Mom pens apology to her husband after having a baby


"I’m not the person I used to be. I’m not the bride you married. I know I’m not fun any more and that's what worries me."

When a child is brought into the world it's almost a sure thing that the relationship between husband and wife will go through a massive change. These changes might leave both parties with little to no time to do the things they used to do.

This is why Joburg-based blogger mom Shaney Vijendranath decided to pen a heart-warming letter to her husband, apologising for neglecting him since having her first child.

The cofounder of You, baby and I  wrote in the letter that their life together isn't what it used to be.

"We used to live life on the edge, party when we wanted to and travel wherever we could – spontaneously. But today everything is different. Our late nights out are early nights in because I’m constantly exhausted.

"We hardly ever go out alone. We never spend enough time together and we don’t communicate the way we used to," she wrote.

She added that their priorities have changed drastically since becoming parents and the intimate moments they used to share are now constantly interrupted by cries and dirty nappy changes.

"My hair is always a mess and my dressing style has changed. I was hoping to wear that little black dress a month after giving birth but that isn’t happening because I still can’t fit into it. I was hoping to look sexy for you tonight so we could rekindle our romance but that isn’t happening because our newborn is irritable and just threw up on me," wrote Shaney.

She then went on to promise her husband that she's still the woman he married and that things won't be like this forever.

"I guess we didn’t realise just how much everything would change. Some for the better while others for the worse (you know what I’m talking about).

"I want you to know that your bride still exists. She just needs time to figure out how to return.

"She needs to gain the confidence she’s lacking at the moment. She needs you to tell her she’s sexy even after having two kids."

In the letter, she continued by reiterating that she appreciates him for never complaining and always being a great father and husband even though she's constantly moody and unavailable.

"I've realised that being a good mom is making me a bad wife but thank you for tolerating it.

"Thank you for loving me even when I’m moody.

"Thank you for calling me pretty on the days I feel ugly," she concluded.

Her husband replied with a letter of his own that she added to her blog.

Having children might bring about a huge lifestyle change – but we think these two have adjusted pretty well.

Sources: You, baby and I

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