Gang-rape victim's boyfriend speaks out

2013-01-04 21:05

New Delhi - The boyfriend of a 23-year-old woman who died after a brutal gang rape on a New Delhi bus spoke out on Friday for the first time about the savage attack that has sparked protests across the nation and his own trauma over his inability to save her.

The 28-year-old man, who suffered a fractured leg and other injuries in the attack, has been deeply traumatised and is currently at his parents' home in rural northern India where he is taking time out from his job at a software firm in New Delhi.

"What can I say? The cruelty I saw should not be seen ever. I tried to fight against the men but later I begged them again and again to leave her," he said in an interview by phone from Gorakhpur, a town in Uttar Pradesh state.

On 16 December, the couple had been out to watch a movie and decided to get into a private bus when several rickshaws had refused to drive them back to the victim's home in a New Delhi suburb.

Once in the bus, he was attacked and his girlfriend was gang-raped by six allegedly drunk men, including the driver, who also violated her with an iron bar causing immense internal damage that would lead to her death last weekend.


The horrifying crime has appalled India and brought simmering anger about widespread crime against women to the boil amid angry calls for better protection by police and changed social attitudes.

The boyfriend, who asked not to be named, also recounted how passersby had failed to come to their rescue after they were thrown out of the moving vehicle at the end of their nearly hour-long ordeal.

He was also critical of police for failing to be sensitive to his and his girlfriend's mental condition and also raised questions about the emergency care given in the public hospital where she was admitted.

"A passerby found us [after the attack], but he did not even give my friend his jacket. We waited for the police to come and save us," he said.

The police have since arrested six suspects for the crime - five men and a minor believed to be aged 17 - who were charged with murder, rape and kidnapping in a city court on Thursday.

"I was not very confident about getting into the bus but my friend was running late, so we got into it. This was the biggest mistake I made and after that everything went out of control."

The driver of the bus then made lewd remarks and his accomplices joined him "to taunt" the couple, the boyfriend said.

Mental trauma

He said he told the driver to stop the bus, but by then his accomplices had locked the two doors.

"They hit me with a small stick and dragged my friend to a seat near the driver's cabin."

After that the "driver and the other men raped my friend and hit her in the worst possible ways in the most private parts of her body".

"I cannot tell you what I feel when I think of it. I shiver in pain," he said.

He said the police who came to their rescue took his girlfriend to a government hospital, but failed to take into account his injuries and mental trauma.

"I was treated like an object by the police.... They wanted all the help to solve the case even before getting me the right treatment. Nobody witnessed the trauma I suffered," he said.

  • ian.robertreid - 2013-01-04 21:14

    Let us see wat the Indians r made of ~ come 2the party and execute these savage sick dogs??

      Kwena Seema - 2013-01-04 21:43

      i,m so sorry for that, which the law takes its cause en punish the culprits so hard

  • douglas.hollis.7 - 2013-01-04 22:06

    What unbelievable, debilitating trauma this guy must have suffered. It will stay with him for the rest of his life. Death to these animals, as long as it's slow and painful.

      sudika.harkhu - 2013-01-04 22:23

      poor guy was going to marry her in february.

  • rollingstone.kanyane - 2013-01-04 22:06

    very sad experiance in deed. This world is slowly decaying no wonder the climate changing

  • gavin.taylor.79 - 2013-01-04 22:16

    The whole world has been outraged by this event. The Indian people have marched, protested and demanded action by their govt. The govt itself has voiced their concerns and promised a change to the law. The story has made its way and received huge coverage all over the civilised world. Petitions have been drawn up and circulated via facebook, e-mail and other electronic media. SUCH IS THE HORROR OF THIS TYPE OF CRIME. Yet in SA, it happens all the time. Very often to babies and little children. The president remains silent, the govt does nothing .... and the people shake their heads and wait for the next one.

      ricardodacosta - 2013-01-04 23:06

      The president has been accused of rape and it was thrown out of court. Rural African men feel that it is an invitation to sex if a woman dresses scantily. Rural African men institute 'corrective rape' on those women suspected of being lesbian. To rural Africa, rape is not an issue. To me this crime is worse than death as one lives with the mental scarring. In India a woman is raped every 20 minutes, in South Africa that happens every 36 seconds according to SAPS. But yeah, government does nothing noticeable.

      lerise.reddy.1 - 2013-01-06 13:26

      That is so true it happend in S.A to so many people and yet no one cares...!!they need to wake up! do something about this and make a change!!!!

  • delish7564 - 2013-01-04 23:23

    Appalling!! To have suffered that and not been able to help his girlfriend must have been horrific, but to then not receive medical help straight and finally to lose her.........I'm lost for words, how does one recover from that? I hope he gets justice for himself but particularly for his girlfriend, what a pity SA can't seem to learn from this dreadful case :(

  • Dumblabrat - 2013-01-04 23:28

    Tragic! Nobody should ever have to experience that.

  • justin.b.whittaker - 2013-01-05 00:32

    This sickens me..castrait them and then shove a pipe up their backside...but make sure it comes out by their mouth!

  • dodo.c.pilkington - 2013-01-05 04:27

    The trauma this man is going through must be indescribable. My heart goes out to hi He has suffered a loss that few can understand A crime like rape destroys so may lives, and yet because it is such a common, people are loathe to express their outrage. Add to this the way his girlfriend was brutalised, and one begins to understand that all who loved her will never be the same again. Thank God that this caused such an uproar in India. For it to never have happened would have been best, but it is time that brutality in all its forms is ended. I know that nothing will ease the pain of what happened, but at least the life of lady involved will count for something great if the world (and India in particular) change their perceptions of the value of women in general. I pray that the boyfriend will find a small measure of comfort in knowing that!

  • Ebrahim Rosh - 2013-01-05 07:02

    they must be tortured pigs , then hang them , pigs i hate u

  • delahvonne - 2013-01-05 14:42

    It is getting worse, rapists and peadophiles should be made public together with their addresses!

  • fort.horseman.7 - 2013-01-05 21:16

    The only way to counter brutality of this nature is with severe brutality!

  • fort.horseman.7 - 2013-01-05 21:19

    No Mercy!!!

  • tim.mthimkhulu - 2013-01-07 12:35

    just cut their dicks

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