I've been a sex worker for three years, while at university. It's allowed me to buy food and clothes and even support my family a bit while studying. But now I'm ready to stop.
The problem is that I don’t think other jobs will bring me enough money, and I don’t have any experience with other kinds of work. I still have one more year at university so what should I do? - DESPERATE STUDENT
MOVE! EXPERT ADVICE
Mandisa Muruge, a counsellor at The Family Life Centre’s Lenasia South Office says: “Having sex with different people for money becomes a bad habit in the long run. It's not easy to stop because you see it as the easiest way to make money.
This can cause you to get deeper and deeper into the industry and by the time you want out, it can seem impossible to do it on your own. You need help to stop doing what you're doing, especially since it's affecting you badly.
You didn't say whether it's affecting you physically, psychologically or when you're having “real” meaningful sex with your partner. Or it is affecting your studies? Whichever way it affects you, you need to stop. You can only stop when you seek help from a professional.
I suggest you talk to a psychologist, a counselling social worker or a counsellor at your university. Remember that when you go for therapy with any of these professionals, you are going to be protected. Everything you divulge about yourself is confidential. Your therapist can't discuss it with the next person. Seek help as soon as possible.”
MOVE! READERS’ ADVISE
MPUMI PRECIOUS SIBANDE
Ask yourself if money is more important than your health. Without your health, you can’t make money. I, for instance, earn a little money and I manage with that. Why? My health comes first, gal. I’m not judging you, but it’s not about the money.
It seems like you might be addicted to what you're doing. You're enjoying the quick money and that can delay you reaching your dreams. Maybe ask yourself where you see yourself in the next five years. This may help you find the answer you're looking for.
You need to detox – mentally, emotionally and physically. If you’re a believer (I’m saying that because not everyone is a Christian), pray and get professional help. Develop healthy habits. Change what you're exposed to – your friends and environment.
PORSHA PORSCHE SMA NCELE
As long as you have a mentality of making quick cash, you won’t get out. You worry that other jobs won’t bring enough money but how much is enough? As long as you're all about money, believe me, whatever we say to advise you won’t work.