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By admin
02 February 2014

No date? No problem! Here’s how to rock flying solo at any event

Why flying solo is the new dating

Spending time alone helps you to figure out what YOU want to do, whether it’s pampering yourself, doing charity work, watching really bad reality TV or reading three books in a row. As Emma Stone says, “You have to stay true to yourself and don’t be afraid even if people say what you’re doing isn’t cool or isn’t right. I promise you, you will not regret it.” Well, if it’s good enough for Emma . . .

At a party

Perk of flying solo: meet new people

You’ve been invited to the party of the year but you’ve got nobody to take. Pull your shoulders back, take a deep breath and walk in like you own the place. Even if you don’t feel that confident, fake it! Mingle with groups you don’t usually socialise with by focusing on what you have in common. Who knows? You might make a fab new group of friends.

At the movies

Perk of flying solo: watch anything you want

You love soppy love stories and your friends like action. There’s no reason to miss out. Who says you can’t go alone? You don’t have to compromise on which movie to watch or where to sit – and best of all you don’t have to share your popcorn!

At a concert

Perk of flying solo: you choose the show

Concerts are a big-budget splurge which most of us reserve for our favourite music artists. So why should you miss out simply because you don’t have a plus one? Make sure you have a fully charged phone and a lift to and from the concert and you’re sorted! It’s also a great place to make new friends since you already have something in common (great taste in music!).

A family wedding

Perk of flying solo: you don’t have to apologise for your embarrassing family

This is the perfect opportunity to mingle with your cuzzies. And give that sister of your gran’s the benefit of the doubt and chat to her – she may not be as boring as you always thought.

The school dance

Perk of flying solo: no awkward date pressure

Instead of dancing with one person all night you get to dance in groups with your besties (hello, coordinated dance moves!). You also have the chance to slow dance with other peeps who arrive solo.

Flying solo

Psychologists Robynne Thomson, Lydia Batchelor and Lilian Lomofsky have some tips on how to fly solo.

Be yourself

It’s important not to compromise your own values or morals in order to fit in. Remember there are many groups where you could find a sense of belonging.

Stop bullying yourself

Stop comparing yourself to your friends. You’ll only end up feeling worse about yourself.

Figure out what YOU want

By developing your interests or hobbies you could find a friend or have a relationship with someone you have something in common with.


- Faiza Mallick

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