Pretoria - As the family, friends and colleagues of TV personality Hope Zinde battle to come to terms with her death, those who knew her have called for a war to be waged on drugs."I beg of you, let this death not be an accident but a lesson for all of us to learn and hold each other's hands to deal with this monster. The drug problem in South Africa is extremely serious," friend and radio personality Chriselda Dudumashe told mourners during a memorial service."As we go by our business, I urge you to reflect on how we have failed Warona and his mother. I want to use this tragedy to reflect on the bigger picture. The biggest monster is the availability of the drugs and the inability of our laws on drug trafficking. That is where we need to begin."Dudumashe was among a number of speakers during the memorial service of Zinde, held in Pretoria on Friday, who called for something to be done about the use and availability of drugs in communities. She spoke of how society had failed Zinde and her 23-year-old son Warona Mark Zinde, who has been arrested in connection with the murder."When we accept what is, we begin the process to heal. For as long as we call a spade a digging tool, we are not there yet. The family is aggrieved and it's aggrieved by something that you and I as society have embraced. We have failed Hope and Warona. We did this," she said.Dudumashe added that apart from being silent on the issue of drugs in communities, people have made it difficult for those faced by challenges to seek assistance due to their judgemental nature. She said Zinde could not turn to people to ask for help with the problem she faced because people tended to turn into "Judge Judy, Judge Masipa, Judge Moseneke".Fear of judgement"A child is raised by a village. Where was the village when what we call a single parent was struggling with a challenge that has gotten into many homes? I become so emotional because I ask myself what kind of a friend am I that when my friend is in pain she can't pick up the phone and say I'm troubled? As a relative I ask myself what kind of a relative am I that my relative would suffer alone? They fear the judgement, they fear the gossip and they fear the labels," she said.Warona was arrested last week in connection with his mother's death. Drugs were also allegedly found in his possession. Zinde's body was found on Saturday in the boot of her Range Rover after a family friend went looking for her.The friend allegedly saw Warona peeping through the curtains of their home at the estate.According to police reports, the family friend had tried unsuccessfully since Wednesday to make contact with him, but he had refused to open the door.He only opened the door when the police arrived. They then noticed bloody marks leading from the bathroom to the garage.Dudumashe said reports indicated that Zinde was in the process of having her son rehabilitated. "These people are supplying something that we have associated ourselves with. If there was no demand there wouldn't be a supplier. We live at a time where drugs are just a door away... You and I may look at this addiction and say our children are naughty but who started it all and what is their bigger agenda? Could it be that our country ends up being ungovernable because we have children who are ungovernable? Could it be a strategy to kill future leaders? Are we paying attention though or are we stuck with gossip?"(Karabo Ngoepe, News24)Support William Tsitsi, a friend who went to school with Zinde, echoed the sentiments and said law enforcement authorities had to show society what they do with the drugs that they confiscate.He said as painful as it was to speak about the issue, it was important to open up the wound and clean it properly to ensure that it doesn’t happen again.Velile Ramphele, a neighbour at Pecanwood Estate who was part of the group of people who discovered Zinde's body, agreed with the other speakers and called on people to support Warona. He said Warona was a victim of a scourge ravaging the country."We must do away with drugs. I'm confident that we can fight the drugs. We must stand up as a nation to fight this. Let us not judge him, he needs our help. We are going to clean Pecanwood and rid it of this thing," he said. Dudumashe also emphasised the importance of supporting Warona. She said his silence was a plea for assistance and he needed assurance that if he spoke out about those supplying the drugs, he would be protected. She also called on family and friends not to isolate him."It's sad that the Zinde family had to lose a loved in order for us to learn lessons and address a societal ill," she said.