If you want to be blessed you might consider praying to God for a blessing because blessers or sugar daddies aren’t just about sprinkling a lavish lifestyle over your life. HOW THE BLESSEE LIFE DESTROYED HERThis is all so familiar for former model and ‘blessee’, Jackie Phamotse who survived rape, depression, emotional and mental abuse at the hands of a ‘blesser’. Today, she is the brand strategist for energy drink, Mofaya and a published author. Her new book titled BARE she shares how she was trapped in the hands of a powerful and rich man who gave her access to the life of luxury but destroyed her emotionally and mentally. “I was trapped and at times I would not know how to leave because leaving him meant that I was going to lose everything he gave me,” she says. SHARING HER STORY WITH YOUNG GIRLSJackie has dedicated her book to the late Karabo Mokoena who was allegedly suffered abuse from her boyfriend and as a result ended up dead. “All I want is to share my story with young girls because many of them are trapped in abusive relationships at the expense of luxurious lifestyles,” she says. She says not only are young girls supposed to read the book but that parents should also read so that they get a better perspective of the pressures girls go through. “Many parents would be shocked to find out what they children are pressured into and they need to start having conversations with their children,” she says. BLESSERS ARE NOT WHAT THEY PORTRAYThe book has been received a nod of approval from South Africa’s prominent people such as a man who has raised his hand for the presidency, Dr Matthews Phosa who said: “The future of our literature is in the book.” According to Jackie while ‘blessers’ might on the surface look like powerful and confident and loving men they are the opposite. “They are possessive, socially awkward, they have low self-esteems and have sexual problems,” she says.