I still have feelings for my ex-boyfriend – how do I get over him?



I’m 29 years old with two kids from different fathers. My second child’s baby daddy dumped me for four months ago when she was five months old. I found out he’d cheated on me and then he decided to pick this new girl over me. He does send money for the baby, but he never asks about her. He puts all these pictures on Facebook of him and his new girlfriend, which makes me feel really bad. I told him I wanted to work things out, but he told me I must go back to my first baby daddy. How do I walk away from him?


You are definitely worth more than the way he is treating you. He has found a new love and is flashing it in your face because he knows you have feelings for him. You should never have asked him to work things out be-because he’d already showed you that he didn’t care about you anymore when he left you and your baby, who was only five months old. It’s good that he’s assisting you financially – at least he’s doing his duty. If he doesn’t want to become emotionally involved with the child, that’s his choice. What you need to do is concentrate on raising your children. Be there for them because they need you in their lives. Forget about him and work on yourself as a person so you can become the kind of mother your children will be proud of. He showed you that he can’t be trusted when he decided to cheat on you and then he chose the other woman over you. This does not mean the end of your life – it is in fact a new beginning. Be kind to yourself.

According to WikiHow you may always have good feelings toward your ex. Breaking up doesn't mean you hate someone. Generally, your feelings of love will start to fade over time, though, and you'll meet new people and move on. In some cases, however, you may not be able to let go of those feelings. If you can't let go of your ex, you can learn how to let him know.

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