'I got pregnant at 21 and had to raise my child alone'


I was 21 years old when I fell pregnant. Until then, my life was pretty easy and stress free. But from the moment I discovered I was pregnant, everything changed.

It felt like a constant uphill battle. What didn’t help was that the father of the child wasn’t around to support me.


There was no one to advise me during my pregnancy . I didn’t know what I should do, how to prepare to have a baby, how to be a mother. At the time, I stayed with my brother who only came home at the end of the month for a few days.

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He worked far from where we lived. My mother was in hospital with an illness. My partner, the father of my child, abandoned me. I was often confused and scared. I even considered having an abortion. I wasn’t working. I only had Matric and couldn’t study further.

I decided to put my faith entirely in my heavenly father. I prayed and prayed until I accepted that what is done is done.


I was alone when I went into labour and alone in the ambulance that took me to the nearest hospital. The next day, I had a baby girl. I was so excited, I forgot about the pain and worry from the previous day and the previous months.

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I called the father of the child to tell him she had been born but he wasn’t happy. All he said was ‘ok’ and dropped the call while I was still talking to him.


Our heavenly father helped me to stay strong. I let go of the negative things and what I couldn’t control and focussed on my precious gift – my baby girl. Shortly after her birth, my mother was discharged from hospital. She healed well and looked after my daughter while I looked for a job.

I was lucky to find one within a few weeks, at a restaurant. I worked hard and even though it the hours were long and gruelling, it meant I could send my child to private school.


Looking back, I don’t hate my baby’s father for abandoning us. I’ve learnt to accept that life will always have challenges. But it keeps going. I promised to always try to be the best mother I can possibly be. That’s what matters. No matter what life throws at me.

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