Wanted in SA: Real dads

By admin
28 May 2010

Actor Zane Meas, who plays Neville Meintjies on 7de Laan, always puts his family first. He tries to be the best father, he says, because too many children who grow up without dads struggle to cope with life.

‘‘At churches where I give talks women tell me how difficult things are for them on their own. And I see how kids battle to form identities because their fathers aren’t at home.’’

He has been with the Apostolic Faith Mission church in Westbury, Johannesburg, for years and formed the Fatherhood Foundation four years ago – and now his book on how to be a good father is in bookstores around the country.

Daddy, Come Home is a plea for men to return to their rightful place in their families, Zane says. ‘‘Fatherlessness causes devastation; more devastation than HIV. My book gives practical advice and hopefully fathers will find a message in it.’’

He spent five months working on the stories, statistics, quotes and references. ‘‘The book is my opinion. I don’t claim to know everything but I know how big the need is for real men in our country.’’

SA men need a change of attitude, he says. ‘‘There’s this thing of apparently not being allowed to show their emotions. And men should realise even if they’re head of the household your wife doesn’t have to be subservient. On the contrary, you need to serve her.’’

Zane hopes his book will be translated into Afrikaans, Zulu and Sotho. He has also presented a proposal to the SABC for a TV chat show. ‘‘It’s in the style of Dr Phil. I’m very excited about it.’’

Zane was 14 when his father died after a short illness. ‘‘It happened just when I started to become a man,’’ he says. ‘‘I miss him even more now than when I was younger. There are so many things I would have liked to ask him – like how he and my mother made their marriage work.’’

Read the full article in the YOU of 3 June 2010

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