HOW DO I DECIDE IF ANAL SEX IS FOR ME? Sexologist Juliet Allen says if you are feeling intrigued and keen to give it a go, it does not have to be painful, if that is what you fear. “The important thing is to relax your mind and body. Try this: physically tighten the muscles in your anus by squeezing your butt muscles and then relaxing them.”
Where to start? A finger brushing around the area will get you used to how it feels. If you enjoy that contact and are keen to try something deeper, relax your mind, your muscles, and use plenty of lubricant, as the anus does not produce its own like the vagina does.
“But it’s your body – never feel pressured to do anything that you don’t get pleasure from. And do so without pressure. Anal sex is not for everyone. If you do not enjoy it, or don’t even enjoy the thought of trying it, then that is 100% okay,” Allen says.