Woman distraught after ex commits suicide

2012-06-04 12:15

Durban - A Durban woman is said to be deeply upset after her ex-lover, who she was suing for breaking her virginity and a vow to marry her, committed suicide at the Wild Coast Sun.

The Sunday Tribune reported that Umkomaas doctor Kuben Nair, 40, was found hanging in his hotel room on Thursday.

The woman - described only as “an unnamed advocate” - was suing him for R2 million for allegedly “ruining her virginity” and breaking a promise to marry her.

The attorney representing her said the woman was “highly emotional and traumatised”.

Nair, a divorced father of one, apparently denied that he had promised to marry the woman.

Thousands of people, including former patients and friends, came to Nair’s funeral on Saturday where he was remembered as a man who had touched many lives and who had loved helping people.  

  • Loo - 2012-06-04 12:16

    LOL.... WHAT ??? Suing him for breaking her virginity ?????? DAMN

      Loo - 2012-06-04 12:18

      I lost my virginity too .. AND I LOVED IT .. LOL ai

      Kala - 2012-06-04 12:24

      Well at least she still has the box it came in.

      Hoenderma - 2012-06-04 12:26

      If it F**ks, Flies or Floats its going to cost you money gentlemen - please try and remember this lesson...

      dewald.galjaard - 2012-06-04 12:33

      wtf is this?? the jerry springer show???

      msendi - 2012-06-04 12:44

      If he promised that if she let him break her virginity he will marry her and then changed the story after, there was nothing wrong with suing him. A promise is a promise…

      Fussed - 2012-06-04 13:18

      Greed got you fu@#%@k all

      nasheenar - 2012-06-04 14:47

      What next?

      Jacqui - 2012-06-04 14:59

      Msendi, he may have had a rude awakening at what he got.

      i2meleng - 2012-06-04 15:17

      Imagine how many women would sue men for breaking their 'virginity' had this been a successful case.

      Susan - 2012-06-04 17:45

      This is hilarious, at which point did he not promise to marry her....

      GrootWitHaai - 2012-06-04 18:41

      I bet he touched many lives..touched quite a bit.

      andre.ernstzen - 2012-06-05 09:00

      She is suing the Nair LOL

      mike.bester1 - 2012-06-05 10:53

      WTF How bad must this B**ch be, the Dude actually bumped himself off to get away from her . BABE FROM HELL!!

      Thabang - 2012-06-05 11:18

      Can a man also sue a woman for breaking His virginity? :-)

      Sharon - 2012-06-05 19:25

      he wont do that again

      Mark - 2012-06-06 08:36

      She must have been an Indian girl and they think differently to the rest of us when it comes to virginity and marriage.... to them it’s still very sacred and she probably feels dishonoured in the family\community which is why she wanted to sue. The amount is insane though.

      Preshen - 2012-06-06 08:51

      Virginity is not an act of dignity it is a lack of opportunity

  • masiagwala.a.mukololo - 2012-06-04 12:20

    lolest m also gna sue

      Cody - 2012-06-04 14:41

      use you frigging spell check... or maybe just english

      Hallo - 2012-06-05 09:59

      Learn shorthand you dinosaurs.

      indianajohn - 2012-06-05 11:05

      Dinosaurs? So writing proper English makes one a dinosaur. One day when you're big, Hallo, come and try that one again :) It's lazy, pointless, and makes you look like an idiot. It takes no more time to just type properly and much less time to read. Maybe you think it's cool or something, but trust me you just look dumb to the vast majority of people. What's the point anyway? It's not faster to type that rubbish.

      Michaele - 2012-06-05 11:49

      @Syd..The language is virgin to me...

  • Sonja - 2012-06-04 12:21

    Damn. I should have sued! lol

      Rudie - 2012-06-04 12:24

      Was it that bad?

      Loo - 2012-06-04 12:43

      Bwahahaha @ Rudi . .classic mater

      Bomb - 2012-06-05 10:53

      So should he...

  • richard.hipkin - 2012-06-04 12:21

    WTF?? Suing for breaking her virginity?? Now the good doctor killed himself, wow, I hope you feel so wonderful!! RIP Dr. Nair, killed yourself over a vagina.. Eish.

      Fussed - 2012-06-04 13:13

      From one box to another

  • alu.ntsandeni - 2012-06-04 12:27

    Wow, can she sue for that? Is that even allowed? Poor DR, he probably had other issues, I just can't believe he killed himself over that.

  • mike.bester1 - 2012-06-04 12:27

    oooo Koek !

  • lynn.syme.1 - 2012-06-04 12:29

    This is so backward. Are we really in the 21st Century?

      Schmee - 2012-06-05 13:56

      If you look at American society which is apparently ‘first world’ then you will realise that this is the way of the future. Sigh. At least one sector of society will always have work. The rest of us will be penniless while we sue each other for stupid stuff.

  • barry.dogg.fritz - 2012-06-04 12:31

    bwahahaaaa falls on the floor larfing, now i have heard it all,missy it takes 2 to tango ,she must either be a whiner or a dogg , for the poor dude to pull the plug

      barry.dogg.fritz - 2012-06-04 12:59

      According to a local newspaper, the advocate was claiming R1-million for loss of financial benefits which she would have enjoyed had she been married to the doctor; R800000 in damages to her dignity and her giving up her virginity and R200000 in wasted expenses incurred in respect of wedding plans and gifts she had purchased for Nair, blixm but that is lots of moola

      sharon.dreyer - 2012-06-04 13:34

      She sounds like a real gold digger. IF she 'gave' her virginity to him, well then he did not force her and as an adult she should know that it is called free will.

      Megan - 2012-06-04 14:27

      Gold digger is exactly what she is, and since she demanded that it be paid for, well then it makes her nothing more than a high class prostitute... Wonder if she ever thought about that. On top of that, one would have thought that "The woman - described only as “an unnamed advocate”" would understand that this country's court system has FAR MORE IMPORTANT things to worry about than some stupid woman crying about her virginity. I really wish they would publish exactly WHO she is so that every other well off man in this country knows to steer well clear of this complete social lunatic.

      Jacqui - 2012-06-04 15:01

      Barry, she sure kept accounts. Wonder how long the 'eruption' lasted.

      Susan - 2012-06-04 17:48

      she is uneducated, trying to hook a man...

  • Vic - 2012-06-04 12:33

    Could have refused until they were married. "Too Late," she cried!

  • Maria - 2012-06-04 12:35

    Durbanites are expensive darling, you play you pay - that's the LAW!!!

      Bomb - 2012-06-05 10:54

      In other words they are prost.....!!!

  • faerrab - 2012-06-04 12:40

    Lots of Suicides taking place amongst the South Indian community in SA - Usually over women and money matters - Sad

  • Nyiks11 - 2012-06-04 12:46

    this is more like giving a loan to a passing stranger , you will never get your money back

  • farmfreund - 2012-06-04 12:49

    Ja gelukkig het sy nog die dosie waarin dit verpak was

      Nel - 2012-06-04 22:06

      Oh my soul this is funny. Fakkit, ek het nou lekker gelag.

      Bomb - 2012-06-05 10:55


  • Michael - 2012-06-04 12:52

    What an equally sick woman,I understand religion comes to play in this story AGAIN...damn religion but come on honey I hope now you know how daft you can be to have to sue someone for a natural happening..I condone on the condition that youll marry me....Woman holding their vagina's at ransom deserve a fat slap

      jenelda.naicker - 2012-06-04 22:05

      Couldn't agree with you more!!no1 seems to worry wat our family is going threw or how it effects his child! Greed is a bad thing! I wonder If she can sleep at night knowing our family is going threw a tough time!!

  • morati.maropola - 2012-06-04 12:53

    You should be happy at this moment now that he is no longer breathing

  • lynn.syme.1 - 2012-06-04 13:01

    It's the oldest pick up line in history and stupid women still fall for it. This woman absolves herself of all responsibility and accountability for her actions. There are consequences for every action. She may learn that lesson now.

  • Lauden Kirk - 2012-06-04 13:13

    Money the root of all evil.

      napolita.kio - 2012-06-04 13:18

      Lauden, I think it's more a case of some people in their failure to deal with money (be it lack, having, trying to get more) turn evil. Money itself is not the problem.

      Trevor - 2012-06-05 08:38

      Got it wrong kid, the love of money is the root of all evil

  • DayanGovender - 2012-06-04 13:26

    Seriously - did this pathetic story make the news - The lady should get over herself - as an advocate show your level of intelligence - you should have seen this coming a mile away and the guy just wasted his life and left a child fatherless. I just cannot find any sympathy for this story!

      Tamishka - 2012-06-05 10:49

      It just goes to show that she may acquired intelligence but does she have intellect..........

  • keith.ngobeni - 2012-06-04 13:28

    I didn't know that it can cost a man an amount of R2million to break a woman's virginity, ja ne the cost of living has really gone up in south africa if sex has got a whooping price tag of R2million on it what about other items such as property,cars,clothes and food groceries, God have mercy on us please.

  • John - 2012-06-04 13:31

    Only an advocate or lawyer....

  • avanwyk2 - 2012-06-04 13:34

    Her greed resulted in his suicide. Take the consequences....or is she only sad since she won't get her money

  • frans.vanderpoll - 2012-06-04 13:51

    Was this girl raped? No! So why the hoo-ha over the lost of her virginity. Consenting adults!! It was nice while it lasted - may just as well admit it.

      Nolitha - 2012-06-04 15:34

      Woman study

  • Gcwabe.KaMavovo - 2012-06-04 13:51

    She just lost out on a possible R2million, off-course she'll be distraught.

  • Jon - 2012-06-04 14:00

    i quite like the last sentence "he touched many lives" it seems he touched other parts as well

      Deon - 2012-06-04 14:10

      Probably 1 too many.

  • ludlowdj - 2012-06-04 14:14

    Haven't heard that one in a while, no wonder intelligent men never marry, its all about money now days.

  • Adam - 2012-06-04 14:20

    A Bit emotionally unstable if u ask me.....

  • tracy.nolte.5 - 2012-06-04 14:49

    would have cost less if she went and had an op to become a virgin again.. now the poor guy is dead. guess there is no price on greed

  • Jacqui - 2012-06-04 14:58

    Ruining her virginity? All that after a wild night?. Unnamed advocate and all. Bet you all she wanted was money after he dumped her.

  • Nyiks11 - 2012-06-04 15:03

    I wonder if she stayed for breakfast and then asked for taxi money

      nimrod.mqonqo - 2012-06-04 16:28

      Reminds me of smthng @ the goodman,s gallery

      Nyiks11 - 2012-06-05 08:09

      the goodman that's hard to find or the hardman that's good if he's found ?

  • eric.martinsich - 2012-06-04 15:22

    Not enough meat to this story.Did she start the claim after he died or before?? Some advocates will go to any lengths to make money. Well, she will have to claim from his estate now.

      Emille - 2012-06-05 13:44

      And steal from his child's iheritance.

  • comurray - 2012-06-04 15:36

    His parents should counter sue her for causing him to commit suicide.An amount of 5 million should be a reasonable figure.

  • thamsanqa.tantiso - 2012-06-04 15:37

    Damn her virginity is expensive R2million...... i wonder how long did their session lasted

      Nicolaas - 2012-06-05 23:52

      @Thamsanga, Read between the lines, she know he had money, ok, i break me in, you marry me. You do not, I accuse you or rape, destroying your good name and I sue you for a cool million, no wonder the guy decided to end it all!

  • muofhe.mutelemutobvu - 2012-06-04 15:46

    damn her.what if she is the one who was unfaithfull 2 him thinking dat if he dumps her she's still gonna sue him R2 million n poor man decided 2 dump her.she is a disgrace........

  • Willem - 2012-06-04 15:53

    So now there is no money, something to be distraught about.

      grace.andtruth.77 - 2012-06-04 17:18

      Hahaha... No money and no virginity! How WILL she survive?

  • mimi.ngqulana - 2012-06-04 16:02

    does she know that viginal rejuvination opp is now available in SA. Now she not only lost on a get rich quick scheme. The 1 child will suffer and our economy is sure going 2 suffer, his family, his patience and the table must now be reversed. the ex-wife must now sue on behalf of the lost support 4 the minor. There are so many fishes in the river..couldn't she move on n find some1 else instead of hanging on 2 the past...!

  • mogale.maphefo - 2012-06-04 16:49

    Lmao suing R2 million for breaking her virginity? That's some funny ish. People are broke and desperate

  • Ditoa-re - 2012-06-04 17:09

    This advocate is a disgrace, she must be named and shamed, get a life man that thing between your legs is there to be used not to decorate your knees

  • grace.andtruth.77 - 2012-06-04 17:16

    What a load of trash! Is she looking for sympathy because she's no longer a virgin or because her ex lover hung himself? If I had know a virginity was worth R2million, I'd have insured my first lol...

  • Rory Neil Price - 2012-06-04 17:27

    Ruining her "virginity" had they got married, chance were he would not get anymore nookie in any case

  • heiku.staude - 2012-06-04 18:24

    I just came up with the greatest plan ever. Any ladies out there who still possess their virginity go and insure it for 2mil. That's where I come in to play. I discreetly make your virginity go away and you get 2 million rand. Win Win. Call me.

  • Ted - 2012-06-04 20:39

    An advocate who is a virgin? I don't think she is gifted with looks. Its hard to even find an 18 year old who is a virgin! If someone decides to kill themselves rather than marry you, surely u would be distraught!

  • Zahir - 2012-06-05 07:54

    She was highly emotional and traumatised? is this because there will be no R2 million or cos the ex died I think the former one

  • mpho.pink1 - 2012-06-05 09:36

    Really now, no-one can force anyone to love them and I don't believe the man had a gun to this woman's head when they had sex. I hope she feels guilty as hell!

  • george.m.donald1 - 2012-06-05 10:18

    Why is she upset ? Because now she won't get any money from him ?

  • Tamishka - 2012-06-05 10:33

    Tank God she has a conscience........she proabably did not get the bucks but at least she has an inner voice 2 remind her how great being an advocate really is......driving another human to sucide

  • amanda.ntshwanti - 2012-06-05 10:39

    Wow I feel sorry for the kid who is now fatherless , she could have got somebody else who was interested in marrying her the child will never get another father and so many women got married way after they lost their virginity it is not a shame anymore we all went through it life goes on whether you are a virgin or not, such a shame they the doctor killed himself what a loss!

  • Tamishka - 2012-06-05 10:48

    Let da advocates consciousness bring her solace for driving an innocent man to take his life..........just becasue her virginity was scorned

  • jacques.joubert.swart - 2012-06-05 10:50

    Jerry Springer would have a field day with this...

  • mike.bester1 - 2012-06-05 10:52

    WTF How bad must this B**ch be, the Dude actually bumped himself off to get away from her . BABE FROM HELL!!

  • Mtibra - 2012-06-05 11:15

    Poor man