Woman sues after ex calls off wedding

2012-08-02 09:28

Bloemfontein - A Free State woman is suing her ex-fiancé for R250 000 after he broke up with her two days before their wedding.

Volksblad reported that Celeste Steenberg was deeply upset that teacher Ignus Lemmer left her after they had been living together in her house for 18 months.

She was suing her ex-fiancé for wounding her pride, humiliating her and decreasing her chances to marry someone else in the time she had been with him.

She also wanted to be compensated for money spent on organising the wedding, which included booking the venue and reception, the wedding dress and bridesmaid’s outfit as well as money spent on the honeymoon at Umhlanga Rocks - all amounting to over to R100 000.

She also wanted him to pay R50 000 to her in household monies that he never paid while they were together even though he had promised to do so.

In court documents it appeared that the couple had a huge fight over money just two weeks before the wedding.

After the fight, he apparently spent the night at an ex-girlfriend’s house while she slept on the couch.

Lemmer was opposing her action and taken legal steps of his own against Steenberg.  

  • godfrey.legodi1 - 2012-08-02 09:48

    I feel sorry for the woman,but the guy had to cut his losses.\r\nHe would have paid a lot more had he went ahead with the wedding(I think).

      klippies.coke.7 - 2012-08-02 10:43

      The guy seems like a bit of a leecher... sounds like he messed with the wrong woman.

      andre.badenhorst - 2012-08-02 10:49

      No Godfrey, If you reach a stage where you have commited to making a promise in front of God to spend the rest of your life with someone then there should be no doubt!! A pitty things are like this, but there are three sides to a story, his, hers and the truth!!

  • arne.verhoef - 2012-08-02 09:48


  • Squeegee - 2012-08-02 09:50

    A woman scorned.. Just give up and pay buddy, it will hurt less in the long run.

  • marumobongani - 2012-08-02 09:51

    tjo tjo tjo phew thats a first one ladies hope you watching this space

  • nicolas.gombert.16 - 2012-08-02 09:51

    Cheaper than divorce!

      jowza1 - 2012-08-02 10:31

      expensive pomp though

  • iYesssss - 2012-08-02 09:54

    Yes lady - a wake up call. He was too busy having his cake & eating it too, and sadly it sounds like you did as well. Living together removes the responsibility of putting a ring on the finger and saying 'I do'. Never mind that, you were both committing adultery as well.

      jacqueline.engelbrecht.54 - 2012-08-02 10:09

      Please tell me how they were committing adultery? They were in a committed relationship with each other and nowhere does the article mention infidelity or a married 3rd party.

      deon.louw.7505 - 2012-08-02 10:27

      Libratwin, Some people / churches feels living together without marriage is adultery.

      berthram - 2012-08-02 11:17

      Yet again the \church\ says what's wrong or right. It is wrong to sleep together before wedding, wrong to marry/sleep with someone of different colour, wrong to be homosexual, wrong to eat pork, so many more thing wrong than right. Perhaps just lock me in a padded cell with a few mind numbing pills so I can wrong no more...

      andrew.pottow - 2012-08-02 11:36

      Bert, I don't suppose you've noticed how much you can do wrong according to our legal system? Because any religion is as simple as it gets to follow without doing wrong compared to our criminal law! And stop lumping the average religous person together with the extremists and nutjobs out there if you want people to buy into your point of view, just a friendly piece of advice.

      shellerjc.rjc - 2012-08-02 14:02

      Not so true. I was married a long time ago, & it did not last as we realised we were not compatible. BUT I am getting married a second time, and we have been living together for 7 years now - WE KNOW WE ARE COMPATIBLE. He just wanted to be a LEECH & as they say have his cake & eat it too

  • hein.huyser - 2012-08-02 09:55

    Expensive lesson

  • sarah.bouttell - 2012-08-02 09:58

    Shake it off babe. Chances are, you are well rid of him. Legal fees just keep the anger simmering.

      sarah.bouttell - 2012-08-02 10:46

      I have to assume that the clickers of thumbs down on my comment are from divorce attorneys who were rubbing their hands together and placing orders for new porches?

      sarah.bouttell - 2012-08-02 11:48

      Okay fine. I apologise. For the misspelling of "Porsche".

  • hayley.fredericks.9 - 2012-08-02 10:04

    Jerry Jerry Jerry .....

      gary.bloom.967 - 2012-08-02 10:37


  • millionwatts1 - 2012-08-02 10:09

    When do you decide you don't feel this. I think this is more out of humiliation than the money.

  • nazeem.majiet.7 - 2012-08-02 10:16

    She has a case in law to claim her actual loss suffered,expenses ect as well as damages.

  • Enid Molebatsi - 2012-08-02 10:19

    give that woman a Bells......

  • afrikeni - 2012-08-02 10:25

    How may men feel fulfilled and not boxed in a marriage? If it were not to conform to society norm and religous teachings - will guys participate in marriage by free will? I just always wonder.

      samora77 - 2012-08-02 11:00

      Contrary to popular belief, marriage can be the best decision a couple can make. Provided, of course, the decision is theirs and theirs alone. I've been happily married for 5 years now and I wouldn't have it any other way.\r\nP.S. I'm a hot-blooded male, by the way :-)

      lynn.syme.1 - 2012-08-02 14:22

      The same could be asked about women too. Why do you feel that only men experience this?

  • nixstix - 2012-08-02 10:34

    It's a pity that this had to make national news. I know the guy and I am well aware of the fact that there are always two sides to every story, but I believe that both are better off without the other. It's just such a shame that she had to go public - really classy.

      hayley.fredericks.9 - 2012-08-02 10:59

      It was also real manly of your friend to dump her 2 days before their wedding and think he can get away it. He sounds like a real sponger and I am sure his ex will look after him until he has had enough of her too or she has enough of his sponging!

      nixstix - 2012-08-02 11:11

      hehe luckily I'm not the ex. And he's not my friend. Just don't think it's classy to air dirty laundry, whatever happened and whoever it is.

      shellerjc.rjc - 2012-08-02 13:59

      mm You know the guy but his not his friend??? Sniff Sniff - I smell something here - BS

  • Gichumz - 2012-08-02 10:35

    Jerry jerry jerry jerry!! hahahaha ish happens!!

  • jaco.botha.75 - 2012-08-02 10:46

    Well that ex has to do something right to convince him in one night of something his fiance couldn't do in 18 months.... But I think the guy deserves this, he's a let down for the few good guys that are left...

  • clivegoss - 2012-08-02 10:53

    Fork it !

  • Nyiks11 - 2012-08-02 11:04

    This is what happens in the absence of lobola , he wouldn't have bailed out after making a R50k lobola downpayment .

      Nyiks11 - 2012-08-02 11:23

      eish , that is more like giving a loan to a passing stranger . . .. you'll never get your moola back

      jewel.moyana - 2012-08-02 12:23

      True that we rarely hear of black brothers bailing out! Insurance

  • Hein Van Wyk - 2012-08-02 11:08

    jis epic fail niemand sal nou met haar will trou nie

  • tricia.sutherland1 - 2012-08-02 11:10

    his ex-girlfriend slept on the couch at her own house? lol ... do you think he knew he was engaged or there was going to be a wedding? i'm interested to see the outcome.

  • lizelle.grobbelaarvanzyl - 2012-08-02 11:29

    Good for you Celeste! You should actually put his picture up, so we will know to ignore the parasite. And not fall into the trap!

      sarah.bouttell - 2012-08-02 12:12

      Your comment sparked a thought, so I used the google-iser and found an ACTUAL website called Wow. There are some angry bunnies out there. Send the lawyers in *that* direction.

  • - 2012-08-02 12:03

    R250K is too little. At least the chap didn't kill himself like that Durban chap who was being sued for R2mio for loss of virginity by a 40 lawyer lady.

  • Arnoldus.DuToit - 2012-08-02 12:20

    Great......... What happened to forgive and forget. What's more important, 250K or Happiness?

  • eyesears.handsfeet - 2012-08-02 13:24

    Why did he break it off? When money problems come through the front door, love walks out the back door. My boys will definitely have to have a contract signed in future even before they start dating. That way all will know where they stand. No funnies required!

  • Harold Chisimba - 2012-08-02 13:27

    Oo yes! Sista-Let that moronic fella get lost,Bcoz sweet and true love is waiting for you somewhere and somday.And it can be like you are clinging to this thankless and idiotic fella.

  • tebogo.moche.3 - 2012-08-02 13:37

    What's the moral of this story? Make sure your partner is your Dual Income-partner!

  • tebalob - 2012-08-02 13:56

    "decreasing her chances to marry someone else in the time she had been with him." really? who?

  • tebalob - 2012-08-02 14:00

    "left her after they had been living together in her house for 18 months." who would buy a cow when he has milk delivered to hisbed..sorry door!!!!!kwakwakwakwa

  • sekwati.robinson - 2012-08-02 14:55

    lol women....

  • yolande.rwaai - 2012-08-02 15:36

    Sometimes the greatest favour a person can do for you is leave you. Trust me, you dodged a bullet. #Toxic Relationships

  • Vickela Mumby - 2012-08-03 06:02

    Hell hath no fury!

  • siyabonga.dacosta - 2012-08-03 06:04

    I wonder who proposed to who....

  • rebecca.maila - 2012-11-08 13:33

    i thought the groom is the one paying for the wedding dress?things have changed dis days, ke tsona di 50/50 naa?LKK

  • Catherine - 2012-11-09 11:52

    Sue the bastard> I know what this is like

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