Wife of family axe killer 'can't forgive'

2012-08-16 08:41

Cape Town - More than 10 years have passed since a Cape Town mom survived a brutal attack by her husband in which their three children were axed to death.

But Debbie Adlington says she will never forgive her husband for dousing their children with petrol and setting the house on fire before shooting himself, reported the Cape Times.

Adlington said she still doesn’t know what made her husband, who was “the best husband and father you could ask for” break the way he did, killing Kevin, 12, Katelyn, 10 and Craig, 9.

Although he had cracked open his wife’s skull and she was in a coma for three weeks, she recovered fully.

Adlington said she became very emotional around her children’s birthdays but now has another child thanks to in-vitro fertilisation.   

But Adlington said she would never marry again because it would be too hard to trust a man again.

“I reckon he was psychotic. He fought in the Rhodesian war. The psychiatrists were all trying to figure out what made him do it.

“But some of my colleagues tell me that many guys who were in the army never recover from it. I never had any reason to feel like I was in danger with him and I was never scared. “

Adlington said she wanted to do motivational speaking to help others find a way out of tragedy.

  • cathy.joubertsouth - 2012-08-16 09:01

    I read Debbie Adlington's book a few years ago and truly admire her strength and determination to carry on living. It is a heartbreaking story and the tears flowed whilst reading her book. I have 5 children and I cannot imagine losing even one of them. All I can say is Debbie is a source of inspiration to me. She is not a victim, she is a survivor and I wish her peace and joy.

  • Happyness - 2012-08-16 09:02

    Debbie if you could forgive you would be a better person than me. I do not expect you to forgive, your feelings are normal and you don't owe him your forgiveness. Stay strong.

  • talana.basson - 2012-08-16 09:03

    if you cant forgive and forget, you wont be able to do motivational speaking. as a surviver yert. people wants hope and not a dont forget and dont trust anyone

      bless.boswell - 2012-08-16 10:00

      Talana, you cannot compell someone to forgive. The fact that Debbie can guide and assist others in dealing with issues and do this acknowledging that she still has difficulty dealing with those issues, will bring about it's own healing. Hats off to her. It's a brave thing to face your monsters every day and not run away from them. Debbie, I admire you.

  • talana.basson - 2012-08-16 09:03

    if you cant forgive and forget, you wont be able to do motivational speaking. as a surviver yert. people wants hope and not a dont forget and dont trust anyone

      dwaynemi - 2012-08-16 09:27

      She is a true example of hope. After all she went through she was still able to bring another miracle into this world and continue to be loving and strong for her daughter! \r\nJust because she does not forgive the monster that destroyed the lives of 3 precious children, does not detract from the hope she exhibits.

  • john.loveland.9 - 2012-08-16 09:06

    I wouldn't forgive him either....

  • charlie.vanbergen - 2012-08-16 09:19

    I can't even begin to understand what she's been through, but I know two things: forgiving without the Lord Jesus Christ who is the ultimate Forgiver, is not possible and *not* forgiving, is like drinking poison and hoping the other person will die. Forgiveness benefits the forgiver more than the forgiven. Praying for you Debbie.

      wendy.webb.980 - 2012-08-16 09:32

      Inhlazi - from the Lord's Prayer - forgive us AS WE FORGIVE.

      JManAtheoi - 2012-08-16 11:18

      What a load of t*ss.

  • grant.montgomery.5074 - 2012-08-16 10:42

    I don't believe having been in the army had anything to do with it, I like many thousands others served in the Rhodesian army. This is the only case I've heard of. My 3 kids are grown up and my ex never had her skull cracked (although there were times I felt like giving her one ;). Does Debbie know more about why her husband snapped than she prepared to reveal? If Debbie is not prepared to forgive and does not trust anybody enough to marry again then I'm afraid she won't make a good motivational speaker.

  • carolyn.dewrance - 2012-08-16 10:46

    Debbie I don't blame you, I was also in an abusive marriage and will never trust a man in my life again.

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