The Bachelorette SA's Aviwe kisses and tells: 'My head went into overdrive'

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Aviwe Mahlaktha on The Bachelorette SA.
Aviwe Mahlaktha on The Bachelorette SA.
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  • Aviwe Mahlaktha didn't think that the first kiss he shared with Qiniso Van Damme on The Bachelorette SA would get the nation talking as much as it has.
  • In this Q&A, we find out more about that much-talked-about moment in the reality show's latest episode.
  • The Bachelorette SA airs Thursdays at 19:30 on M-Net (DStv 101).

Kissing anyone for the first time can be quite nerve-wracking, even more so when it's done on camera and it's going to be seen by the whole of South Africa.

Aviwe Mahlaktha didn't think that a kiss he shared with Qiniso Van Damme on The Bachelorette SA would get the nation talking as much as it has.

On the latest episode of the reality dating show, the 25-year-old radio producer shared his first kiss with Qiniso during the cocktail party.


In this Q&A, we ask Aviwe about the much-talked moment, how he's been handling the social media blow up, and find out more about his connection with the bachelorette.

You and Qinisio have not had a one on one date yet. From the time you spent with her up to this point, did you feel an instant connection with her and feel like it could lead somewhere?

I wouldn't say straight out the gate that there was an instant connection between each other, but as we get to interact with each other from brief moments at a cocktail party to the group dates, there is some sort of connection that has sparked up between us, which I feel can go somewhere. We've had lots of moments of laughter, getting to know one another and also just sharing personal stories.

In the episode, it seems like the men are now creating their own moments to have with her. Did you feel any pressure to create your own moment?

As the days progress and the more time we get to share with Qiniso, we are definitely getting more comfortable with her and showing our individual personalities and traits that could possibly make us stand out from each other. So yes, to show her and myself that I am serious about this, I have to create those moments; now, I don't have much of a game plan other than being my nervous, spontaneous, awkward, funny self, and those are the moments the viewer gets to see.

You gave her your 'piggy bank', which was such a sweet moment. What did you hope she would learn about you from that?

I was hoping that she would learn or know that I am paying attention to everything that she is saying and that I am a very nostalgic, sentimental person.

 Aviwe Mahlaktha and Qiniso Van Damme on The Bache
'I'M ASKING FOR MY ICE-CREAM DATE': Aviwe gives Qiniso his 'piggy bank.'

With more guys getting kisses, did you feel any pressure to make a move?

No, not at all. When it comes to a person's personal space, I always want to make sure that she is comfortable, we're both on the same page and that the moment is just right.

Okay, so let's talk about that kiss. What were you so nervous about? Did you not expect the kiss?

Well, generally, I am an overthinker, and women make me extremely nervous. At that particular moment, there were tell-tale signs that something was going to happen from the moment we sat down, and my head went into overdrive. Once my brain goes into overdrive, and you put a woman and cameras in the mix, I become what we all saw in the episode. I'll be the first to admit that I always laugh at myself more than anybody. We both laughed at how nervous we both were, and that put me at ease, so I was chilled about it.

That kiss was a big talking point on social media; did you expect that it would blow up this much?

Not at all, because there's so much that happens in an episode that I kind of figured it would be a small talking point amongst the social media folks, and then we would move on, but yeah, that definitely wasn't the case.

 Aviwe Mahlaktha and Qiniso Van Damme on The Bache
'I'M SO NERVOUS': Take two of their first kiss.

With the group of men getting smaller in the house, what is the dynamic like, is there a sense of stronger competition, and is it affecting the friendships you are building?

With the numbers getting lesser and lesser, the dynamic has pretty much stayed the same as how it began. The guys have an understanding of what we are all in, and we respect each other to give each other a fair chance at making the most of the time we spend with Qiniso. It is definitely getting more personal between Qiniso and each individual, and that is something none of us has control over.

Watching the show now, is there anything that surprised you in terms of how the other men feel about Qiniso and conversations that you weren't aware of?

No, not really, because we all chilled together in such a close space. The guys were pretty open about most things that transpired between them and Qiniso. In fact, some guys would go as far as sharing a tip or two.

This is also, in a sense, your journey to finding love; what can viewers expect going forward?

From Aviwe, the viewer can expect more awkward and funny moments and genuine conversations and connection building with Qiniso.


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