I still can't believe he is gone - mom of cop killed in crash

2015-11-13 08:33
Margaret Dibete cries after laying some flowers at the wall of remembrance. (Photos by Mpho Raborife, News24)

Margaret Dibete cries after laying some flowers at the wall of remembrance. (Photos by Mpho Raborife, News24)

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Johannesburg - Margaret Dibete is finding it difficult to accept that her first born son is no longer alive.

Almost five months later, her voice still cracks and traces of tears threaten to fill her eyes as she recalls the day an officer told her that her son, Constable Elias Thabo Dibete, died while on patrol on June 16.

"I had visited him in Bramfischerville on a Saturday, he gave me a very warm welcome.

"He cooked for me and we sat in the house and spent time together, then went to bed. The following day on Sunday we had lunch together when he got back from work.

"What hurt me was that on Tuesday an officer woke me and told me Elias had died. I couldn't believe what I was hearing because I was just with him that Saturday and Sunday. I did not believe it, even now I don't believe that my son is gone because I was just with him."

She said during her visit that weekend, the two had discussed a family trip they planned to take in August.

"We had planned to go back home to Limpopo in August to go see our extended family. We were going to perform a cleansing ceremony for my aunt."

She called for an end to cop killings, saying those who were killing officers, were killing their country.

"The nation needs to remember that police officers are here to protect the country, they must not kill them. They should not do it because they are killing the country."

Elias, who was stationed at the Roodepoort police station, was killed by a drunken driver who had skipped a traffic light. Blood tests revealed that the man had drugs and alcohol in his system. Margaret said the man was currently out on bail of R5 000.

"He crashed into them and drove them off the road, the car then crashed into a wall and my son was killed instantly. My son died a horrible death."

Commemoration service

(Suraya and Treveshan Naidoo)

The Gauteng SAPS held a commemoration service for officers who had been killed in car accidents since last year.

During the event, as the Gauteng choir sang a sombre hymn, Suraya Naidoo wiped tears from her face as she looked at the choir then down at her hands, and her 9-year-old son Treveshan who was by her side.

Her husband Detective Trevor Naidoo was killed in February this year in a car accident. The 38-year-old was based in Orange Farm.

The couple had been together for 11 years, and Suraya said although she believed she was coping with what had happened, she still missed her husband.

"We're getting there. It's a bit of a challenge, considering that he was... very close to his son. We're just taking it one day at a time."

The couple had been married for 11 years but knew each other for 18.

He had always dreamed of being an officer and she was proud of the man he had become.

"I was so scared of him wanting to become a police officer, I tried so many times to get him into an office, desk job and he always told me 'No, my passion is people, this is my dream job'.

"I am absolutely proud of my husband. He loved doing his job."

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