I have been in a happy-enough marriage for eight years, but I recently connected with my high school boyfriend on Facebook. He’s single and looking so good – and successful.
He was my first love and I’ve thought of him often, even before he found me on social media. We stay in different provinces, but he wants me to visit him for a weekend to catch up.
He says he will even pay for the plane ticket. I would like to go to get closure on the fact that we lost contact after high school. If I don’t, I worry I will regret it? YOLO, right? CONFUSED, EMAIL
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“I have heard of many high school sweethearts who have lost touch,” says Gladys Pule, a registered nurse specialising in nursing science, midwifery, community health and psychiatry.
“Some have moved on with their lives, got married to other people, went through a divorce, and then they found each other and were happily married. “But I am not sure if this could be the case with you and your high school sweetheart.
“What brings a dilemma in this situation is that you are married and he is not. “If you visit him for the weekend and find yourself in bed with him, you would have been unfaithful to your husband. He is single and not committing adultery.
“You stand a chance of destroying your happy-enough marriage for something you are not even sure of. “My advice is, don’t do it. Close the chapter, stop the communication completely, and enjoy your marriage.
DRUM READERS ADVISE
NANDIPHA EVANGELIST GXEGXE
No, don’t go there. Wondering how life would have been if you didn’t lose contact or part ways is natural, but don’t let that deceive you. You will lose the best in your life right now. And what will he lose? Nothing.
Be honest about your reason to see this ex. It could be that you’re not as happy as you claim to be. Why would you want leave your “happy” home to go and look for closure? When you got married, that was your closure.
Watch out or you might just end up losing both your husband and this new man. I suspect this is a hit and run. Once you dance to his tune it’s obvious you will do the same while you are with him. Passop.
REMBU RAY SEMATA
You could lose a diamond while collecting stones. He is just lusting after you and once he gets a chance to sleep with you, that’s when you will understand that a town can be so beautiful from far. Block that person.