‘I snooped through my partner’s things’: Five people tell us the worst things they found

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Although relationship experts caution against snooping on your partner, it’s not at all that uncommon.
Although relationship experts caution against snooping on your partner, it’s not at all that uncommon.
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Talk about an unpleasant discovery! Social media influencer Mihlali Ndamase recently opened up about being cheated on. “When I found makeup on a towel, I called my mother and asked if I should leave or stay,” she wrote in a post.

When she confronted her ex, he suggested it was her make-up before boldly asking her to serve him some dinner – which she did.

“At that point I was weak (blindly in love).”

Mihlali later broke up with the guy and explained she didn’t intentionally rifle through his things but stumbled upon lipstick stains on the mouthwash bottle and make-up on the towel in his bathroom when she visited him.

Although relationship experts caution against snooping on your partner, it’s not at all that uncommon.

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These readers tell DRUM they got more than they bargained for when they went digging for dirt.

“I wasn’t necessarily snooping. My phone broke, so my ex offered to let me use his old phone. I even remember begging him to delete all his stuff so there’s no awkward vibes. When I downloaded WhatsApp on the phone later that evening, my chats were synced with his. I discovered he wasn’t only asking some girl to come over to his place, but he was even telling her how busy I was. I was so hurt,” Zimi tells us.

“I was at my girlfriend’s place after a car accident. I stayed there for about a week,” Melusi says. “During the day, she’d go to work. I got curious about some stuff, so I looked through her closet and found a man’s suit. When I confronted her about it, she told me it was her dad’s, forgetting that on our first date she’d told me her dad left her and her mom long before she was born.”

“I always snoop because if you have nothing to hide, then you shouldn’t mind. I found a woman’s G-string in his sneakers. Couldn’t even confront him, I just broke up with him,” Linda shares.

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Yho! Trust me when I tell you men will lie to you unprovoked! After taking me out on a date, we stopped at a garage for some condoms. When he went in, I looked inside his dashboard and found a wedding ring. When I asked him about it, he said he was going to propose to me. It was a man’s wedding ring – his!” Aphiwe says.

“I’d always go to his house, but he’d tell me not to go upstairs to the guest bedroom because a nurse was taking care of his sick grandmother. This one morning (because I was auditioning to be his makoti) I made breakfast and took it to his grandmother and her carer. Turns out the patient was his wife – he was cheating on his sick wife while she was in the house! I was so appalled by his behaviour. I still hurt for that woman,” Portia says.

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