscar and his family would appreciate reading this article.. As a mother I doubt that I would be able to be so forgiving even if it was an accident.. Very good of them..

  • Alta Steyn - 2013-03-08 09:51

    Beautiful, Thabo. Just beautiful. GOD bless you!

  • Erich Goosen - 2013-03-08 09:54

    Better so. I hope all respect their wishes.

  • Candice Pylman - 2013-03-08 09:58

    Respect to the Steenkamp....be blessed

  • Diran - 2013-03-08 10:04

    Forgive a man who shot dead your daughter! Murder or not Oscar was careless in his judgement. Even if for some reason he does not go to prison he will have to live somewhere else other than SA.How will he live his life in this country.

  • Sulaiman Dinath - 2013-03-08 10:05

    bring back the death penalty and everything will come right in this country. less murders less rapes, less reason to carry guns..

      Kaya Dada - 2013-03-08 10:11

      You stupid fool! Crime is a character thing and no amount of death penalty can change that. Look at America, they have the death penalty and yet people continue to kill eachother. Wake up. The time when you forefathers used the death penalty to murder inocent black men is over. Deal with it!

      Natasha Knipe-Carelse - 2013-03-08 10:35

      The death penalty should've been brought back the minute babies were abused, raped and mutilated. Why bring it back on account of the OP trial not justifying he shot Reeva but there are dark criminals that commit horrendous crimes against especially kids? Nope, I say our current government had enough time to decrease crime in SA and they didn't. What they did get right was to earn fantastic tax payers salaries. So let them resign and give DA or another party a chance to lead SA as maybe then things could come right. I'm not racist but a realist.

      watsongeorgejan - 2013-03-08 11:57

      I don't think the death penalty would be a deterrent in a country where a 20 year old rapes and robs a 94year old and gets a 15year sentence. There's obviously no judicial will to impose heavy sentences that's why criminals in our country are this smug. The death penalty would just be there by name only.

      DolceLucy - 2013-03-08 14:11

      You don't know what the f you're talking about.

  • Tshepo Maganedisa - 2013-03-08 10:13

    The truth shall come out, not even Henk can divert the attention from this - soon Reeva's family will know what happen to their angel and as for Botha and his conspires it will soon catch up with them

  • ANASKA - 2013-03-08 11:02

    A wise decision

  • Tlotlo Reitumetse Bakwadi - 2013-03-08 12:26

    "That is my angel, and you better slow down otherwise I will get the mafia on to you afterwards" - seems OP wasn't the only one with a "temper"

      craig.vanstade - 2013-03-08 15:34

      Was obviously a joke idiot!

      Jill.Robinson10 - 2013-03-09 06:22

      Interesting comment coming from the mother! Joke or not - it would seem that many are prepared to classify Oscar as having a 'bad temper' because he would break someones legs - but the mother was just being a loving mother. You can't have it both ways. By the way, Oscar actually didn't have a 'bad temper', he stood his ground when he needed to in a very competitive world. He and Reeva got along so well because they came from similar backgrounds. Both sets of family are in turmoil and trying desperately to navigate through whatever the media throws at them. Apparently, whatever anyone of them decides to do or say - they are going to be crucified by the public.

  • Nizole Middle-Finger Khala - 2013-03-08 21:35

    Family of the century,thank you Steenkamps!!

  • Nizole Middle-Finger Khala - 2013-03-08 21:46

    It takes a real man to come up on that decision as far as a family member is concerned. Many The Living and Loving Lord Bless you with another Rose like Reeva!

  • Nizole Middle-Finger Khala - 2013-03-08 21:51

    They say blessed is the hand that is giving than the one that is taking and I hope that Mr. Pistorius will try and ingest these wise words so that he can know exactly the burden that he will be carrying for the rest of his life.

  • ANASKA - 2013-03-09 10:21

    Reeva was a wise women - falling in love takes time!!

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