A mom’s story: My child has spina bifida

By admin
23 September 2014

A West Rand mother talks about the “angel child” she wouldn’t abort.

Candace Coetzee was three months pregnant when her doctor advised her to end her pregnancy because her unborn child had spina bifida, a congenital disorder in which the spinal column doesn’t close all the way, resulting in physical disabilities and brain damage.

But Candace, a single mom of Krugersdorp on the West Rand, immediately knew an abortion wasn’t an option. “Chloé is my angel child. She’s paralysed from her hips down and manages with a wheelchair,” Candace says proudly.

Her daughter, who’s now five years old, also has hydrocephalus, or water on the brain, and has the intellect of a two-year-old but she’s not in the slightest bit self-conscious, Candace says.

“She’s mad about Afrikaans music and is Gerhard Steyn’s biggest fan.”

Still, Chloé knows she’s “different” and this frustrates her. “She hates her wheelchair and wants me to carry her everywhere, which takes its toll physically when you’re a single mom,” Candace says. “But when she gives me her innocent smile or I see how protective she is of her granddad it makes it all worthwhile.”

Candace’s advice to parents with disabled children who feel overwhelmed by everything is to “take a break and sit outside for a bit” before carrying on.

-Mieke Vlok

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