Teen attempts suicide over 'sluts list'

2012-03-23 08:30

Durban - A Durban teenager tried to take her own life after discovering that her name had been put on a so-called “sluts list” on Facebook and BlackBerry Messenger.

She drank household detergents and petrol but doctors were fortunately able to flush these from her system, reported the Daily News.

The girl’s parents did not want to speak to the media.

The teenager was discharged from hospital on Sunday.

Another mother, who did not want to be identified, told how her daughter was traumatised after discovering that her name had been added to the list over the weekend.

The “sluts list” was started by an unknown person earlier this year, with the names and details of over 10 teenage girls.

The list went viral after it was circulated in cyberspace, with more users added to it.

Police have urged parents to report incidents of cyberbullying.

  • Ken - 2012-03-23 08:42

    So sad that some young people can be so evil towards others,

      llewellyn.saville - 2012-03-23 11:01

      I have heard much about these lists over recent weeks and was shown such one such list which featured the names of some people I know. The sad part is that the things said about the girls on the list was not true and I'm certain that in most cases that is the case. Are our schools becoming like the stuff we see on American TV?

      Jason - 2012-03-24 09:50

      No Discipline and no respect! Parents to blame IMHO!

  • Thokozane - 2012-03-23 08:42

    The ugly side of social networking.

      mlucejko - 2012-03-23 08:56

      With the aid of 'technology' the cops should be able to track down the person that sent out the message... Then that person can be charged as a criminal !! The cops CAN catch these people !!

      Francois - 2012-03-24 08:43

      Mlucjko, they can catch the culprits and they most probably know them already as they are most probably sleeping with the culprits.

  • Pythagoras - 2012-03-23 08:46

    Bullying should be a form of a criminal act! They have no idea what it is doing mentally to other children. How many have already not committed suicide because of this? There should be drastic measure in place for this type of thing!

  • alta.botha.scott - 2012-03-23 08:47

    youth are not emotionally mature for social networking and the responsibilty that comes with it. 1 wrong comment that can lead to someone taking their own life!!! So wrong...

  • jordaanjean - 2012-03-23 09:04

    Ok.. does she sleep around, is she a slut ? or is she an angel that does not deserve to be on the list ? #justAsking

      Tinky - 2012-03-23 09:08

      Do you deserve to be put on the sluts list? Do you also believe that some females "deserve" to be raped?

      jordaanjean - 2012-03-23 09:30

      No I am not. I am just saying that I believe in calling a spade a spade. I am totally against rape. It is awful and something that I have experienced first hand. So don't just go and judge me like that. Think of the amount of sexually transmitted diseases out there. If she sleeps around and is in fact a slut, would you not see it rather as a public service to warn the public about the possibility of getting some nasty infection from her. Hey I feel sad for the girl. I really do. We don't know the real story. She might be an innocent victim of cyber bullying. She might also be a full on slut. We do not know. But before making rash judgements on my comment. Take both sides of the story into consideration.

      Marion - 2012-03-23 09:39

      Even if she was having sex 20 times a day no one has the right to put her on that list. Who gives any of us the right to decide that someone is a slut? Oh, I forgot, promiscuous men are womanizers and promiscuous women are whores.

      jordaanjean - 2012-03-23 09:43

      @marion - Nope a slut is a slut.. Male or female.

      J-Man - 2012-03-23 10:04

      Tinky - You;re a bit too emotional here....Jean just asked a question. Don't put words in his mouth. Jeez.

      Tania - 2012-03-23 14:00

      I agree with Mirion. Niemand het die reg om iemand 'n slet te noem nie. Wetlik gesproke kan daardie persoon aangekla word vir naamskending. Selfs al het 'n meisie rond geslaap hoekom noem mense haar name, maar 'n seun of man wat dit doen kom weg daarmee. Hy kry nie 'n name tag nie. En eerlik gesê ek dink meisies is meer geneig om ander name te noem as seuns.

      Linda - 2012-03-23 16:01

      Jean, what's the matter with you? Does it matter if she sleeps around? What good does it do for anyone to be on this type of list? Public Service!!! Get real.

      Pennie - 2012-03-23 16:02

      And what do you call the boys who sleep with these girls? And what does it have to do with anybody if someone has sex with someone else? F@&(ing Neanderthal! Just Saying!

      Jean - 2012-03-24 08:49

      I don't really get your comment, should a list at all be going around of people who sleeps around? May I ask are you agreeing with the Ugandan newspaper who puts names of gay people in their newspaper or the school that said HIV+ kids must wear red ribbons to say they have aids!? 2 Sides to both stories or not, it is dangerous (clearly) to put people such on the spot, especially something that can be considered more as someones opinion than fact.

      John - 2012-03-24 09:19

      "Should a list at all be going around of people who sleeps around?"... you agreeing with the Ugandan newspaper who puts names of gay people in their newspaper" Jean, your leading comment, and further comments implies that you think that it is justifiable... 1. Are you going to be the judge of others morals... the one to decide who gets named and shamed?? Would this have been your response if your name had appeared on the list??

      Jean - 2012-03-24 09:50

      UHMMM John, I don't know how you read my comment... Jean (the person I replied to)said "Ok.. does she sleep around, is she a slut ? or is she an angel that does not deserve to be on the list ?", then I think I clearly stated that should a list be going around at all and I gave examples of other 'lists' going around 'exposing' people which is wrong and Jean said at another comment "Take both sides of the story into consideration." and again i feel I clearly stated that doing stupid things (lists) like this shouldn't go around at all saying that if it is fact or not it shouldn't be done, just emphasizing that using the word slut is mostly just opinions from people.

      Jacqui - 2012-03-24 13:34

      Let him who is without sin cast the first stone!

      Derek Edwards - 2015-04-01 23:56

      how many boys names are on the list. Or is there a "stud" list for them?

  • Matthew - 2012-03-23 09:15

    It's sad and it's disgusting. But that's exactly how teenage life goes teenagers are like that. Insecure about themselves so they lash out at others. Just Disgusting. I hope she recover's quick and the cyber-bullies get what's coming to them so they can feel the way she did

  • mommaroodle - 2012-03-23 09:16

    well it proves yet again that from an early age boys are not taught by their parents to respect girls. I blame the parents of those boys!

      Barefoot - 2012-03-23 09:18

      Where is it written that it was started by a boy?

      HelenLouiseW - 2012-03-23 12:41

      Poor parents always get blamed for evrything.......

      Phoenix - 2012-03-24 09:30

      Seriously??? I think it is MORE likely that some jealous girl started this!!!

  • Jonathan - 2012-03-23 09:19

    so sad that a girl would try take her life like that.. what is this list really called??

  • Marion - 2012-03-23 09:22

    There are ways and means to trace the s**thead who started this list and the a*******s who continued to circulate it. Even if I had a promiscuous daughter I would hang them by their nipples or balls.

      jordaanjean - 2012-03-23 09:38

      and what would you do with your daughter. What if she was HIV+ and spread it around. Will you allow her to be prosecuted and charged with murder.

      Marion - 2012-03-23 11:08

      Jean - Firstly, I would make her totally aware of sex and all its ramifications including STD's. I would advise her about contraception. If she felt she needed it, I would arrange for her to get it. Secondly, unless she knows that she is HIV positive she cannot be charged for either attempted murder or murder. Thirdly, I don't have a daughter, but I do have a son and have done all the above with him.

      Gany - 2012-03-23 14:31

      Marion, I have read some of your posts now and you sound like a bitter, damaged woman, who is spewing out her internal emotional issues and not commenting rationally at all. Maybe an objective point of view?

  • Mahomed - 2012-03-23 09:24

    A few years ago I was on the bastard list. Found it to be a bit funny

  • Hermann - 2012-03-23 09:31

    Another sign of the negative brought upon the youth by an adult society that is becoming dysfunctional.

  • Lynda - 2012-03-23 09:52

    wow we thought bullying was bad in our day when it was just a few whispered remarks and evil looks......this is terrifying for these poor kids

  • Pablo - 2012-03-23 09:55

    why be bothered by being added on these stupid lists if you know you ain't one of them. i for one would care and goind an extra mile trying to end you won life is just plain stupid

  • sankarakamva - 2012-03-23 09:58


      Jeffrey - 2012-03-23 10:24

      This might be the most intelligent comment here. Know who you are. F**k what everyone else thinks. Poor girl. I knew someone who ended up on one of these - before social networking, thankfully. It utterly destroyed her confidence, made her skip school, turned someone who was already a bit shy into an untrusting near-recluse. She grew up and got over it eventually, but at the time it was hell for her.

      maseratifittipaldi - 2012-03-23 19:05

      Excellent comment and advice.

  • Omrisho - 2012-03-23 10:40

    be it right or wrong, a lot of men measure up according to their sexual conquests, kind of a bragging rights, but most men if asked, would prefer to marry a virgin...(talk about double standards) this gives rise to the mindset of: if a key can open many locks, then it's a good key, but if a lock can be opened by many keys, then it's a sh*tty lock, somewhat skewed imo...

      Marion - 2012-03-23 11:11

      Recall reading once that all men want to marry a virgin but spend all their time ensuring that there are no virgins left to marry.

  • Trudi - 2012-03-23 10:58

    The same thing happened to my daughter while she was pregnant . The worst part of it was that it was by in-laws. She adores her husband and they have been together for about 12 years. They went to the police. They did not have the ability to go further with the case and eventually it was dropped by them

  • Ally - 2012-03-23 11:32

    Parents should step in BEFORE their children become victims of cyberbullying. Discuss it with your kids, assure them that they are cherished and loved by people who care and that silly posts by some sicko are not worth worrying about. Sticks and stones can break my bones ...

      Megan - 2012-03-23 12:15

      Parents should step in before their kids BECOME THE BULLY. I know how unbelievably childish it is, but most kids who are being bullied don't want to tell anyone, especially their parents as the bullying tends to get worse once parents and staff get involved. Unfortunately, kids will be kids - more importantly teenages will be teenages. The majority of bullies come from families where the parents are pretty much non-existant in their parenting. The nanny/maid/teacher/neighbour/oh hell, even the bloody gardener are expected by these people to bring their kids up - but god help anyone of those people if they so much as MENTION the fact that their kids are horrible social misfits who don't deserve the oxygen they breath. Bullying is seriously the fault of the parents - and we need to start holding THEM accountable.

      Omrisho - 2012-03-23 12:19

      sorry Ally, but that sticks n stones story is BS, words can never harm me, absolute nonsense, if someone is told the same thing enough, they start to believe it, that is why there are such things as laws against hate speech and discrimination, verbal abuse can be and is very real

  • sam.africander - 2012-03-23 12:20

    Our kids are being victimized. Parents need to be more cognisant of what's going on in their children's lives especially when it comes to social networks. We need to take a stand against Cyber-bullying!

  • Susan - 2012-03-23 12:23

    This is exactly why parents should take more control over what their children(?) are doing on the internet , mixit etcetera.It is easy to buy your child a fancy phone because of "peer" pressure and let them cyber bully others.These phones are not a need they are a want.Too many youngsters get away with murder today because parents cannot say no (Yes I am a parent of 3 - the first time you say no is hard but believe me it does get easier and contrary to what you are told 'everyone else does not have one")I hope this young girl recovers from her hoffific experience and appropiate action is taken against the rumour mongers.Growing up these days is hard enough without dealing with c**p like this.

  • cruywagen - 2012-03-23 13:50

    This should be considered a crime as many children commit suicide due to bullying. If a child loses their life because of this, charges of murder should laid against the person/s that are psychologically breaking these children down. If you want to behave like a criminal at any age you should be prepared to be treated like one.

  • Cheryl - 2012-03-23 14:10

    Very sad that she had to resort to attempting to take her own life. but one just needs to walk around a mall, casino on a weekend (esp evenings) and you will walk around looking at these teens with total disgust! I am not sure where their parents are when they leave the house, or if their parents dont check to see what they are wearing, but most of these girls wear as little as possible, constantly having to pull their tiny dresses or skirts down. now, in my day, my peers and I were scanned proper before we left the house! these girls are normally in big groups, all dressed similarly, giggling, laughing, swearing, not respecting anyone else! and they are found around each and every corner. times surely have changed. and from what I've been seeing lately assures me that these 'kids' obviously put up huge fronts with a) their parents, so as to come across as good, normal where you can the words being uttered "my child would NEVER do something like that" and b) their friends, so as to fit in and be popular...yes, we were all young, we all took chances, back chatted, etc. but this generation is totally and utterly different. and you see it everywhere you go! they are supposed to be the future of our Nation? I shudder. its scary just looking at how grown up they want to be, how they respect nothing and no one anymore, including themselves!

      cruywagen - 2012-03-24 05:50

      Even though what you say is true, do you even know this girl. Don't you think generalization is uncalled for. Just as a mini is not cause for rape, so it is also not cause for any other form of abuse. It is however our responsibility as parents to instill into our children a sense of, value and self respect. Many young girls and boys are left to mall's as a "baby sitting" service and parents are spending less time adding value to their children lives and more money to pacify them. Lets me truthful and admit where the real problem is.

  • Mohsin - 2012-03-23 14:39


  • barbiecoulterzim - 2012-03-23 15:36

    Shame that's so cruel/

  • Leendert - 2012-03-23 15:52

    So why is it that seemingly NO-ONE who viewed the list (llewellyn.saville, eg) had the gumption to take it to the police? Why must it wait until it is too late?

      Jason - 2012-03-23 16:44

      There is nothing anyone can do about it. Same as the false Malema site.

  • Terrence - 2012-03-23 16:46

    slut/sl?t/ Noun: A slovenly or promiscuous woman. How dare they define a word that should not be put on a list. If you are not one and end up on the list, you have nothing to worry about,everyone knows it's a lie. If you are one and are on the list ,you have nothing to worry about everyone knew you were one anyway.

  • Zighom - 2012-03-23 17:09

    What's wrong with being a slut if u want to be? Send a copy of the list pls I wana hosts these babes..

  • konfab - 2012-03-23 18:12

    Unfortunately, this type of thing will happen with or without social networks. There will always be the "list" of people: sluts, nerds, loners, stupid. The only difference is this is now done online where it might be leaked and then culled by parents. This could be seen as marginally better than the grapevine rumor mills of yesteryear, where the person or people who started it will be unknown. It is still disgusting either way...

  • bashin.monyela - 2012-03-23 19:05

    Only b*tchmade cowards do things like this, i marvel at the power some feel when behind a keyboard, smh.

  • marina.poniatowska - 2012-03-23 20:30

    Soort soek soort.

  • esme.jansen - 2012-03-23 21:40

    She tried to commit suicide because she could not live with her guilt. Usually her same liberal parents are suing and hating their partners! My hart goes out to the girl! It is wrong to physical interact with other people if you do not want to be with that person for life. Why? Because we life in a world that is cruel and full off sin and selfish hatred and we should try our best to keep our hope on God and our loved ones. There is nothing out there that is going to support us except our believes.

      Princess - 2012-03-24 17:49

      Omg! What rock have you crawled out under of? First of all, unless you personally know this young girl and her doings with other people, you have zero right to judge her. Secondly,if that is indeed the case and she is already suffering emotionally do you think further slating her on a communal website will make her feel any better about herself. You condemn that her parents may be liberal and once again I put the question forward of whether or not you know them? To judge a young lady who already suffers because of other people's malice is disgusting. I pray your own children never find themselves in this predicament because surely you will have to judge them as severely whether it is fact or not

  • Raj - 2012-03-24 00:37

    My child, my sympathy goes out to you. ONLY YOU KNOW THE PERSON YOU ARE. To all the youth out there, I ask of you to believe in your prayer, religion, your parents, honesty, attitude, dignity, respect, honour, your elders and most importantly in yourself. No peer pressure can penetrate if you believe in yourslef. Cyber bulling should be dealt with the maximum punishment, which is sometimes done for various reasons such as envy, hatred, fun, etc. Each individual is an architect of their own life, TRUST in GOD and design it beautifully. It does not matter what race, religion or age you belong to because one day we will have to stand before GOD and answer for our rights and wrongs in our life on earth. RELIGION, TRADITION and NATURE are our best teachers so pay attention and you will go a long way in life. LASTLY to all those with silly comments, I suggest you keep them to yourselves. To you my child may GOD grant you the strength to overcome this situation and make YOU a stronger person.

  • an0nthinker - 2012-03-24 08:59

    Parents and educators need to remind children that your true friends will stand by you and what other people say is crap. To often we forget to remind our youth that as long as you are a good and honest person, what other people say, doesn't matter.

  • gauta.komane - 2012-03-24 09:34

    Bullying, malicious gossip and harassment in schools is a major national crisis

  • Brian - 2012-03-24 12:21

    If the people condemn others for what they are doing, just cast your mind back and if you can honestly say you are as pure in mind and actions,then it is fair to comment but not condemn. If you had erred in your life what gives you the right to condemn others

  • kseyffert - 2012-03-24 12:52

    My mind boggles... Who in the world is SO BORED they even generate a list like this and then who takes it seriously enough to threaten there own lives... Sorry folks, we have failed our kids! They have no idea what is important in life!

  • mathilde.duplessis - 2012-03-24 15:12

    How sad. Sad that she is insecure enough to attempt suicide, sad that there is such a list, sad that others refer to such lists, sad that hurting another comes easily to some (pity them, they are lost). Sad that people judge so easily. Sad,sad,sad....

  • dmuzondo - 2012-07-13 05:43

    Responsible parents ought to limit their children access to the internet and gadgets &accessories that enable them.

  • Derek Edwards - 2015-04-01 23:55

    how many boys names are on the list. Or is there a "stud" list for them?

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