‘Don’t see the need of a man’- Am I weird?

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Question

 I’m 53 years old and I’ve been in a long-distance relationship with this guy for a while now.

I live in North West and he’s in Limpopo. My kids have left home and I’ve decided I don’t need a man in my life anymore – I like him but sometimes he’s more trouble than he’s worth.

I know that at my age I’m expected to be settled down and in a committed relationship. But I feel like I’m not getting much out of this relationship, and it may just be time to end things.

I know companionship is really important especially in the later years, but I think I’ll do just fine. So maybe I should just buy a sex toy. What do you think?

Answer

There comes a time in one’s life when it’s easy to get fed-up with all the ups and downs that come with being in a relationship. This sort of commitment can sometimes be draining and it can be even more complicated if it’s a long-distance one.

Small challenges become bigger if you’re not living close to each other. But at the end of the day it’s about how much you want the relationship to work.

The choice of whether you should have a man in your life or not is yours. Think carefully about the decision by first looking at the pros and cons of being in a relationship, with this man or any other man. Make your decision wisely so that you don’t end up regretting it.

If having a sex toy rather than a man works for you, then by all means go for it. Just remember it’s not only about sexual satisfaction – a partner also offers emotional support, care and companionship. If you decide not to have someone in your life, put measures in place to fill that space.

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